- Soooo.
I dated this guy for three years. We were planning to get married. He was my best friend. He was sweet, and one of the nicest guys I'd ever met. He lives kinda far from me and he'd drive down in the middle of the night to see me if I was super upset. Everything was amazing!!!
Then two years passed and he started to turn into a jerk. He stopped caring, he stopped being cute. He hated all my friends. He stopped trusting me and went through my phone all the time. I even dropped all my friends to make him happy. Except, he was NEVER happy anymore. I did everything wrong in the relationship.
He became abusive mentally. Sometimes a little bit physically. He posted really horrible things about me on the internet, he got mad at everything. We were always fighting. He cheated on me. Fights were always my fault. He NEVER did anything wrong. It was always me.
The last time I saw him we "made love", although looking back, maybe I was making love, but he was just screwing me one last time before he left for good.
It's been a year and I really, really missed him. Even though he did all those horrible things, I missed the guy I met at the beginning, The guy that was my best friend and the person I loved. I unblocked his number and texted him. We started talking again. He said he was so sorry for hurting me and that he had changed. We've hung out a few times and we still have feelings for each other. At least, I have feelings for him. I still love him. We even..well...we got close again.
Lately I've been trying to hang out with him, but he always blows me off. He always has an excuse. He has no gas in his car, he fell down the stairs, he has a headache. (Unless he wants to get laid. Then he has all the time and gas in the world.) I know him. If he wanted to hang out he'd make it happen. And I know for a fact he was up near me a couple days ago to see his friends, even though he had told me he was out of gas. I asked him if he wanted to say hi to me that day and he told me he was too busy. Apparently just too busy for me.
So today he texted me, telling me he was sorry for being so rude and for not texting me. I told him it was okay and then he tells me I haven't been texting him either, so he's not the only one to blame. I explained to him how every time I try to invite him to hang out he can't, so I've been waiting for him to come to me. Well, he asks if I can hang out tonight and I tell him I'm working all night. Buuuuttt, since I'm such a nice person, I tell him I'm willing to blow off work at the end of the night if he wanted to hang out. But all of a sudden he's busy. It's been like, a minute since he invited me to hang out. He sure moves on fast, doesn't he?
Ugggh, I guess the point of all this is I'm wondering if I should just give up? Being constantly blown off by him hurts. And then having him always trying to get in my pants when we do happen to hang out makes me feel used. :/ I still love him, but how many second chances should I give this guy? Do you guys think he's changed, because it doesn't feel like it.
