Please just be honest... seriously.

[BugxNicole]

My friend SAYS that she's straight.
But earlier this year she did go out with 2 girls, but those are the only girls that she's ever liked.
I feel like she's lying to me. Big time. It's very obvious that she isn't straight.
I can just tell.
I do feel almost like a mother to all my friends
(I know it sounds weird, but I protect and advise them like I'm their mother) and it doesn't feel right if they lie to me.
How do I approach her about this without upsetting her?
I know she's going to say
"I'm straight, if you don't believe me whatever, you know I don't like girls."
And I'll say
"I don't know that for sure after what happened with you and (place name of the girl she dated here)."
and she'll say
"That was a weak moment, I was lonely and stuff."
and I'll say
"I'm pretty sure you didn't have a weak moment for 2 months."
and she'll say
"well she was the only one."
And I'll say
"what about (place other girl she dated name's here)?"
and she'll say
"Whatever, I don't like girls."
I think she's scared of saying who she truly is because of all the ridicule she'd get.
But I think if she's confident in who is and stops lying, then everyone will gain respect for her.
I can tell she's lying because she constantly asks for hugs from her past girl-friends.
She is always asking one of her ex's if she still loves her.
And honestly she doesn't.
I don't get why she can't be honest with herself and everyone else.  

[Testicular Diabeetus]

To be honest if she isn't ready to come out then don't force her.
It is her business not yours, yes she might very well be lying but what would you do in that situation?

Not trying to be mean but I think that you should let it go, she isn't ready yet.
Respect her for that.  

[BugxNicole]

Testicular Diabeetus

To be honest if she isn't ready to come out then don't force her.
It is her business not yours, yes she might very well be lying but what would you do in that situation?

Not trying to be mean but I think that you should let it go, she isn't ready yet.
Respect her for that.

Yes very true.
But she's come out before.
But she went back in the closet.
She was like "No, no, no. I'm straight again."
It's confusing.
She a whole lot of crap for it now.
I think if she'd start legitimately telling the truth,
instead of being wishy washy
People would have more respect for her.
She know what it's like to be out of the closet.
Our whole school took actions against her.
She got in so much trouble for kissing her girlfriend on the cheek.
When couples (who are boy girl) make out all the time.
She's scared I think.
But I won't know until she starts being honest.  

[Testicular Diabeetus]

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Testicular Diabeetus

To be honest if she isn't ready to come out then don't force her.
It is her business not yours, yes she might very well be lying but what would you do in that situation?

Not trying to be mean but I think that you should let it go, she isn't ready yet.
Respect her for that.

Yes very true.
But she's come out before.
But she went back in the closet.
She was like "No, no, no. I'm straight again."
It's confusing.
She a whole lot of crap for it now.
I think if she'd start legitimately telling the truth,
instead of being wishy washy
People would have more respect for her.
She know what it's like to be out of the closet.
Our whole school took actions against her.
She got in so much trouble for kissing her girlfriend on the cheek.
When couples (who are boy girl) make out all the time.
She's scared I think.
But I won't know until she starts being honest.

She might be trying to figure stuff out right now.
It think it's best to leave her alone about it.
She sounds stressed out, I don't think that it would be right to add more stress to her.

But I can understand why you are irritated about it, I would be too.
Maybe you should just be there for her?  

[Skarry Neon Puppeteer]

Testicular Diabeetus

To be honest if she isn't ready to come out then don't force her.
It is her business not yours, yes she might very well be lying but what would you do in that situation?

Not trying to be mean but I think that you should let it go, she isn't ready yet.
Respect her for that.

Couldnt have said it better myself. She's right, you know~ ^^ But if you have to, reassure her that our still her friend, no matter what. A friend of mine admitted she was bi, and liked me, but we still went on being friends like nothing is wrong, because nothing is. If shes a good friend, which she probably is, and so are you, it'll all be good. No matter what.

 

[BugxNicole]

Testicular Diabeetus

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Testicular Diabeetus

To be honest if she isn't ready to come out then don't force her.
It is her business not yours, yes she might very well be lying but what would you do in that situation?

Not trying to be mean but I think that you should let it go, she isn't ready yet.
Respect her for that.

Yes very true.
But she's come out before.
But she went back in the closet.
She was like "No, no, no. I'm straight again."
It's confusing.
She a whole lot of crap for it now.
I think if she'd start legitimately telling the truth,
instead of being wishy washy
People would have more respect for her.
She know what it's like to be out of the closet.
Our whole school took actions against her.
She got in so much trouble for kissing her girlfriend on the cheek.
When couples (who are boy girl) make out all the time.
She's scared I think.
But I won't know until she starts being honest.

She might be trying to figure stuff out right now.
It think it's best to leave her alone about it.
She sounds stressed out, I don't think that it would be right to add more stress to her.

But I can understand why you are irritated about it, I would be too.
Maybe you should just be there for her?

I would, but she will harp at me saying nothing's wrong.
She doesn't like when people try to help her, or be there for her.
I'm questioning our friendship, not because of this situation,
But because she hates when people care.
Like for a while last week she seemed a bit down, so I tried to like comfort her.
She was like "There's nothing to comfort! I'm fine! Why do you worry so much?"
I was like "I didn't think caring was bad sorry."
If she can't accept when I am may be a bit concerned,
How can she accept me talking to her about this?
I'm going to let the situation settle, and wait it out for a bit,
but if this pattern keeps repeating.
I'm going to talk to her about it.  

[Kaiyle Brightblade]

I think she's probably lying to herself as well as everyone else. While you are completely right that people would respect her more if she wasn't so wishy-washy, I don't think that you can make her see that. I think you should let her sort this out on her own.  

[2A30128]

She could just be experimenting. That doesn't mean she's necessarily bi. That doesn't mean she's lying.
If she doesn't want help, then it's probably best to let her take care of it herself. If she doesn't want to tell you, then don't pressure her into it.
Sexuality is a confusing thing; I wasn't absolutely sure what I "am" until recently- and I'm twenty. Don't let it bother you that she isn't sure. c:  

[Hilfin]

I would let her figure it out on her own to decide whether or not she's ready to accept herself for who she is. It's obvious she's not okay with someone accusing her of liking girls so don't.

Any time she looks like she's struggling with it just tell her.
"What does it matter if you like girls or not? It doesn't change how we feel about you."

It sounds chessy but coming from someone who has had someone use cheesy lines when they are down, it's embarrassing but it really does help make you feel a little more secure.

 

[Femme Mantis]

Like everyone else is saying you can't force her out of the closet.
I've only came out as being Bisexual to my friends and one cousin because they're the only people who won't judge me for it. Given that i think i'm a lesbian because i just really don't feel comfortable with a male in the sexual way.
Stuff like this takes time, when she does come out support her and don't let others run over her with nasty comments. Tell her to hold her head up and ignore them, it's her life not theirs.