So I once dated this guy whose initials are JB. We were really happy and everything. I told him I loved him and I meant it. As every relationshp goes though, or almost every relationship,(for those of you who are still in a good long lasting relationship, keep it up!), we broke up. More then once might I add. The last time we broke up he basically said I hate you and never want to talk to you again. So a few months later I take the chance of IM'ing him on Yahoo Instant messenger. He responds and we eventually start talking again. He said to me thought that he was still upset and just wanted some time away from me but that we were on good terms. So one day I'm looking through my gaia journal entries and on my most recent one I have a new comment from JB. It said "Serves you right and oyu might want to change your signature, you are 1 of the 98%". Now this really hurt me becuase i thought, hey we were on good terms again. Wy all of a sudden, the sudden change. Now I said I loved hi and I meant it. He said he loved me, yet everytime we broke up, even when he broke up with me, he said it was always my doing. It was always my fault. No matter what happened. He even forced me to choose once. Him as a b/f and his friendship, or no friendship and I could have another guy as a b/f. I tried for over 4 years to keep us friends whether we were together or not. Now it has come down to this. I want to know people. Do you think it was worth it to try and remain his friend because now i'm upset that we still aren't on good terms. Please give your opinions, thank you.
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You're a good person for trying to remain this guys friend, but sometimes it's not worth it. If he's not going to be your friend out of a releationship, then that's a sign you have to move on. It's hard to lose a friend, especially if it's someone you loved, but sometimes it happens. Truthfully, you sound like too good of a person to be needing to put up with that kind of crap. It sounds like he just likes having you on the short leash, making you sad and making you ask for his friendship over and over again. Some guys are just manipulating like that. In the opinion of this random guy just trying to give some helpful advice, I would move on. If he's going to act like that he doesn't deserve the friendship of someone who's trying to be nice to him and keep a little of what was lost.
Once again, I apologize for the random commet.