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So, the whole "dating" thing did NOT go well.
I could go into detail but maybe short and sweet might be better. Honestly...that girl ended up being a ******** psycho and I really did rush into the whole relationship without thinking it through. It only lasted a month and even then, it really was a month too long.

I knew I had asked her out due to our trauma bonding. I have such a bad...habit and want to "fix" people. So naturally, when she told me she had untreated BPD and all this trauma, I thought I could handle it. Up until I asked her out she was this sweet, naive, goofy girl and then...already on that next morning, I didn't even recognize who I had asked out. She started talking to me in this disgusting "baby voice", like I was some pet or a toddler. And I tried to tell her I didn't like it but she just kept doing it. We couldn't have a single conversation without her talking about marriage, or being intimate. Trust me, after a 4-year dry spell, I'm not opposed to speaking intimately, but when you do it so much that it turns me off? That's a problem.

Everything...literally everything was just a major red flag. Her need for validation from strangers on the internet, the way she just shared all her private things like images, etc across various platforms then somehow felt victimized by certain people coming at her a certain way after she would send them deliberate thirst traps. We had everything in common but the minute we started to date she wanted to talk about everything we did not share. I don't give a ******** about makeup...or skin care...or "glass skin". It felt less like a new relationship and more like the one that's 5-10 years in where you have nothing to talk about anymore.

Her Mother was a ******** psychopath that enabled her daughters bratty behaviors. I have never met another person my age that behaved like they were still in Middle School. And then she started pulling me away from my friends. I told her I had a schedule and routine. Instead of ignoring my friends or her, I invited her to join us...but she wouldn't. then she told her Mother I was ignoring her despite my inviting her to everything, trying to rope her back into conversations constantly, and STILL ending my night with my friends early to make time for her and I in private. I also called her twice a day on top of that...twice a day every day, no questions asked. Yet I was STILL somehow neglectful.
The straw that broke the camel's back was when she tried to say that my friends were pulling us apart and that I treated them better than her and "supposedly" was treating her like garbage. This was after she called me boring and berated me on many other things. Again...she is always the victim. And so, after a month I had enough. I dumped her. Taz and Ruby may have been horrible but, at least I have learned not to suffer through bullshit anymore and I chose happiness. She didn't take it well. She kept spam calling me until I picked up...then she told me she was hurting herself and it was my fault because she cant control her emotions. She cursed me out and I hung up. I called the police in her state for a wellness check. Then her Mother called me and bitched me out for 'embarassing' her. And yes...this is still just a summary.

Maybe...being single really is the best for me.
Because if people like /that/ are what is waiting for me? Nah. I'm good.

I know no one really reads this...
But for the people who do or may...I hope you're okay. I hope you're happy and life is treating you well, because you deserve happiness...every bit of it.