I can't believe that I forgot about hugs! Sometimes I astound myself with my own stupidity!
Mind you, it's amazing how much a person can fuddle their own brain. Even to the point of forgetting the simplest and most obvious things. And often, when your head's all in pieces it's those straighforward little uncomplicated things that are the only way to fix it.
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<center>Hugging is good medicine. It transfers energy, and gives the person hugged an emotional boost. You need four hugs a day for survival, eight for maintenance, and twelve for growth. A hug makes you feel good. The skin is the largest organ we have and it needs a great deal of care. A hug can cover a lot of skin and gives the message that you care. It is also a form of communication. It can say things you don't have words for. The nicest thing about a hug is that you usually can't give one without getting one. </center>
A few months ago I got dumped. Now, whenever I've been dumped before I've always looked at it from the "look what I'm losing" point of view. But this time was very different. I was forced to take a good hard look at my life and make a few changes.
By far my best decision was that I'd wasted far too much of my life in crap relationships, being with someone just because I thought I couldn't cope on my own. So, I made myself a promise that I would stand on my own two feet, stop stressing the little things and go out and bloody well enjoy myself wether I liked it or not! And this new "live for the moment" attitude has served me well for the last 3 months! I've partied, I've explored new places, I've made new friends and I've had a thoroughly good time! All in all it turned out to be quite a cunning plan!
However, life is never that simple.
I met a guy, a very special guy, one who is caring and kind, considerate of other peoples feelings, strong and funny and good company. And really, REALLY cute! He makes me feel special just for being me, he cares about how I feel, he trusts me, he can make me feel better without having to say anything. There are feelings there that I don't want to let go of. But the timing is all wrong.
I thought talking to him about it might help, so I did. We talked and talked and talked in circles. The problem was one with a simple solution, wait it out. But that didn't stop me from trying to disect it, look at it, worry about it. And all that worrying made it into something way bigger and scarier than it really was.
I'm a born worrier and as much as I hate to admit it I need constant reassurance and a huge amount of attention! I worry that people don't like me, I worry that I'm not good enough, I worry that I wont be successful, I worry that I'll be left on the shelf. And the only way I know how to deal with my own paranoia is to hide it away and let no one in. As long as its hidden there behind the barriers then people can't use it to hurt me. And as time goes on I've found that not only am I hiding my insecurities from other people, I'm trying to hide them from myself too. I fill my life with other people's problems, offering comfort and advice and cups of tea. If I'm busy worrying about my friends then I have no time to worry about myself.
And that is a solution of sorts. Until you've sorted all your mates out and there are no problems left to fix. Suddenly all the things you've been ignoring get up and smack you right in the face. And of course that's exactly what happened! The last few weeks have been pretty stressful, lots of things going on that I can't control. And there's me, wandering about feeling very confused and sorry for myself and worrying about what I'm going to do!
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<center>I will not play Tug O' War,
I'd rather play Hug O' War;
Where everyone hugs, instead of tugs,
And everyone giggles and rolls on the rug.
Where everyone kisses,
and everyone grins;
everyone cuddles,
and everyone wins.</center>
I'd rather play Hug O' War;
Where everyone hugs, instead of tugs,
And everyone giggles and rolls on the rug.
Where everyone kisses,
and everyone grins;
everyone cuddles,
and everyone wins.</center>
And then last night I had a breakthrough!
STOP BLOODY WORRYING!
What's the point? It fixes nothing, it doesnt answer the questions, it makes you paranoid and it screws your head up! And the worst thing about worrying is that you're doing it to YOURSELF!
So off I went, filled with bravado, marched up to my man, pronounced that worrying about it was only going to make matters worse and then gave him a GREAT BIG huggle!
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<center>"Hugging is healthy: it helps the body's immunity system, it keeps you healthier, it cures depression, it reduces stress, it induces sleep, it's invigorating, it's rejuvenating, it has no unpleasant side effects, and hugging is nothing less than a miracle drug.
Hugging is all natural: it is organic, naturally sweet, it has no pesticides, no preservatives, no artificial ingredients, and is 100% wholesome.
Hugging is practically perfect: there are no movable parts, no batteries to replace, no periodic check-ups, has low energy consumption, high energy yield, is inflation-proof, non-fattening, has no monthly payments, no insurance requirements, is theft-proof, non-taxable, non-polluting, and is, of course, fully refundable."
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Hugging is all natural: it is organic, naturally sweet, it has no pesticides, no preservatives, no artificial ingredients, and is 100% wholesome.
Hugging is practically perfect: there are no movable parts, no batteries to replace, no periodic check-ups, has low energy consumption, high energy yield, is inflation-proof, non-fattening, has no monthly payments, no insurance requirements, is theft-proof, non-taxable, non-polluting, and is, of course, fully refundable."
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And suddenly I remembered how to fix it. You huggle it away. The only cure for insecurities is to give yourself a great big hug!
Now, if I can just work out how to squeeze a hug into a bottle I'll market it and make my fortune!
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