the story about how we met is rather boring. how we came to be a couple is kind of complicated. and hearing her tell the story to someone else made me cry so i might omit a few parts or it may be that i can't bring myself to omit anything.
We met through a friend of ours. It was Halloween of 06 and my friend Nicky had brought her by. And had you asked us then if this could ever happen we would both agree definitely not. She was engaged and i was trying to avoid a relationship at all costs. After this Nicky would bring her by randomly while they were out. She later told me that she asked Nicky to bring her by so we could all hang out together. She saw something in me and wanted to know why i was so sad and quiet. Something i have yet to find out.
My roommate at the time, a large, hairy man by the name of Bear, was getting a bit creepy and disgusting and neither I not Beth wanted to be out in the living room while he was around. So i moved a large leather chair into my bedroom and the three of us would come in and come straight to my room. We would all usually end up on the bed watching movies and talking and occasionally tickling one another and watching everyone flail. I was happy with this and loved the attention and affection i received during these times.
This went on for months. She became my best friend alongside Nicky. A person that i would trust with my life and anything else. Eventually i trusted her with my heart. She was playful and fun to have around. It got to the point where i would wait every day until they showed up.
Her fiancee was co oping many hours away. I knew she was engaged. I knew it from very close to the start of her being around all of the time. I didn't care about that because she was just a really good friend. My best of friends. It eventually got to the point where she was around more than Nicky.
Each night after we split and went our separate ways for the night we would both sign onto AIM and talk for as long as we both could stay awake. Just to talk. To have some sort of interaction.
One of the neatest things about this was my screenname is Pugsley and hers was Wednesday and we've had them for years and years longer than we have known one another. As a kid she used to live basically just across the state line not even a 15 minute drive from where i live and some of her friends were some of my friends. But we never knew one another. she moved all over and we met here at Mississippi State University.
Christmas of 06 came and before break or maybe right after break both she and Nicky came by with a present for me. And i thought that that was one of the most awesome things that they would think of me come Christmas.
Over November of 06 through January of 07 our movements and thoughts seemed to sync up more and more and we would just laugh randomly. It was an awesome feeling to have someone that all of this happened with. It felt right being around her. Everything felt right. She would stay over some nights just for movies and sometimes because we were talking so late. We would sleep in the same bed about a yard apart from one another. Me not realizing completely that I was totally in love with this woman.
Our friend Nicky told us that we "should never breed" because we were so similar and that would cause so much havoc on the world.
In February of 07 on valentines day both she and Nicky were both over and we watched movies and ended up in a tickle pile on my bed and ended up all snuggled against one another. It was probably the best valentines day i had ever had. Even being single it was an absolutely wonderful day.
throughout that month I asked her if she wanted to go to Memphis with me for a weekend. I wanted to introduce my new friend that I always talked about to my family so they could put a face with a name. I also wanted to see where she used to live. To take her around and talk about our lives.
She declined but i didn't remember asking, so at another time i asked her again. I don't remember her response but i remembered asking so i asked again saying i didn't remember her response and she agreed. I was so happy and when i went to pick her up she was dressed nicely and said that she wanted to impress my parents. And she did. Greatly.
The 2 and a half hour car ride we talked a little and she played with my hair the whole way there. It was soothing and comforting. I enjoyed the ride the whole way there. We even talked about scaring our friend Nicky by saying that something happened while we were in Memphis and acting differently around her.
What we didn't know was that something was going to happen.
February 16th. Sleeping in the same bed different sides (like we have done many times before). I asked her if i could kiss her.
She was absolutely gorgeous.
She said yes.
It was amazing.
I love her with every fiber of my being.
The ride home was awkward. She kinda-sorta played with my hair. We were both quiet. She thought i was upset, i thought she was, I didn't know what to do. I knew she was engaged and i still did what i did. She told me it wasn't a mistake. I never said it was a mistake and i believe firmly that doing something like that could never be a mistake. Even now i will never say that kissing her was a mistake. I think that it was that act itself that brought us together.
She later told me that she was trying to get my attention.
That was the unofficial anniversary.
She had to tell her fiancee that it was over between them. There was so much that wasn't happening between them and with the distance and the lack of love in their relationship it was hard for her.
I told her i didn't want her to change who she was. she said that he did. I just wanted her to be happy with who she was and how life was. He didn't know she wasn't happy. When she went to visit him all he wanted to do was play his wii.
She couldn't bring herself to break up with him. I told her and every time i think about the responses on both our parts i always cry. I told her that i would be happy being the other guy. As long as she loved me.
The breakup came shortly after. by email. from him.
On March 8th 2007 I asked her if she would be willing to put up with me as an official boyfriend. That we be an official couple.
Its taken a lot of time but i think i finally got it through her head that she doesn't have to do things to please me to make me happy. She just has to make herself happy. To be herself and nothing more.
So two times a month we have an anniversary. an official and an unofficial. 9 months all together.
So what is written here isn't everything. Its probably not close. but it is enough for me to feel happy about it.
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