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How is your ex contacting you? The best way to handle this is to cut off all ties with him and never answer anything he sends you. You're not wrong for wanting to stay faithful and you shouldn't listen to what he's saying. He's being a child because he can't get what he wants. Try to block him on any site you think he can get to you, don't answer his texts or phone calls if he can send those to you. In the end he can fume all he wants, but you don't have to listen to it. If he continues, you can take it to the police and say that he is harassing you and see what can be done about it (save any messages or anything like that that shows how he is harassing you if you can. Number of phone calls and time stamps, private messages on sites, texts, even witnesses who have seen it will help). Maybe the threat of the law will get him to back off.

What is it?

You don't have to hate him, but you don't have to deal with him either. Either way, what he's doing isn't right and his inner struggles shouldn't have to affect you like this. He's got his own problems and they're his alone, but he's taking his anger out on you with isn't fair. Worrying about him wont help. Worry isn't what he wants. He wants you to cheat, so how much you still care about him wont matter. Sometimes it's best just to let go of someone, or at least push back their problems out of your head. You can't help him, it's best not to waste your time worrying over someone who doesn't want you to be happy.

I'm sorry if I sounded harsh or anything. It's just not fair seeing you worry over how this guy feels when he isn't thinking about you at all.

I really hope he'll lay off you soon.