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Hi everyone,
This test is mostly for Shy people.
This Self Inventory test was copied online for you all to take if you would like to take it.
The book I got this from is "Coping with Being Shy"
Answer Truthfully and with Strict Thinking, If you don't answer them Honestly then whats the point of you taking this at all? You don't gotta put it here, it can be something private for youself or yeah you can comment here or something.
The test is 100 questions with 2 possible answers for each one. There are 10 Questions per Section and there are 10 sections!
I recommend you open up Notepad or Wordpad and put your answers down on it, it will be fast and easy....

Directions: Check either A or B in each of the following. Since there are only two choices, just estimate what is most like me

I. Myself and My Life in General
1. a. I feel satisfied with myself as I am. I am glad to be me.
b. I am not satisfied with myself. I wish I were different.

2. a. My life is progressing the way I want it to.
b. My life is not progressing as I want it to.

3. a. I am optimistic about my future.
b. I am passimistic about my future.

4. a. I consider myself special, with unique talents and abilities.
b. I consider myself ordinary, with nothing special about me.

5. a. I feel competent enough to hangle anything in my life.
b. I feel helpless and unable to hangle my life.

6. a. Things generally work out well for me
b. Things usually go wrong no matter how hard I try.

7. a. I feel comfortable with myself. I act natural wherever I am.
b. I feel insecure, anxious, and unsure of myself.

8. a. I am liked by others. I am worthhy of love and happiness
b. I feel unliked and unlovable. I will never be happy

9. a. I am an asset to my family, friends, school, and society.
b. I am not valued by others.

10.a. I am interested in self-development and feeling good about myself.
b. I am too busy to be concerned about my self-development.

II.My ChildHood
1.a. As a child I was treated specially, loved, and allowed to express my feelings.
b. I was ignored, critisized, and picked on.

2.a. I am happy to be an Adolescent. I look forward to adulthood.
b. I regret that my childhood is over. I prefer being taken care of.

3.a. I was allowed freedom and encoursed to try new experiences.
b. I was discouraged and was afraid to try new experiences.

4.a. Mistakes were handled as a natural learning process.
b. Mistakes were critisized, and I felt horribly inadequate.

5.a. Discipline involved consistent rules and predictable, just consequences.
b. Discipline was unpredictable, with irrational rules, unfair treatment, and harsh punishment.

6.a. I made decisions, performed chorse, and was a responsible family member.
b. I had little responsibility, made few decisions, and felt dependent upon my family.

7.a. I was taught right from wrong and encouraged to think for myself so I could formulate my code and values.
b. Mortality involved following rigid rules and unrealistic expectations.

8.a. Learning was encouraged. My questions were answered, and my opinions were respected.
b. My education was left to the schools. My questions were not answered, and my opinions were ignored.

9.a. I feel prepared for life, competent as an adolescent, and confident that I will be a mature adult.
b. I feel ill-equipped to handle adolescence and adulthood.

10.a. I rate my childhood years as happy. I felt loved and secure.
b. I have many negative feelings about my childhood that make me feel insecure.

III. How do I Rate Myself Physically?
1.a. I consider myself good-looking and attractive.
b. I feel ugly and unattractive.

2.a. I take care to dress neatly and stylishly.
b. I don't care about my clothes. I look sloppy.

3.a. I'm satisfied with my figure, my body proportions, and my facial features.
b. I hate parts of my body, my figure, and my face.

4.a. I like my hair. I keep it groomed , clean, and stylish.
b. I don't like my hair color or style. I don't take care of my hair.

5.a. I eat to stay healthy, energetic, and attractive. I eat regularly and nutritiously.
b. I diet to keep thin or I overeat. I am unconcerned about my health.

6.a. I exercise and do active sports.
b. I never exercise except in gym class.

7.a. My posture aids my breathing and appearance. I walk with shoulders straight and head erect.
b. My posture is poor. My shoulders slump, and my head is down.

8.a. I consider myself as generally healthy, rarely sick, and having good energy.
b. I am weak, tired, run-down, sickly, not healthy.

9.a. I feel well coordinated and growing proportionately.
b. I feel clumsy, uncoordinated, and awkward about my body movements.

