Roommate trouble

[Kendoson]

I've been living with my roommate for about a week now and though I tried not to fall for him, I'm slowly becoming very attracted to him. I haven't told him I'm gay and I've no idea if he is or how he feels about the subject. I can't move and it's getting to the point where every time I'm around him I turn into a ball of nerves because I'm struggling not to give my feelings away and also ignore how much I want to tell him at the same time. It doesn't help that he likes to joke around with me and sometimes his jokes seem like flirty teasing but that could just be in my head. How can I know if he's gay or how he feels about the subject without giving myself away?  

[Syntria]

Bring up the subject of a gay friend or something or hell rent broke-back mountain and watch it in the livingroom but ask him "Hey I'm going to watch this but I heard it has some gay dudes in it, so you might want to not."

Hm.  

[User_2629207]

"Seriousness is the refuge of the shallow."

If he's a good friend of yours, you should tell him. But if you're worried about his reaction, I'd probably play it cool for a while until you're sure you trust him.

- Oscar Wilde.

 

[Mage_Almasy]

Exactly as safffron said, wait a while until you know you can actually trust him.
Also, I'm wondering if you might simply like him as a friend? Is this the first room mate?  

[Tsuki Nushi]

If you have a friend who is also gay, invite them over for like a movie night or something and let your roommate know. Then try to judge his reaction. If it doesn't work, or you're still unsure try inviting him to go with you and some friends to a gay bar or something.

Make sure it's with friends, that way it just seems like you're being sociable/considerate and not being like a creepy stalker.  

[No Gambling in Paradix]

Yeah, just try to do something that perhaps has a gay undertone (not sure how to explain that...) but can still be interpreted as a friendly thing. Like the movie sounds good.