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It really, really irritates me when people put on different faces for different people.
I know that that majority of us do it on a minor scale, but I'm talking like complete different set of traits and feelings.
What makes it worse is acting different at the expense of someone's feelings. Someone you would usually care about, but when those other people are around, your feelings are "meh". Just because you seek that person out later, when all those other people you're trying to impress are gone, and apologize doesn't make it better. If anything, it makes it worse. It looks like you don't care at all because you just made a joke out of them in front of everyone else. And you may try to justify it by saying "you're too sensitive, you know it was a joke", but the truth is if it bothers that person, they don't know it's a joke. That's how real it seems, that's how convincing your falseness is. Is that something to be proud of?
It is so infuriating that I watch this horrid level of immaturity happen in adults.

Adam does this kind of thing to me, sometimes. For example: he was downloading something one day. He said if the lag got too bad that I could pause it. So later on in the day, I did pause it because I was trying to play a game. I happened to play that game all day, and when he got home he told his friends he couldn't play the game [that he was downloading] with them because his girlfriend likes to pause his downloads. I felt pretty degraded. I try to be a good girlfriend. I make him food, I wash his clothes, etc, etc. I really don't want to do things that displease him or make him whine to his friends. I don't care a whole lot what they think of me, but when he says bad things about me, I feel like I'm marked as a bad girlfriend despite all of the good things I do for him.

I just don't understand why you can't be nice to people you care about in front of other people. If you're so afraid of their opinions on you lessening just because you're nice to your girlfriend, are they really worth the time? Or maybe it's that you don't care enough about that girl.