10a. I am rested and energetic. I sleep well, with regular bedtime hours.
b. I have trouble sleeping. I'm usually tired. I sleep irregular hours and stay up late.


IV. How do I rate myself Intellectually?
1.a. I consider myself intelligent. I trust my ability to learn about myself, others, and reality.
b. I feel stupid and unintelligent. Others seem smarter than I.

2.a. Reality has exact laws of nature that are definite, knowable, and predictable.
b. Reality is incomprehensible, unpredictable, and unknowable.

3.a. My mind is my most valuable tool. Thinking guides my actions, enriches my life, and helps me achieve my goals.
b. I do not value my mind or trust my thinking processes. I rely upon feelings to guide me.

4.a. I value learning because it is related to my life and well-being.
b. The things I learn are unimportant, usless, and not related to my life.

5.a. I devoted time and my best efforts to learning. I complete assignments. I have regular study habits.
b. I have trouble learning. I do not try my best. I skip assignments. I only study the night before a test.

6.a. I consider school and my education worthwhile. I do the requited work, follow the rules, and meet school expectations.
b. I hate school and consider it a waste. I don't try hard. I misbehave and get into trouble.

7.a. I think before I act. I direct my actions to predict consequences and to plan how to accomplish my goals.
b. I act first and think later, or not at all. I rely upon my feelings, not thinking, to guide my actions.

8.a. My mistakes are caused by lack of knowledge or skills. Thinking about my mistakes prevents repetition.
b. I don't think about my mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes.

9.a. Others repect my ideas and ask my help to work out problems.
b. Others do not respect my ideas. No one asks my advice or listens to my opinions.

10.a. Most of my thinking involves learning, planning, and solving problems in the present.
b. Most of my time is spent day-dreaming, imagining, or repretting my past. I rarely focus on the present.

V. How do I rate myself Socially?
1.a. I value and enjoy being with my friends. I select friends who share my interests and enrich my life.
b. I seek company to relieve boredom, to pass time, and to avoid being alone.

2.a. In a crowd I feel self-confident and assured of my identity. I am as worthwhile and important as others.
b. I feel insignificant in a crowd. Others are more valueable or important than I am.

3.a. I trust most people and consider them basically honest and not out to hurt me.
b. I don't trust others. I worry that others are going to hurt, control, or manipulate me.

4.a. I am a trustworthy, valuable friend and an asset to any relationship I enter.
b. I do not consider myself a valuable friend or an asset to others.

5.a. Most of my friends are positive, independent people who have many interests and goals. We do active things when we are together.
b. My friends are passive, dependent, negative, and even rebellious. We just hang out and talk.

6.a. I am easy to get along with, helpful, considerate of others. Many times I let others have their way.
b. I must have my way all the time. I argue until I convince others to do things my way, or I leave.

7.a. I have many friends. I am well liked, fairly popular, and frequently invited to join activities.
b. I don't have many friends. I feel unpopular and am excluded from activities.

8.a. I am an asset to my family. They are proud and pleased with me.
b. I do not feel repected by my family. I feel they are unhappy and disappointed in me.

9.a. I consider criticism from parents, teachers, and freinds generally halpful. I grow and learn from criticism.
b. I am oversensitive when anyone criticizes me. I become angry and defensive, or I just ignore it.

10.a. I enjoy meeting new people. I am so interested in them that I can be myself and act natural.
b. When I meet new people I focus on making other like and accept me.

VI. How do I rate my Degree of Shyness?
1.a. Since everyone experiences moments of shyness, I consider myself as shy as most others.
b. I consider myself extremely shy, much more shy than others I know.

2.a. When I am in a large group I fit in and feel comfortable.
b. No matter where I am, I feel as if I don't belon. I feel self-conscious and out of place in any group of people.

3.a. I can ask for help, directions, or service from others.
b. I feel to shy and embarrassed to ask for help, directions, or service.

4.a. I feel slightly nervous in front of an audience, but I speak and act anyway.
b. I become so frightened and self-conscious before others that I cannot speak or perform.

5.a. I am comfertable talking to someone of the opposite sex.
b. I feel self-conscious speaking to anyone of the opposite sex.

6.a. I can ask questions and interact with adults and those in authority ( teacherm boss, policeman, doctor).
b. I find it difficult to talk to adults and authority figures.

