I guess this is just going to be a small rant blaugh mrgreen rofl
about a trait in someone that I despise. Greatly. Right now, I will say, with an inflated ego, that I am proud to have been taught by my dad to turn my eyes the other way if I ever encounter those types of judgmental people whose actions don't follow their words. For clarification, the type of person to post an instagram photo of their mom with a paragraph explaining how much they love her, when in reality they've ignored her for years. That kind of person. Both my dad and I hate these types of people, (finally, something I share w/ him besides his temper) xd
Starting off, judgmental people are the worse. Everyone judges and it's an important skill in order to make smart decisions that will lead to a good life and blah blah blah you know the rest. But only to an extent though stare
Here's the story.
I was hanging out with my friend today, and we were on our way to this popular ice cream shop when almost half a block away from the store, were these homeless guys probably around my age or older who were asking for spare change. I looked at all of them in the eyes and as politely as I could, said that I didn't have any money to give to them. Of course, everyone lies because we obviously all have money on us everywhere. I tried to be curt because to be honest, I did not want to give them my hard-earned money. This was not the day. Let's all be honest here, we feel bad, but we don't want to give money sometimes. However, homeless people still deserve the same amount of attention and respect as we do. Whether you give them money or not, just because they've fallen down in harsh times due to drugs, alcohol, or maybe a recent job loss which was beyond their control, it doesn't give anyone the right to treat them as garbage, as if they were a burden. I understand how people think they can be a burden since they are living off of other people's money. But, also understand that they are at a point in their lives where they have no other choice. Homeless shelters sometimes don't have enough room for people. Not enough food and resources, not enough hot water.
The one thing that no one likes to feel.... is to feel ignored. If you can't or don't want to give money, at least acknowledge that they exist. No one wants to be ignored. It's the worst feeling and no matter who you are, and where you're from, it's a thing we all share. People would rather you talk s**t to them than ignore them. That's why many people who get bullied or insulted try to ignore their offenders so they can appear more superior and in-control of themselves. It pisses the other party off. That's why people get mad when they don't get a reply back from their job interviewer. Who the hell likes to be ignored? Right?
So back to the story, I tried to make eye-contact with all of them (they were sitting on both sides of the sidewalk) and said "No, sorry". My attitude sucks most of the time, but I really try to treat others the way I want to be treated. So when my friend looked at them in disgust and frantically scooted towards me to avoid them as if they had a disease, it made me furious. It makes me mad because all of her friends say she's the nicest person and everyone at school thinks she's this sweet gullible ditz (not coming from me, mind you). I mean, I already had a strong suspicion that she was judgmental by the way she would steal looks at my clothes sometimes. It wasn't a surprise because I've met worse people and worse traits.
When we finally got to the ice cream shop 10 seconds later, I jokingly whispered to her how the homeless guys were so close to the ice cream shop but couldn't have any ice cream. I told her that I would rather buy them food myself than give them money like they had asked. I was trying to coax her (using my knowledge of psychology) into maybe changing her heart a bit or at least her mind.
She had the nerve to say, "I feel so bad for them". After that, I didn't even know why I bothered because I should already know by now that people stick to their own opinions until they've been strongly proven otherwise.
It's fun to pull little mind tricks or psychology s**t like that when people don't realize it. It's interesting to see how people react to certain situations, and you can really gain a lot of insight on who that person is. The words "Nice" and "Mean" are the most simplistic words to describe how good a person really is. Anyone can be nice and anyone can be an a*****e in any moment. Who doesn't have their bad days and their good days, right? At the end of the day, what counts is if you're not intentionally hurting anyone out there. I know I hate coming across judgmental people like this, but hey, I do know that being judgmental doesn't make you a terrible human being, but it is the most annoying thing ever and I hate those traits in people. We all judge but....damn, some people overdo it a little too much, you know?
The amount of disrespect I saw made me cringe in layers of anger and sadness. Oh, the hypocrisy! stressed What's even worse is that I remember not too long ago when she wrote a poem about caring for the homeless and not judging people for stealing and all that stuff. As much as I call her my friend and I consider her as one I can't ever look at her the same way. I wasn't prepared for this hypocritical judgmental side of her to slap me across the face. I wasn't prepared for it to reveal itself.....to reveal her as THAT type of judgmental person. The one who tries to act as if they're so caring and understanding of others.
This is why I don't believe in words. I believe in actions, then words. And actions without words, humility. Then there are people like me who don't do that much to contribute to society, but don't do bad things either, who just sit back and watch people try to act as if they are such an angel. I'm the silent grumpy pragmatic who only ever gets worked up if someone strongly goes against my morals and beliefs, just like this friend of mine (using that word very loosely here). Honestly, I can't blame her and it would also be narrow-minded and judgmental of me to hate her for thinking that way, but it makes me cringe in pain every time I think about it, as cheesy as that sounds.
Date it happened: 8/22/15
P.S. I'm not trying to bash anyone here, these are my simply my feelings described in words (obviously) about someone. Just trying to vent, thanks 3nodding
