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Posted: Tue Oct 24, 2006 4:49 pm
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Posted: Tue Oct 24, 2006 5:01 pm
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Posted: Tue Oct 24, 2006 5:28 pm
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Posted: Tue Oct 24, 2006 5:29 pm
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Posted: Tue Oct 24, 2006 5:46 pm
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Posted: Tue Oct 24, 2006 6:20 pm
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I don't really talk about religion as it pertains to me unless I'm in a context where it applies, i.e. someone asks me, I'm on this forum, or I'm in church. And people definitely ask me "Are you a boy or a girl?" more often than any mention is made of religion.
I don't lie about it though. There's nothing in my faith so far that says that I should hide my beliefs from outsiders/others/etc, so I opt for avoiding lying whenever possible, just in general.
I don't think prospective employers really need to know. I mean, for example, given that this is where the term is borrowed from, I'm all for being confident and comfortable enough in yourself to not have to hide the fact that you're gay or bi or trans. Not because sexuality is the be-all end-all of character, but because it is too often used as a detractor instead of something that simply is. But sexuality isn't the sole factor of character, whether favorably or infavorably. Someone isn't a "good person" simply because they're gay anymore than being gay makes them a "bad person." So by the same token, who I sleep with or who I worship has no bearing on how I do my job.
Which is not to say that I advocate for "don't ask, don't tell" either--I see that policy as distinct from the concept of "my sexuality not affecting my performance." I haven't quite hashed out a logical and supportable explanation as yet, though; it's just UPG for now. wink
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Posted: Tue Oct 24, 2006 7:02 pm
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Posted: Tue Oct 24, 2006 7:22 pm
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Posted: Tue Oct 24, 2006 8:36 pm
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I follow a loose "don't ask, don't tell" policy. I feel that spirituality is personal, and is really not any of anyone else's business. I do, however, wear a small pentacle, and if someone asked me about it (and didn't seem confrontational or creepy) I'd tell them what it was.
But I don't agree with Silver's telling everyone she passes. I've told my family my close friends, and my boyfriend. And I do make sure my roommates are aware of it, so if they smell incense or hear chanting or something coming from my bedroom, it doesn't freak them out. But if I'm on a job interview, it's none of their business, and they don't need to know. And I haven't told my boyfriend's family yet. I don't think that's hiding; I think that's discretion.
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Posted: Tue Oct 24, 2006 10:15 pm
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Posted: Wed Oct 25, 2006 1:51 am
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[Kudzu] I am a big fan of the broom closet in real life. In the anonymity of the Internet I am open, but I would not share my religion with co-workers. I agree. Some people can do extremely irrational things when presented with something they fear. I'm sorry people treated you like that, but I'm not surprised. On the plus side, I think if you get evidence you can take people to court for harassment.
I don't feel the need to tell people. If they know me well enough, they'll figure it out. There's absolutely no reason to go about telling people unless they really need to know. I told my parents and brother, all of whom had figured it out well before I openly broached the subject.
Discretion is key. Careful choice of words can keep you from some sticky situations. Like how a certain venerable old lady who I look up to like a grandmother asks me to, "Say one for her." I do. Just not to the same God she's thinking of. I couldn't imagine saying, "Oh sorry you're real sick and all but I can't say a prayer like that because I'm pagan and don't believe in your god." That's just heartless and uncalled for.
Incidentally, there is only one person I talk about my path with. Nobody else knows the particulars, and I wouldn't share them with anyone else. Again, it comes down to they just don't need to know.
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Posted: Wed Oct 25, 2006 5:23 am
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Posted: Wed Oct 25, 2006 9:01 am
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[Kudzu] When I founded a Pagan student group in college... My parents were personally threatened. My tires were slashed on six separate occasions. My personal property was damaged. My life was threatened multiple times. I am a big fan of the broom closet in real life. In the anonymity of the Internet I am open, but I would not share my religion with co-workers.
That is really awful. I am sorry this happened to you sad All the more reason for me to not share that information.
I remember when I was much younger, and very very open about my spirituality/religion. I mostly just got harassed for spells, most other people didn't care. I was already called names and the like, so if they (my peers) added anything religious related, I never caught it. For the most part, I liked the attention. But nothing terribly negative came out of it. When I hear (or read) about stuff like what [Kudzu] went through it just solidifies my stance on keeping that information to myself.
reagun ban I got accidentally outed by a Polishman in work, they apparantly don't have the same issues over there with Ethnic differneces (in his words): as long as they're white.
Wtf? wtff? scream *starts swearing incohearantly* I am also sorry that happened to you.
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Posted: Wed Oct 25, 2006 9:18 am
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Posted: Wed Oct 25, 2006 9:49 am
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Now, as promised, how a feel about it in others...
I can understand it as a defense mechanism, an unfortunately situation that one must hide, but that is the reality of the situation in some areas.
Also, blaring ones faith out for public consumption has never set well with me... One should not wear the symbols of their religion as heraldry (advertise), unless they intend to champion said religion... We call this looking for trouble. Same holds true for cross-wearers, but they are in a comfy majority, or rather, are more accepted.
Then again, crosses, pentacles, and even ohms are becoming regarded as just jewelry, rather than religious symbology. rolleyes
Now, on a personal level, if someone decieves me in this regard, directly and intentionally, I will treat with them as any other liar. How I'll react depends on the person, our established relationship (or lack thereof), and the circumstances arround the event... Also, I try to take into account articles of faith that require deception under certain circumstances, such as the Druze, and other small mystery groups. But for my part, I'd rather be told to mind my own business, than be lied to.
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