7.a. I can handle competitive interviews and trouts.
b. I feel so upset and worthless in competitive situations that I mess up interviews or tryouts or drop out at the last moment.

8.a. I can handle being the center of attention at my birthday party, if asked to dance , or if asked to give my opinion.
b. I hate being the senter of attention. I feel uncomfortable at my parties and self-conscious in front of others.

9.a. When I enter a restaurant or movie theater, most others do not even notice my entrance.
b. When I enter a room, I feel so self-conscious I imagine everyone is watching my every move.

10.a. I usually enjoy participating in social events.
b. I find large social events hard to handle.

VII. My Degree of Reponsibility and Independence
1.a. I am a responsible, dependable person. I try to meet my commitments, keep my word, and keep my agreements.
b. I am not dependable. I do not always keep appointments or meet my commitments. I may break my agreements.

2.a. I accept full responsability for my errors and their corrections.
b. I don't crrect mistakes. I evade resposibility by blaming others.

3.a. I adhere to family rules and curfews. I try to work out solutions to family conflicts.
b. I do whatever I want without regard to family rules or curfews.

4.a. I try to make my own decisions and to act upon them. I accept full consequences for my actions.
b. I perfer to be told what to do. I find it difficult to make decisions.

5.a. I select goals based upon my needs, interests, values, and talents.
b. I select goals to please others, to gain acceptance, or to meet others' expectations.

6.a. I help out with family chores without being asked.
b. I am to busy to help with family chores. I may forget or even refuse to help.

7.a. I try to work out family conflicts without losing my temper and getting physical. I realize I can not always have my way.
b. I find family discussions impossible. I fight with parents and siblings until I get my way.

8.a. I volunteer my services and take an active role in activities.
b. I shirk responsibility and let others volunteer for activities.

9.a.I don't mind working. I complete my school work and my chores. I also work to earn money.
b. I consider work unwanted drudgery. I avoid it or procrastinate. I don't get my assignments and chores done.

10.a. I don't expect instant success in anything I do. I plan and work persistently. I enjoy working toward my goals.
b. I expect success on the first try or I get discouraged and give up.

VIII. How do I rate myself Morally?
1.a.I consider myself an honest person. I seek the truth and I try to be truthful, even when it may not be pleasent.
b. I am not completely onest all the time. Sometimes I ignore the truth or even lie when things get uncomfertable.

2.a. I try to understand what is right and wrong by discovering what is necessary for life and the well-being of individuals.
b. There is no right and wrong. It varies according to each situation or issue.

3.a. I can say no to peer pressure when others want me to act against my personal code of right and wrong.
b. I find it hard to refuse peer pressure. Being liked and accepted is more important to me than acting according to my values

4.a. I have begun to develop an internal code of values I can use to direct my actions and my choices.
b. My code of values is fairly undeveloped, vague, and inconsistent. I look to others for how to act.

5.a. Morality helps me to feel good about myself. I try to think in principle and to learn from the mistakes I and others make.
b. I can feel good about myself no mater what I do. If I steal, cheat, or lie and it helps me, I don't feel guilty.

6.a. I speak up to defend my values and convictions. I can respect another's right to disagree.
b. I will either remain silent or I will defend my opinions in a way that is disrepectful of others.

7.a. I can formulate my convistions and act upon what I decide is right to do.
b. I find it hard to convert my convictions into action.

8.a. If I could try my best, I can feel good wether I win or lose.
b. Only winning matters to me.

9.a. I consider fair competition healthy where all are challenged to compete and do their best,
b. I think competition is unhealthy. I perfer to get ahead by whom I know, not what I know.

10.a. I try to keep my expectations realistic. I do not demand the impossible or perfection of myself or others.
b. If I am not perfect in all I attempt, I feel miserable. I keep pushing myself to be perfect to feel good about myself.

IX. How do I rate myself Sexually?
1.a. I am comfortable with being my sex: male or female
b. I wish I were born the opposite sex.

2.a. I accept and feel comfortable with the gradual sexual changes in my body.
b. I am ashamed and self-conscious about the sexual changes in my body.

