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ok,so resently my boyfriend confessed hes gay to me,and now i hang out with him and his new boyfriend.it really hard.and so he asked if i was ok with it,and of corse i burst out all my feelings and he felt really bad.he also asked me if i missed him,of corse i said.then we had a deep phyosopical moment and he said that he loves me .like a sister and that he will always love me,all i did was cry.i asked him if he wouldnt date until i was over him,he felt bad so he agreed not to hang out with his boyfriend when he hung out with me,is compromise what a relation ship needs?why do you think he waited till we were in a serious relationship to tell me? i just wish he had come to terms with his feelings before he had asked me out cry cry heart heart crying crying crying

This is a surpringsly very common situation. Alot af the tiume a guy in deniel of his own sexualality will get himself a girlfriend to try to prove to himself and others that he is not gay.

Unfortunaltly these situations hardly ever have a happy ending. The guilt will eventually get to them and they will confess as an act of not wanting to hurt the person they so called 'loved'.

As for preventiong the situation, well its really up to the person, coming out can be a hard thing even in todays society, there is so much descrimination towards lifestyle choices.

The only way this is going to stop is if society will finally open up there eyes to the fact that love is love, and love knows no gender.

The same thing happened to one of my best friends. She and her ex were living together for a year and their relationship got really serious. She eventually found out he was cheating on her with another guy living in the house, and her ex confessed that he was gay.

It's going to be painful for a qhile, but the pain will eventually go away. =( Sometimes they're just not meant to be *hugs* If you want someone to talk or rant to - feel free to pm me.

... yyeeeaahh~~-- that seems to happen too much. I still haven't totally stopped feeling bad for myself doing that. And really, like was said, society produces a lot of insecurity, whether it's conscious or not. I'm rerly sorry.