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Anti-sociality...
Yet another requested entry on the AfterStuff! Yay! This one is on Shyness... Or general anti-sociality. Before I begin, I'd like to let my readers know that I don't know much about being anti-social. This could, potentially, have a negative effect on the insightfulness of my advice.
So, if you know that you have trouble introducing yourself to others, and you can't bring yourself to talk to new people, then try putting yourself in a place where people actively try to meet other people. A good church, or maybe a small club of some sort in your school would be great. If you've got some spare time, you might like to join a friendly volunteer group. There, they'll likely come to you instead of requiring you to talk to them first. From there, just talk to them. After meeting the person, you should have just a little less trouble talking to them later on. This'll help you get used to meeting new people, and making new friends. While you're still making friends in the place where people actively seek out new people, start socializing elsewhere as well, so that you don't get reliant on the extra-sociality of people there. Soon, you'll be able to make friends pretty easily, and you'll have plenty of friends already. Now, there are many different things anti-sociality can come from, so I'll acknowledge another, now.
If the problem you have is that you judge other people before you get to know them, you are a victim of Label-reading (or maybe even Label-making)... Take a quick look at the Labels entry if you've got the time. If you're suffering from low self-esteem, look at your strengths, before you look at your weaknesses. After looking at your weaknesses, consider how you stack up to what you already know about the person you're judging. If you looked down to them before, then this should help balance that out a little bit. Also take into consideration that since you don't really know them, they've probably got many skills that you don't know about. They could have a wonderful moral compass, they could give great advice, they could even, perhaps, be good at bowling! *Gasp*... I've only been bowling twice in my life, getting an average of about twelve gutterballs per game, and a score of 43 average... So being good at bowling seems a little bit impossible to me. Hehe... Anyway, when you've gotten your perception of them about right, go talk to them. It could be a little difficult, but you've got to do it. After talking to them for a while, it'll be easier to talk to them later, so long as the first talking proves that they're just not the kind of person you want to be friends with. Keep going on to other people, make some friends, do some talking. I... just ran out of stuff to say here. I apologize if this wasn't as insightful as some of my previous entries... I tried. ^^
Binjiii, Crystal, just let me know if this didn't help. I'll fix it.
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