Why are there so many mean people???

[littlegirlrai]

I'm sure that a topic like this has been posted somewhere at some other time, but I can't find it. I want to know why some individuals get off and being a$$hats? I've always had a problem with people being rude for no reason. I have a hard time arguing with people who are being unreasonable and hateful. I try not to deal with them if I can avoid it. I know that at times people pick on others to make themselves feel better. But why? I can't see myself (personally) making fun of someone and feeling anything but guilty about it. I just can't understand why there are so many bullies and trolls.

I am asking this now because not only do I have my own being to worry about being assaulted by such people, but I'm worried about my son growing up in a world with people like this. What do I tell him? How do I tell him to deal with unreasonable a$$holes?  

[Spooky Wasabi Princess]

As long as your son has a good attitude he'll be fine. My brother has a great attitude towards people like that- he ignores them completely and goes about his business. Very healthy.  

[MEOWITSTERRA]

I really don't know where these awful people come from, either. And why they come out in public.

I never know what to say to them, so I mostly ignore them <3  

[AEtherclaw]

sometimes fear and desperation  

[Rellik San]

Worst case scenario, your son will go through what I did at school, several emotional breakdowns and a psychotic episode culiminating in an attempted murder, from which, he'll withdraw from society for a number of years, before finally going to college and becomming a well liked, sociable, well adjusted, member of society.  

[littlegirlrai]

Rellik San

Worst case scenario, your son will go through what I did at school, several emotional breakdowns and a psychotic episode culiminating in an attempted murder, from which, he'll withdraw from society for a number of years, before finally going to college and becomming a well liked, sociable, well adjusted, member of society.

I hope not. I'd rather he not follow in my shoes!! I went though something...similar.  

[littlegirlrai]

Candy Bomber

I really don't know where these awful people come from, either. And why they come out in public.

I never know what to say to them, so I mostly ignore them <3

I try to ignore them, too. Sometimes they just make it so hard. It is like the more you try to ignore them, the more sh*t they give you.  

[littlegirlrai]

spooky_sez

As long as your son has a good attitude he'll be fine. My brother has a great attitude towards people like that- he ignores them completely and goes about his business. Very healthy.

I hope he addapts a similar attitude. He is just such a sweet, fun-loving, friendly baby; I'd hate to see some jerks with a chips on their shoulder ruin my little boy's out on life. confused  

[Rellik San]

To those saying ignore them. I would like to point out, it doesn't work like that, I tried ignoring them; I ended up off school for six weeks because I got beaten that badly. I'm not saying confornt them all, but just laying down and letting them walk all over you invites problems, so your kid should learn to stand up to them but without sinking to their level.  

[littlegirlrai]

Rellik San

To those saying ignore them. I would like to point out, it doesn't work like that, I tried ignoring them; I ended up off school for six weeks because I got beaten that badly. I'm not saying confornt them all, but just laying down and letting them walk all over you invites problems, so your kid should learn to stand up to them but without sinking to their level.

I do agree that it is hard to ignore them. Some will give up and go away quickly, but some a$$holes won't stop till they make their mark on you one way or another. He's only 8-months old, he's a little young, but when he's older we are thinking about enrolling him in to some kind of Martial Art class. That way he'll get to learn how to defend himself and learn restraint and discipline.  

[Rellik San]

littlegirlrai

Rellik San

To those saying ignore them. I would like to point out, it doesn't work like that, I tried ignoring them; I ended up off school for six weeks because I got beaten that badly. I'm not saying confornt them all, but just laying down and letting them walk all over you invites problems, so your kid should learn to stand up to them but without sinking to their level.

I do agree that it is hard to ignore them. Some will give up and go away quickly, but some a$$holes won't stop till they make their mark on you one way or another. He's only 8-months old, he's a little young, but when he's older we are thinking about enrolling him in to some kind of Martial Art class. That way he'll get to learn how to defend himself and learn restraint and discipline.

Alternatively teach him to bar brawl. Its the handest, most universal fighting style ever.  

[Henneth Annun]

Teach him not to make him a target in the first place, teach him how to defend himself, and make sure he has a good attitude about things and has good judgment. Regarding the people who are just plain rude, teach him not to take it personally and not to care about it. Tell him just to brush it off. That's what I do. I've grown pretty thick skin going through what I did.