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Pretty much with you on this one, if you want a cool graveyard crow style shot, find a rock to perch on, not someones head stone.

I have to say that for those who have sex in a graveyard, it's the feeling they probably get. I could be wrong, but if I think about it, it seems to me you would feel much more alive. You would be surrounded by those who lived and are now deceased and having a sexual experience. It would highten your awareness to a new extreme...

I do agree though. It's rather disgusting, especially if it's with a corpse.

There is a cemetary rather close to my home, I've gone there some nights to sit and relax. It's comforting to be around those whom have lived at one point. I like to read names, see the length they lived, and to make up stories of their lives.

I rarely go, for it would be rather odd to be questioned why you are there. -sigh- Plus, there isn't really any beautiful cemetaries in my city. They are mainly average and plain.

But, for those who do go there, they go for their own reasons. Wether to morn, to study, or to pleasure themselves, each has a reason.
But PLEASE don't litter! BY GOD DON'T LITTER!

Ah, the GD never fails to shock rolleyes

But in all seriousness, that is absolutely disgusting; a graveyard is for peace and mourning, not for getting off to a fetish.

Getting drunk in graveyards isn't too bad, ever heard of spilling a drink for a love one? Or downing a fifth for the dead?
Eh.. Sitting on gravestones is nothing, as is is "stealing" peices of gravestones that broke off. If you broke them off, that's another story. Sitting on a stone shouldn't be a big deal, as you should know that you'd probably be walking over bones anywhoos, seeing how cemetaries always seem to hold one more person, but don't really get much larger, if you get my drift. I don't think much of what you mentioned is overtly disrespectful, other then littering and destroying tombstones. And idiots do that to many establishments. Littering, IMO, is offensive anywhere (but it does greaatly take away from the beauty and serenity of graveyards).

(They might be dead.. but why not party with them? Get alittle life going through those bones, eh? ... sweatdrop j/k)

It's just funny that the orig poster is simply playing off of the novelty of graveyards then commemorating or mourning. Attempting to be "closer to death" by seeming all morbid and hanging out in graveyards doesn't seem to have any place in mourning. Choosing a cemetary as any sort of hangout (for yourself, or with others), acknowledging the dead (either in an 'inspired', or horrified manner) or not, isn't appropiate. I personally don't find making out in a graveyard compared to making rubbings of gravestones to be more irrelevant. While breaking tombstones and littering is absolutely unacceptable in my book (as the law's wink ), being a jerk or trying too hard to be goth or dark or whatever the motive, might be offensive to me, but who cares. If you like being a jerk in public "humping gravestones", or whatever, the only disrespect is done to the self in making oneself a fool. I doubt some spirit is going to feel any sort of pain from that sort of action. If kids like haunting graveyards around Halloween because the think it's spooky, let them, and let them grow up. If 'goths' want to be pretentious or wish to view graveyards as art, let them. Recognizing a place as being beautiful is one thing. But recognizing the dead is another.
I don't think hanging out in graveyard alone or at least quietly is bad at all as the respect is for the living. Cemetaries are for family members and friends who wish to honor their dead. The dead themselves require no superficial respect from strangers (Superficial? Yes. Bodies in the ground men nothing compared to the memories of the people who once lived with those skins and bones).

what about having picnics in the graveyard?

I completely agree. Hell I don't even like actually walking on the graves if I can help it. I had a friend who would climb on the gravestones, long complicated story short, we're not friends anymore.

I tend to hang around graveyards (though usually I pick the graveyard in which my older brother is buried...I feel out of place when I sit around a place where I don't have any loved ones buried) just so that I can be alone to think. It's my belief that the spirits of the deceased are most easily channeled in a graveyard as well as that there are spirits/ghosts among the graves.

So generally speaking, I wouldn't do anything there that I wouldn't do in a public park. I think that's a decent enough expectation for others. (With extra rules, of course, such as "Don't ******** play frisbee with your dog in the middle of a graveyard.") Too bad many people still have sex in parks (thus wouldn't see anything disrespectful about doing so in a cemetery). Ugh. Public sex is a turn-on as far as fantasies go...but actually doing it, that's another story.