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I posted this in the LI a while ago, but maybe I could get some advice here. heart
So I have a friend and we'll call him John, and I have another friend and we'll call him Mark.
I didn't really know John very well. My freshman year he would say, "hi" to me when I passed him walking across campus to my classes. But this year I have a few classes with him and since last semester I've grown pretty close to John and we talk about a lot of personal stuff now, like his family issues and school and things of that matter. He walks with me to my classes, and helps me out with my work when I need it, and he always has the right things to say.
So basically, John is a total sweetheart. Until Mark comes around, that is. Mark is the most sarcastic, hilarious, guy I know. But he takes his jokes way too far sometimes, almost to the point that the things he says get a little too personal and on the rare occasion, hurtful. But he's been out of line for as long as I've known him, and that's just who he is, and I can accept that most of the time.
And I guess I have a thing for John, and people have been trying to hook us up for a while now. But I'm not sure how much John knows about the situation. Mark was one of the first people who knew, but I'm not sure if he told John anything. He pokes fun at the two of us whenever we're together though, and has posted pictures of John and me on my facebook, and says s**t like, "YOU GUYS SHOULD JUST ---- ALREADY," not that either of us takes that seriously. ... If this makes any difference.
Anyway, I guess John and Mark are friends - or they hang out a lot anyway. And they're both part of my little clique (I guess you'd call it) in school. So I'll be hanging around with John, and Mark will come along and John's attitude towards me totally changes. He goes from being a total sweetheart to a complete jerk; the same sarcastic attitude and snarky comments as Mark, sometimes worse. But the minute Mark leaves, John is a total sweetheart again and acts like nothing happened.
So basically I'm like, "WTF?" about it. I've told John before that he's being a jerk, and if Mark's around, it does nothing. Well... If anything it makes him act like even more of a jerk.
How do I deal with my friend's attitude? And why do guys act different when other guys are around? Thanks in advance. neutral
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