The other day, my married best friend and I were talking about my current relationship and what not. I so happened to say the phrase "I don't want to sleep with anyone until I get married", and she responded with "Yes you will. You'll want too." This got my attention. I knew that she had slept with her ex-boyfriend before her husband and her husband before she married him, but I don't know why she said this to me. So I asked her why she'd say this to me in all of our 6 years of being friends and how well she knew me. And the response she gave me was based on....
Well, here it goes really. 2 boyfriends ago (this happened in high school), there was a guy she had madly loved and she had recently told me she wanted to sleep with him but never told him (she had gotten naked and other done other things though for him). An ex-boyfriend ago, who was a complete douchebag, she decided to sleep with him and regretted it after they broke up. Then when she met her now-husband, she slept with him after they dated a few times and they got married earlier this year after he proposed after only 2-4 months of dating.
I really DON'T want to sleep with any guy until I'm married. For a number of reasons, personal/spiritual, even medical. I've listed them all to her, but she said "Well, I've got a blood disorder, but that didn't stop me. You shouldn't let your epilepsy stop you." It's like she WANTS me to get laid sometimes =/ Then she spouts off this line of "I thought I was going to wait until marriage too, but I didn't."
I want to scream at her sometimes that she takes birth control and what not. I don't, nor do I need/want it. If I did sleep with a guy and got pregnant by some chance, my meds might screw the kid up or maybe the kid would get epilepsy (epilepsy is genetic but not hereditary in most cases). Or if I got an STD. THAT would further screw my life up, almost as much as a kid would, maybe even moreso. I dunno really
Chase and I have discussed it (sorta) and he said that he believes it's the girl's choice of what to do. So that puts me to ease on what he thinks. But what my best friend thinks...even after I told her what Chase thinks, she still thinks I should sleep with him. And we've only been going out maybe 2 months tops at this point =/
I'm sticking with my views for now, probably until I do actually get married, unless something were to change that (which I seriously doubt)
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