My Boyfriend (Advice Needed!)

[cheyenneOKAY]

My boyfriend is sexually attracted to males but fell in love with me? He is a gender-fluid by the way if it matters. Should I enjoy our asexual relationship or should I just break up with him even though I love him? yum_strawberry  

[Ebania]

So, if I'm understanding correctly, he is romantically attracted to you, but not sexually, right? If that's the case, the answer to your question -- where you should go from here -- is something you have to answer yourself. Can you handle a completely asexual relationship, potentially forever? Are you comfortable with that possibility? Have you considered how you will handle your own sexual feelings, and how he might feel the day he has to tell you that he's incapable of returning them?

Everyone's different, but from how you described your situation, it sounds a bit problematic, and it sounds as if this can get tense or explosive in the future if you're not clear about what it is you want and need from a relationship with this guy. Breaking up with him because he cannot have sexual chemistry with you, when you might need that sexual chemistry, is not cruel to him or to yourself; it might be what's best for the both of you to pursue what it is you want.  

[Levina-jade]

Ebania

So, if I'm understanding correctly, he is romantically attracted to you, but not sexually, right? If that's the case, the answer to your question -- where you should go from here -- is something you have to answer yourself. Can you handle a completely asexual relationship, potentially forever? Are you comfortable with that possibility? Have you considered how you will handle your own sexual feelings, and how he might feel the day he has to tell you that he's incapable of returning them?

Everyone's different, but from how you described your situation, it sounds a bit problematic, and it sounds as if this can get tense or explosive in the future if you're not clear about what it is you want and need from a relationship with this guy. Breaking up with him because he cannot have sexual chemistry with you, when you might need that sexual chemistry, is not cruel to him or to yourself; it might be what's best for the both of you to pursue what it is you want.

THIS is the best advice i've ever read, and I second everything she said.  

[Ebania]

Thank you! emotion_hug

Levina-jade

THIS is the best advice i've ever read, and I second everything she said.

 

[cheyenneOKAY]

Ebania

So, if I'm understanding correctly, he is romantically attracted to you, but not sexually, right? If that's the case, the answer to your question -- where you should go from here -- is something you have to answer yourself. Can you handle a completely asexual relationship, potentially forever? Are you comfortable with that possibility? Have you considered how you will handle your own sexual feelings, and how he might feel the day he has to tell you that he's incapable of returning them?

Everyone's different, but from how you described your situation, it sounds a bit problematic, and it sounds as if this can get tense or explosive in the future if you're not clear about what it is you want and need from a relationship with this guy. Breaking up with him because he cannot have sexual chemistry with you, when you might need that sexual chemistry, is not cruel to him or to yourself; it might be what's best for the both of you to pursue what it is you want.

I actually would rather enjoy a asexual relationship. Sex has never really been my thing. Plus he doesn't mind getting a bit sexual (Me giving him blowjobs,handjobs,etc.) It's just sex that scares him and I don't really mind blowjobs or handjobs because I don't like the idea of being pleasured by anyone but myself (It's easier that way). Thank you. x I think he is the one. c;  

[Ebania]

I'm super relieved to hear that, and I'm happy for you. Best of luck with him. ^__^

cheyenneOKAY

I actually would rather enjoy a asexual relationship. Sex has never really been my thing. Plus he doesn't mind getting a bit sexual (Me giving him blowjobs,handjobs,etc.) It's just sex that scares him and I don't really mind blowjobs or handjobs because I don't like the idea of being pleasured by anyone but myself (It's easier that way). Thank you. x I think he is the one. c;

 

[johnlennonandcupcakes]

Depending on your dynamic, I think it's definitely possible to have a sort of open relationship with him. If you two are amazing together, you can be life partners forever, and the both of you can maybe have flings on the side if that's what suits your fancy.

You have to talk to him about what he wants, as well.