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 Posted: Sun Sep 07, 2008 8:04 am
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Posted: Sun Sep 07, 2008 1:03 pm
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 Twinkle twinkle little star,
How I wonder what you are!
Up above the world so high, 
People who think the world is good are said to be looking through "rose-coloured glasses".
You, however, seem to be looking through black sunglasses. xd I don't blame you though, because some people really are worse than you expect, and you can't help but form negative views about "them". People tend to assign favourable characteristics to groups they belong in (i.e. I'm not like THAT, I'm....).
As for me, I'm on good terms with most people, but there are few people I can call close friends. Everyone has good and bad sides, and not everyone likes you either (just the manner by which people treat you conveys to you that they don't like you- it happens to me too, and I could sort of sense that when it happens). I try to be nice to people when I first meet them, and believe in their goodness and strengths. When I know them long enough, I learn from their weaknesses and evade their bad side. The only way to have friends and see the goodness of people is to bring out the good side of yourself in interacting with them. If they choose to dislike you/stay away from you/take advantage of you, then there is no need to be super nice to them like you would to a close friend. That's just being foolishy kind so that they will take advantage of the kindness you show them. I'd treat people as I'd like them to treat me, but if they don't, then forming a continuing relationship is not necessary.
In the "Person Above You" thread, you kept calling me a weakling and said my posts have no link to thought. Do you love it when people say that about YOU? You don't need to degrade others in order to feel better about yourself. Sorry if this seems discouraging, but due to this, I did not form a very good first impression of you. If this is the way you treat others, then imagine what they'd think of you and how they will treat you in response.
Most people aren't as bad as you think. But you'll only find out if you get to know them. wink Being "anit-social" is a form of withdrawal from the world. That seems like a fear of interacting with others. Don't call other people cowards now! wink Come and join the fun in this guild! Maybe it feels hard to open up, but trying doesn't hurt. You can only know us if we can get to know you! 3nodding
 Like a diamond in the sky,
Twinkle twinkle little star,
How I wonder what you are! |
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Posted: Sun Sep 07, 2008 1:14 pm
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Posted: Sun Sep 07, 2008 5:46 pm
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Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 4:20 am
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Posted: Mon Sep 08, 2008 8:02 pm
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Twinkle twinkle little star,
How I wonder what you are!
Up above the world so high,
Point taken. If you were kidding, then I take no offence. Still, it's not what the average bycomer says, so I got a bit shocked.
Well, I suppose that as long as you are unwilling to change, you'd always be in this vicious cycle. People may not change the way you want them to, because they don't know how you'd like them to change! =0
I had a friend once, who later started hating me and did little annoying things to me, yet never told me that she did. It was her other friend who kept telling me that she hated me, because she thought I kept stalking her. I couldn't understand why. I'd gladly change what bad side of me she doesn't like, but she doesn't tell me anything. One day I just decided I had enough. I talked it out with her. I told her that I asked her to eat lunch with us because I thought she had no friends at my school, not because I wanted her to stop being with her other friends. But she blamed that other girl for "lying" to me. She was embarrassed when she heard me being so open and honest with her about how I felt. It made her turn around and reflect on herself. We ended up becoming good friends. 3nodding
All I can say is, don't give up on others and don't give up on yourself. wink
Like a diamond in the sky,
Twinkle twinkle little star,
How I wonder what you are! |
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Posted: Tue Sep 09, 2008 12:59 am
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Noltic Ive just realized that i am extremely miserly and anti-social. Its gottwen to the point where there are very few people that i like. Mostly ive just noticed recently that our society is filled with cowards. I was thinking about how nobody bought Vista. They say its cus its glitchy, but XP was glitchy a hell when it started... i havent had a glitch yet on Vista, but XP screwed me the first day i installed it. The thing is people are afraid of the new, because their confident in the old and it sickens me. I just called 10 000 people cowards, and i dont care that i generalize beccause their willing to accept my words if thye know its true. Maybe im over-exaggerating. but this is really bothering me.
You know, you're kinda right.
I still have XP because I am used to it, and I don't want to deal with Vista's bullshit I have heard about.
Not having a Vista does not make me a coward.
Yes, I may not want to change it, but change is not always better. I have had only good experiences with XP, and I have heard nothing but s**t about Vista.
I'd hop on the bandwagon if, like I said, it was not glitchy, as I have heard when I was buying a computer. It probably is not now, but when I was getting a computer, Vista was very new, and I have heard from many people who owned a Vista to stay away. And before, I had an XP. So, either go with something I KNOW works, or go with something I heard is not good.
It doesn't make me a coward when I am buying something that, not only is not cheap, but it is something I have to deal with for many years.
Plus, I was used to what I have had for a long time. I was confident in something I have had for a while, and I knew worked, and I didn't have confidence in something I have heard is bad.
Of course, this is just my argument.
Also, I'm anti-social in real life also. I don't know if it as much as me being anti-social as much as I have social anxiety. I don't talk to many people, and I prefer to sit alone. I'm open around people I know, I just don't make new friends well. I'm horrible talking to people I don't know. It doesn't help that people at my college don't seem to talk to one another. It doesn't give me many opportunities to get in a conversation. Heh, one of the reasons I have headphones is to have an excuse to do something to ignore people. Not as much ignore people, but I guess to just give them an excuse not to talk to me. I dunno. I guess I just like being in my own little world.
...Bah, I need to stop being so damned anti-social. |
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Posted: Tue Sep 09, 2008 3:09 am
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Noltic ... first in the person above you game... i was just kidding. It had machiavellian pretence... thats beside the point though. I also didnt mean anti-social in a cognatative sense but a denotative sense, almost like i am against people talking to each other. Whatever the case somes out to be, i think its just more that im sick of people who make righteous claims with no history... anyone can do that, and im sick of cowards and ACTUAL weaklings. Maybe i expect too much from society, but id rather think it just sucks and needs fixing, it works out better in the end.
I guess the only thing you can do is hang with people that are not like that, and stay away from the self-righteous assholes.
And man, believe it or not, there are good people out there.
Trust me. Even though you haven't found many, they are there. |
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Posted: Tue Sep 09, 2008 1:19 pm
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Posted: Tue Sep 09, 2008 4:23 pm
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I get your jive. And you have a good point. So to each their own, right?
Well that's one way to look at it. I kinda like it.
And I know what you meant, since you said it in another post. I guess I was more referring to myself.
Myself I hate the me generation. I try to generally help people out, like holding open doors, for an example. Like in college, I hold open doors for people. Yet I have not had that happen to me once in college. A friend of mine once spent his break in high school holding open the door for everyone. On a usual day, only six people thanked him, when easily over a hundred people came and went.
I was one of the six. I feel special.
I also felt special when I saw a fat chick park in a handicapped spot, without a tag. She couldn't be more than 25. It made me feel good when I flipped her off. Shoulda taken a bat to her leg and made an honest woman out of her. (kidding, kidding)
Way I see it, I make a bigger deal than it is. I guess I focus too much on the assholes, I know. It is just those assholes piss me off, and therefore are my focus. I shouldn't be so pessimistic about it.
And I don't hate people for helping me. Sometimes I am skeptical, but I'm usually grateful.
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Posted: Tue Sep 09, 2008 11:45 pm
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Posted: Wed Sep 10, 2008 4:00 am
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Posted: Wed Sep 10, 2008 4:56 am
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Posted: Wed Sep 10, 2008 10:45 pm
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