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First Date?</center>
Thinking about it, I've successfully managed to avoid the whole dating thing by meeting guys while I'm out and then just bumping into them repeatedly until we finally get together. Good plan.
Now due to a party-funding hiccup in my financial situation I'm actually having to arrange "dates".
Dear God what a nightmare! I'm starting to realise what's really involved.
From my first impressions it didn't seem that difficult.
dating in theory
Step 1 - meet potential date
Step 2 - chat
Step 3 - swap phone numbers
Step 4 - call up 3 days later and arrange date
Step 4 - go on date
Step 2 - chat
Step 3 - swap phone numbers
Step 4 - call up 3 days later and arrange date
Step 4 - go on date
Oh if only life were that simple!
The flirting, now that I have no problem with, I'm quite good at it, however, I'm quite good at it in a joking kind of way! I don't take myself too seriously and I have no idea when a guy is actually flirting with me because he's really interested. This makes the swapping numbers bit highly embarassing.
Then there's the actual calling. How soon is too soon to call. I mean, you don't want to look desperate do you? But you can't leave it too long incase they forget who you are or someone else gets there first! I've been reliably informed that three days is acceptable.
Then there's the panic just before you text, what if they don't remember you, what if they don't reply, what if they show the text to all their mates and have a bloody good laugh at the desperate old cow trying to get a date?
Panic over, text sent, too late now. Then we enter the wait for the reply. Torture.
Then when and if the reply comes we have the days of nerves leading up to the actual event! What to wear, where to go, how to behave.
And this is all BEFORE you even get there!
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So that's how it feels!</center>
As with everything else I've investigated over the last few months in this journal I've realised that guys and girls take a TOTALLY different approach to the whole dating game!
It was only to be expected really. I haven't read the book "men are from mars, women are from venus" but I'm getting a pretty good idea what it might be about. I've also come to the conclusion that, for one, it is potentially the most important book ever written and I MUST buy a copy, and secondly, that whoever wrote it must have been on countless dates.
I've decided to try and break down the whole boy vs girl views on arranging a date and see if I can't work out why it is that I'm making such a mess of it all!
girl arranging a date
Saturday - go out with mates, meet potential date, chat, flirt, swap phone numbers.
Sunday - call friends and discuss potential date, check he wasn't a minger/freak/perv/potential stalker, begin rough draft of text message to send on tuesday.
Monday - go for coffee with friends and discuss draft of text message, buy new outfit to wear on date, update text draft if neccessary.
Tuesday - Go to hairdressers, buy new lipstick, send text message, go for coffee with friends to discuss why he didn't reply to aforementioned text instantly.
Wednesday - spend whole day crying and cursing mankind as still no reply to text message.
Thursday - go for coffee and CAKE with mates to cheer self up, discuss why all men are bastards
Friday - plan girls night in to get over evil potential date who hasn't bothered to call or text.
Saturday - Cancel girls night in as potential date has replied, get ready, panic, get changed, call friends for morale boost, get changed again, turn up fashionably late, wait for date to arrive.
Sunday - call friends and discuss potential date, check he wasn't a minger/freak/perv/potential stalker, begin rough draft of text message to send on tuesday.
Monday - go for coffee with friends and discuss draft of text message, buy new outfit to wear on date, update text draft if neccessary.
Tuesday - Go to hairdressers, buy new lipstick, send text message, go for coffee with friends to discuss why he didn't reply to aforementioned text instantly.
Wednesday - spend whole day crying and cursing mankind as still no reply to text message.
Thursday - go for coffee and CAKE with mates to cheer self up, discuss why all men are bastards
Friday - plan girls night in to get over evil potential date who hasn't bothered to call or text.
Saturday - Cancel girls night in as potential date has replied, get ready, panic, get changed, call friends for morale boost, get changed again, turn up fashionably late, wait for date to arrive.
boy arranging a date
Saturday - go out with mates, meet potential date, drink, flirt, drink some more, swap phone numbers, drink
Sunday - Sleep all day because of hangover, watch football
Monday - meet mates in pub to try and fill in blanks from Saturday
Tuesday - receive text from random girl, spend 10 minutes racking brains trying to remember what she looked like, check with mates, drink, forget about text
Wednesday - collect laundry from mum
Thursday - remember text message
Friday - Go to pub with mates, drink, remember text message, drink, drink, think "oh what the heck!" reply to text at 1am after night on the town.
Saturday - Wake up with hangover, check phone, get time wrong, watch football, realise time, throw on jeans and t-shirt, run to arranged meeting place, arrive an hour late.
Sunday - Sleep all day because of hangover, watch football
Monday - meet mates in pub to try and fill in blanks from Saturday
Tuesday - receive text from random girl, spend 10 minutes racking brains trying to remember what she looked like, check with mates, drink, forget about text
Wednesday - collect laundry from mum
Thursday - remember text message
Friday - Go to pub with mates, drink, remember text message, drink, drink, think "oh what the heck!" reply to text at 1am after night on the town.
Saturday - Wake up with hangover, check phone, get time wrong, watch football, realise time, throw on jeans and t-shirt, run to arranged meeting place, arrive an hour late.
ok ok, so it's a sweeping generalisation!
Being a girl I know how my end works. Being a blokey girl I have been let in on the secrets of how the guys work. Therefore, even though it is a sweeping generalisation I have proof that it is based on actual events.
This is never going to work!
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I obviousely have a much more femenin aproach to the whole dating game.......well except the lipstick i suppose! xp
great ramble though and strangely it does kinda make sense! *too much time with PIX wink *
but on the side of the guys i have to say we're not all that bad! xd
gotta go cat needs feeding!!