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Posted: Sat Sep 09, 2006 12:07 pm
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Posted: Sat Sep 09, 2006 12:20 pm
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Posted: Sat Sep 09, 2006 2:04 pm
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Posted: Sat Sep 09, 2006 2:52 pm
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Posted: Sat Sep 09, 2006 6:49 pm
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Posted: Sat Sep 09, 2006 10:08 pm
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Posted: Sat Sep 09, 2006 11:25 pm
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Posted: Sun Sep 10, 2006 9:50 am
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Posted: Sun Sep 10, 2006 12:12 pm
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Posted: Sun Sep 10, 2006 2:38 pm
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Posted: Mon Sep 11, 2006 12:51 am
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Posted: Mon Sep 11, 2006 1:23 am
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Posted: Mon Sep 11, 2006 11:51 am
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Posted: Mon Sep 11, 2006 12:09 pm
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TatteredAngel Departing from a few others here, the nature of their reality is very important to me. That's my first step, because I have a hyperactive imagination and found early on how easy it was to lead myself, which then meant worse trouble in the long run. That said, determining reality isn't easy, and sometimes I'm really just guessing. Granny Weatherwax once said, and I'm paraphrasing: "There's only three things you need to know about magic: What's real, what's not, and what's the difference" Can something which isn't real hurt you? No. Can protecting against something which isn't real hurt you? No. Is there anything to be lost from doing so? No. Is there anything to be gained? A multitude: You can retrospectively analyse the situation and run the "did it really happen, what did others around me get, how is my shielding, where do I need to improve". And that's what I'm thinking off hand. Turn it around. Make the gribbly real and ask the questions again. Now what's the difference.
TatteredAngel So I determine the best I can the nature of something before trying to deal with it. Nothing to stop you doing that from behind a shield.
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Posted: Mon Sep 11, 2006 12:50 pm
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reagun ban Make the gribbly real and ask the questions again. Now what's the difference. For me, it's how I deal with it. If I deal with something as real and external, then decide that it's actually internal, I have a real hard time switching gears. I acknowledge it as a probable failing, and maybe I should be working on changing that. But grounding myself in relation to something in my own mind and grounding myself in relation to something outside of it have always been two different things for me. I'm not sure how to separate the internal and external so that how I deal with them doesn't conflict.
Maybe the reality of something shouldn't be such a big sticking point for me, but it always has been, and the difference has always been an issue in my life.
I... let me try to describe what I mean and why it's a problem for me, and hope it doesn't sound as silly as it might. When I was a kid, and got the acute feeling that something was in my closet, and assumed that there was indeed Big Bad lurking in there that I should be cautious of before going and investigating the truth of it, I built up a monster in my head. Any assumption of the reality of that monster made it worse for me. So even when I went and yanked open the door in broad daylight with all the lights on, that monster was there in my head because I'd let it be real.
I feel like now that I'm grown up, the same principles apply. I can make the monsters in my head practically crippling, and even if I know afterwards that they aren't real external entites, I've allowed them enough reality that they're much, much harder to shake.
And also, I'm not trying to stonewall here. If it honestly shouldn't be a difference, any advice on getting over my particular hangups would be great. I'm here to learn after all.
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