3.a. In a store I can ask to use the restroom, boy underwear, or buy toilet paper without feeling too embarrassed.
b. I feel to self-conscious to ask directions to a restroom or buy underwear or toilet paper in a store.

4.a. I feel comfortable at the beach, changing for gym, or using the public dressing room.
b. I feel self-conscious about my body. I am ashamed to wear shorts or a bathing suit that shows my figure.

5.a. I consider myself sexually attracted by and attractive to the opposite sex.
b. I feel awkward with people of the opposite sex. I think they find me unattractive.

6.a. I consider sex and sexuality a natural part of me. I am not afraid to ask questions and to understand sex.
b. I feel ashamed to ask questions and to show curiosity and interest in sex.

7.a. Sexual thoughts, feelings, and curiosity take up a normal amount of my time.
b. I am preoccupied with sexual thoughts and feelings

8.a. I consider love and sex special and related. I want to save sex for the person I love and want to marry.
b. I consider sex a physical act. I use se to feel close, to get dates, to relieve anxiety, and to feel wanted.

9.a. I consider my sexual development adequate for my age.
b. I feel behind and immature in sexual development.

10.a. I expect to find someone I can love who will love me. I'd like to marry and share my life with another.
b. I don't think anyone can ever love me. I probably won't get married.

X. How Do I rate my Emotional Maturity?
1.a. I can Identify my emotions and figure out what caused them.
b. My emotions are a mysterious, Unknowable, Enpredictable part of myself that I cannot understand.

2.a. I care about others' feelings. I comfort those in pain and try to consider others' feelings.
b. I am not able to feel for others or to consider their feelings. When I'm angry I don't care how others feel.

3.a. I am basically a happy, contented person most of the time.
b. I am usually unhappy, depressed, or discontented.

4.a. When I feel sad or depressed I get myself out of the mood by talking to myself, by doing something, or by being with others.
b. When I feel sad and depressed, nothing seems to get me out of the mood.

5.a. I handle my anger by defusing it safely first, then talking and correction what bothers me.
b. WHen I get angry, I can't control myself. I'm not responsible for all that I say and do when angry.

6.a. When things go wrong and I feel bad, I try to to keep things in proper perspective.
b. When things go wrong, I get hysterical and lose my temper. I overreact and make mountains out of molehills.

7.a. I accept all my feelings - even the negative ones I dislike. I judge myself by my actions, not how i feel.
b. I consider myself a bad person when I experience bad feelings. Only bad people feel jealous or angry.

8.a. I handle my emotions appropriately. I feel them and let them pass. Then I can think about what I should say and do.
b. I do not hangle my emotions well. I just react according to how I feel. Then I may regret my words and actions later.

9.a. I consider my feelings separate from another's feelings. I can remain calm while others are upset. I can even help them calm down.
b. I feel reponsible for others' feelings when I am with them. I get overly involved and seem to catch their feelings.

10.a. I am developing emotinal maturaity. I accept and handle my feelings. I control my moods, my happiness, and my actions.
b. I consider myself emotionally immature. I still have temper tantrums. I overreact or become withdrawn and moody.

Scoring and Evaluating
Since this is a learning experience, consider your scores tools to approximate your level of development in each area. There are ten aspects of your development, with ten items per area. Therefore, if you total all the "A" responses per area (a maximum of 10 points per section), You will get ten separate scores (of 10 or less) and a total score (maximum 100). An average score is 5 for 10 or 50 for 100. You are familiar with test scores based on 100 as the top score, so you can figure out where you stand.
If you score between 5 and 7 per area or between 50 and 70, you are developing adequetly. Scores above 70 are areas of strength and advanced development for you. Scores below 40 are areas of possible weakness. You can compare different aspects of your development in the same manner, using 5 as the middle score. for instance, let's say you had the following scores: General self and life, 7; childhood, 5; physical, 4; intellectual, 8; moral, 7; responsibility, 3; social, 6; sexual 4; shyness, 5; emotional maturity, 7, for a total of 56. You could make the following comclusions: On the average, you are developing in all areas; however, you may not be assuming as much responsibility as you can handle. You also appear to be weakest in the areas concerning your physical and sexual self. By looking at your areas of weakest development, you may discover that you do not take care of yourself as well as you could or that you are not happy with your looks.