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 Posted: Fri Dec 14, 2012 8:44 pm
 
Okay so This has been annoying me for a while now. It is the holiday season and this year is not the same because it's a two weeks away from Xmas and my sister and me have none done any shopping for the kids in our family. She has not even talked about it let lone putting up the tree so I put the tree up a few weeks ago and started to order my own gifts.
She got paid two days ago and said she was not going to shop for herself until after Xmas, okay fine, but whatever about the gifts for the kids in our family?
I went on ahead and did half of the shopping our our parents because I really should not be waiting around for her to call the shots and second I know I suck at saving my money so I might as well start the Xmas shopping.
Anyways the thing I need an opinion on is this- I brought mom a watch and a twenty five dollar gift card to Red Lobster and I got dad a new coat. My paycheck was a hundred and twenty three and all that cost 55 bucks and before that I had to get two things for my car, got some soda and something to eat so I am down to at least thirty to twenty bucks, I still have to check my account to be sure.
I wrapped everything up but I don't know if I should put my sister's name on it because normally we put to whoever from us (me and her)
But since she didn't contribute let alone even talked about when she was going to shop for others I don't feel like her name should go on these gifts. She makes more money than me and I spent just about my whole damn paycheck and honestly I think I would be pissed if I had to put her name on these gifts when she didn't help with nothing! Not putting up the tree, not going shopping, not even talking me about what she wanted to do.
I don't want to start anything but simply putting my name on the gift and her finding out on Xmas and then making the whole day miserable for me or anyone, but credit needs to be where credit is due and she hasn't earned it.
At this point I expect her to shop for the kids in our family because I feel like I have done my part, not to mention I am near broke even though mom is gonna give us money next week to shop for ourselves. We normally shop together and bounce ideas off of each other and I would be willing to do that if she asks but if she doesn't then she is on her own to figure it out.
So what do you think and what would you do?
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Posted: Fri Dec 14, 2012 8:49 pm
If I understood... Usually you and your sister contribute to buy a gift for your parents.
This year you bought the gift alone, so you should only write your name...
Did you ask her if she wanted to buy gifts to the kids ? When she said she won't buy anything for herself, she didn't say she won't buy something for others ...
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Posted: Fri Dec 14, 2012 8:51 pm
You could also bring it up saying I already bought mom and dad gifts, have you done your christmas shopping?
Like that sounds better than saying direct : I bought mon and dad gifts, since you didn't pay, I'll just write down my name.
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Posted: Fri Dec 14, 2012 8:56 pm
XxAriaxX If I understood... Usually you and your sister contribute to buy a gift for your parents. This year you bought the gift alone, so you should only write your name... Did you ask her if she wanted to buy gifts to the kids ? When she said she won't buy anything for herself, she didn't say she won't buy something for others ...
That is correct, but we normally buy all the gifts together as far as planning and purchasing goes. I didn't ask her anything and she never came to talk me about anything either. She just said she was going to buy her own gifts after Xmas but as far as gifts for other go, she has not said anything.
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Posted: Fri Dec 14, 2012 8:56 pm
I think you should put your own name on it, but talk to her about it.
Say something like "Hey, did you do your Christmas shopping yet?", or something along the lines of that.
Maybe she forgot? I know how that is sometimes, I'd completely forget until the week prior, and then I'd stress out about not having anything done (Halloween this year, for example. ><). If that's the case, maybe she could give half the money back to you, and you could put both you names down. (:
But whatever you choose to do, I strongly recommend talking to her. There's no use avoiding it and then making Christmas horrible because she's angry at you, right?
Good luck! <3
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Posted: Fri Dec 14, 2012 8:57 pm
XxAriaxX You could also bring it up saying I already bought mom and dad gifts, have you done your christmas shopping? Like that sounds better than saying direct : I bought mon and dad gifts, since you didn't pay, I'll just write down my name.
I suppose I could do that to see where her mind is at. I just kind of feel like she might be mad at me for whatever since she goes into these childish periods of not talking to me and then telling mom and dad that she thinks I am mad at her. But I can ask her right now.
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Posted: Fri Dec 14, 2012 9:00 pm
Spottedteddybears
I think you should put your own name on it, but talk to her about it.
Say something like "Hey, did you do your Christmas shopping yet?", or something along the lines of that.
Maybe she forgot? I know how that is sometimes, I'd completely forget until the week prior, and then I'd stress out about not having anything done (Halloween this year, for example. ><). If that's the case, maybe she could give half the money back to you, and you could put both you names down. (:
But whatever you choose to do, I strongly recommend talking to her. There's no use avoiding it and then making Christmas horrible because she's angry at you, right?
Good luck! <3
I'll talk to her about it before I put my name on it. So far I have just put the gifts under the tree without writing anything on them.
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Posted: Fri Dec 14, 2012 9:10 pm
little aishi chan Spottedteddybears
I think you should put your own name on it, but talk to her about it.
Say something like "Hey, did you do your Christmas shopping yet?", or something along the lines of that.
Maybe she forgot? I know how that is sometimes, I'd completely forget until the week prior, and then I'd stress out about not having anything done (Halloween this year, for example. ><). If that's the case, maybe she could give half the money back to you, and you could put both you names down. (:
But whatever you choose to do, I strongly recommend talking to her. There's no use avoiding it and then making Christmas horrible because she's angry at you, right?
Good luck! <3
I'll talk to her about it before I put my name on it. So far I have just put the gifts under the tree without writing anything on them.
Alright! <3
Again, best of luck! <3
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Posted: Fri Dec 14, 2012 9:11 pm
little aishi chan Spottedteddybears
I think you should put your own name on it, but talk to her about it.
Say something like "Hey, did you do your Christmas shopping yet?", or something along the lines of that.
Maybe she forgot? I know how that is sometimes, I'd completely forget until the week prior, and then I'd stress out about not having anything done (Halloween this year, for example. ><). If that's the case, maybe she could give half the money back to you, and you could put both you names down. (:
But whatever you choose to do, I strongly recommend talking to her. There's no use avoiding it and then making Christmas horrible because she's angry at you, right?
Good luck! <3
I'll talk to her about it before I put my name on it. So far I have just put the gifts under the tree without writing anything on them.
Alright! <3
Again, best of luck! <3
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Posted: Sat Dec 15, 2012 8:37 pm
I just talked to my sister and she hasn't done or said anything about the shopping because she has been low on money. So have I but she apparently has to or wants to go to summer school which is 2k so she had to put some money away for that and is just waiting on mom to give us money this week so she can help me out and told me not to put any name on the gifts.
So everything is good! Thanks for the advice! ^.^
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Posted: Sat Dec 15, 2012 9:16 pm
Glad to hear it worked out!
What I'm wondering, though, is how you managed to buy a watch and a coat for $30. O_O
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