William Blake
It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend.
D'oh! That's me stuffed then!
Publilius Syrus
Treat your friend as if he might become an enemy.
I wish I'd known that a few weeks ago.
My rant about friends was more of an eye~opener than I ever thought it would be. Not in the sense of looking at how I perceive my friends, but more in then way that I see myself as a friend to others, and how I treat them. And the mini~novel I wrote about Love made me see that I am happy with myself and therefore am completely able to love somebody else.
It's made me take a long hard look at how I act when I'm with other people.
When I'm alone my troubles seem pretty small, distant, almost like they're not troubles at all, but then when I'm with other people and I'm talking about what's going on it all seems to blow up out of proportion. And I have no idea why?!?! Which is unusual, because I always have an answer, even if it's wrong.
Saadi
Reveal not every secret you have to a friend, for how can you tell but that friend may hereafter become an enemy. And bring not all mischief you are able to upon an enemy, for he may one day become your friend.
The situation I've found myself in has left me with a few difficult choices to make. It's forced me to look at just how much I value my mates. I know exactly how much I value my friends. The scarey thing is that just recently I've noticed an enormous change in what I am and am not prepared to do for a mate.
For those of you who read my journal and don't know what's going on I'll try and explain a little.
At Christmas I met a girl who I became very good friends with, she was fun and cheerful, we spent a lot of time together. This in itself is unusual for me as I don't have many close friends and those I do have all seem to be guys. I really appreciated having another girl around who I could confide in. Over the last few months I opened up to her and told her my most secret fears and paranoias. And she re~assured me.
And when she split up with her longterm boyfriend I offered her just as much support as she had given me.
And now the doodoo has connected with the air mover.
I've found a guy who means the world to me.
This is a guy who I've been spending a serious amount of time with, he makes me happy just by sitting next to me, he makes me laugh, he cares about me, he wants to be with me because I do all the same things for him without doing anything. He's a friend and he's extreeeeeeeemely cute!
The down side is that he's the ex~boyfriend of my friend, who dropped status to mate because she vanished when things started getting difficult and is now, technically, emeny beacuse she's throwing all the things I confided in her back in my face.
Elbert Hubbard
Never explain--your friends do not need it and your enemies will not believe you anyway.
Never a truer word spoken Mr Hubbard!
There's nothing I can say to this girl to make it any easier. There's nothing I can do to make her see that this was in no way a deliberate, intentional stab at her. There's nothing I can do to fix this situation.
Thinking about it, maybe I was too open with someone who, really, I didn't know very well at all. Looking at the mess which has come out of this friendshit (see Relationshits I do believe now, that the same grammatical rules can be applied to friendships) i'm thinking that I should guard my fears a little more closely.
Consequently, if she is my friend one day she'll understand without me having to try and explain myself. And if not, then what have I really lost?
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