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Pregnancy update and Christmas... |
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Two days until Christmas.
Most years I'd be pretty busy with baking or preparing some kind of food. This year, I'm mostly too tired for stuff like that.
But to catch you up, I am now 15 weeks and 3 days pregnant.
We had our second ultrasound a couple of weeks ago. It was the nuchal scan, which they do to check for signs of Down Syndrome, by measuring the thickness of the fluid behind the baby's neck.
The lady told me the fluid looks nice and thin, so it seems all is good with the baby at this stage.
It was a little surreal seeing the baby on the ultrasound this time. It was a lot bigger so it was easy to see what is was doing and where everything is.
Baby was in a stretching mood, and kept stretching out a lot. Then it was waving its arms around quite a bit. It made it feel a lot more real, that there is a real person inside me right now. How weird is that?
We never had any luck with finding a midwife on our own. So as soon as I hit 14 weeks, I called the find-a-midwife hotline and I have been assigned to the midwives at Kenepuru Hospital here in Porirua. We have our first appointment with them tomorrow morning, so I am looking forward to that.
Unfortunately I have to go to work for the rest of the day after the appointment, but hey, I've worked many Christmas Eves before, I should be used to it by now.
Christmas we are planning to go to Dad's place as usual, stay over tomorrow night, so we can wake up there Christmas morning. Spend the morning with Dad and Jill, see the Pilchers for lunch, and then chill in the evening when Brierlee and Steve come over for dinner.
It'll be the first Christmas in like...forever?? that we haven't had any plans with the extended Kelly family in the evening.
Dad's excuse for not suggesting anything is that he says having so many people over is stressful, and they never bother to help out much with food/tidying up etc.
To be honest, I think the main issue is that Dad doesn't want the awkwardness of inviting Aunty Helen and then her not coming.
So earlier in the year, Dad helped move Grandma from the house she was living in by herself, to the retirement home where she now lives.
He felt it was for the best, as the home caregivers coming around to the house had been unreliable at times, and there had been incidents where Grandma had fallen over while at home by herself and hadn't been able to pick herself up and been stuck there for hours until someone came.
But Helen was super against it, and felt it was too much disruption for Grandma, and didn't feel the retirement home would be a good place for her and might confuse her.
Sure it wasn't ideal. Grandma does get confused easily these days, and sometimes she does still forget where she is and feels lost. But to be fair, it wasn't like Dad made the decision all on his own. His brothers all supported the move too and helped with clearing out the house. It was only Helen who was against it.
But that was months ago now, and still Helen won't move on, and basically won't talk to several of her brothers including Dad. She and her family didn't even come to Dad and Jill's wedding. Dad's been a bit upset by it.
I think it's harsh. She might not think they made the right choice, but there comes a time to just accept the situation and carry on. I mean Grandma is 96 now, she's not going to wake up one day and suddenly be young and independent again and able to move out into a house on her own again.
So yeah, I suspect that's the reason Dad decided not to plan any big family thing for Christmas dinner. I'm a little disappointed because it's been tradition for like, pretty much my whole life, and I enjoy seeing my cousins and everyone. But oh well.
I mean, heck, next year Christmas will be even more different. And most of my attention and energy is focused on my pregnancy right now, so I am just going to go with the flow and hope to have a good Christmas.
weezieishness · Sun Dec 23, 2018 @ 08:20am · 0 Comments |
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