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 Posted: Sat Dec 08, 2007 1:39 pm
I've always really considered myself as a Asian that, well, acts Asian (if that makes any sense)...
And I have my share of Asian Pride, of course.
I was born in Beijing, so yes- I'm a FOB.
But I also came over to the US when I was 3 and have traveled back and forth from various places of Asian to various states in the US.
Needless to say, I've long lost my Asian accent a long time ago, but I still act pretty Asian if I may say so myself.
But there has been this girl who keeps saying I'm "so white"...just because I don't have the accent..=.="
At first, I tolerated it, but recently, she's been saying that all over the place and it's really ticking me off.
She's a friend of mine I jsut made this term, so I've know her for about 3 or 4 months...>.> And she's pretty obsessed with Asian people in general (she's white, by the way)....
But she's been saying how I act "un-Asian" and I'm a twinkie..>.> And it kind of really bothers me now, I just haven't told her (I'm the type who doesn't speak out much).
So...how should I deal with it?
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Posted: Sat Dec 08, 2007 3:31 pm
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Where I wanna hold you tight…First, try to talk clearly about it to your friend. Real friends are supposed to share what's on their mind without hesitation. If she doesn't get the message, that person juste isn't worth your time and friendship.
If you're too much of a quiet / shy person, entrust about it to a friend that will understand you. Then, ask that person to come with you and talk to that girl you mentioned. Things should work out well afterward. 3nodding It feels so right
Tonight…
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Posted: Sat Dec 08, 2007 6:26 pm
Well, first tell her that not all asians have accents. I don't have one. Neither do most of the asians I know. Just because you don't "sound" like an asian doesn't mean you're not one. And anywayz, english is probably your first language or you learned it before you adjusted completely to whatever you speak. =]
If she was really your friend she would understand and stop bugging you about it
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Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 5:43 am
That's a weird friend you have there.... so what if you're un-asian as she says? I don't get what the big deal is. Make a big deal of something attributed to her and make her see how it feels.
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Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 9:19 am
Well, it's as I said before.
I'm not really one to make big deals about people saying crap about me and stuff, but after a while, it is kind of getting annoying.
And I consider being Asian something I can be proud of, so when someone says I'm "un-Asian" I get really pissed because of all the Asian Pride thing. >.>
Anyways, maybe I'll see how things go. 3nodding
I speak fluent Mandarin, and I know it fluently, I just learned English the same time I learned Mandarin, so my accent is gone after middle school.
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Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 12:43 pm
Well, let her know that you grew up in both places ever since you were young, so it is natural that you don't speak with an Asian accent when you speak in English. I have a Chinese friend who speaks English without an accent and he says everytime he goes back to China, he says that the people over there can never guess that he came from the US because of his lack of an American accent. And if if bothers her so much that you are "acting white", I believe you said, then tell her if it bothers her so much then you go ahead and just speak Mandarin to her.
She also needs to know that it annoys you. You probably grew up in two different cultures (I'm Vietnamese and I know plenty about Vietnamese culture although I speak a little) and you know about both cultures and it's natural that you blend in with in a each environment because you are used to doing that.
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Posted: Sun Dec 09, 2007 2:08 pm
lol. okay I'll tell her something like that i guess.
I've just always hung around with my Asian friend back where I used to live in Texas.
But I've recently moved to Virginia and I find that there's only Korean people there, and many of them don't really like me. >.> And they ALL (well, 90%) have Asian Accents and everything.
**sigh**
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Posted: Mon Dec 10, 2007 7:24 am
I agree, you should talk to your friend. You said that she loves everything Asian, maybe that's why she keeps bugging you about it.
She can't be asian no matter what and there you are with your american accent being "un-asian" in her eyes. Try to tell her that just because you don't have the asian accent anymore, that doesn't mean you stop being Asian.
People tend to stereotype us with a certain "look" (or in your case, accent)...and anyone who's different from that stereotype is always accused of losing their asian self, which is totally not true cause when you're proud of who you are, then you'll never lose that asian part of you no matter what.
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Posted: Wed Dec 12, 2007 9:09 am
well not everyone will lose there asain ancent THAT easily plus if you have AP then ya i finally got my asain accent away but now i sound like a baby!and also i know how to talk in my accent only to my parents because they want me to be more "asain ish"and well so ya makes it feel all weird and so but yeah!so dont think of it and anyways so dont even try to answer this question!
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Posted: Sat Dec 15, 2007 3:54 pm
I said FOB to my friend and they said Fall Out Boy xD
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Posted: Sat Dec 15, 2007 5:48 pm
PureKorean I said FOB to my friend and they said Fall Out Boy xD
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Posted: Sun Dec 16, 2007 7:39 am
i still have my accent but i see no reason to use it on the internet XD Hawaii everyone asian as an accent called pedgion.
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Posted: Sun Dec 16, 2007 6:08 pm
Just say: "You're white. You have no right to judge my *Asian-ness."
*Asian-ness is totally a word.
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Posted: Sun Dec 16, 2007 6:12 pm
Moon Light Ninja ninja One more night , I wanna be with you
Where I wanna hold you tight…First, try to talk clearly about it to your friend. Real friends are supposed to share what's on their mind without hesitation. If she doesn't get the message, that person juste isn't worth your time and friendship.
If you're too much of a quiet / shy person, entrust about it to a friend that will understand you. Then, ask that person to come with you and talk to that girl you mentioned. Things should work out well afterward. 3nodding It feels so right
Tonight…
Yes I totally agree with the wonderful advice given by Moon Light Ninja wise words were given. I mean if you can't honestly say anything to her really what kind of friend is she? It will be much easier once you've talked to her 3nodding
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Posted: Sun Dec 30, 2007 4:18 pm
i say try talking 2 a councilor or teacher u trust but if u don't wanna do that jst don't hang out w/ her anymore.
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