So guys.. (plz read its important)

[Chaotic Tragedie]

Yeah, Yeah, you've probably all heard it before, but I seriously need some advice. I mean I've talked God knows how many people about it, but it just never really seemed to help.

Anyways, here's my issues. My ex-boyfriend, Jesse14. (Yes he was my boyfriend in real life, not JUST gaia) Broke up with me exactly two weeks ago today,...

And I'm still really torn up about it. I can't go a day in school without seeing him and just breaking down. neutral I mean, one day I'll seem fine with it, and then the next i'll be all like 'WHY GOD WHY T__________T?!'

He broke up with me because he said that he didnt 'love' me anymore, and that I needed to figure things out with myself before I started to date again, and I mean basically, it literally killed me inside. I didnt eat for days, and I couldnt sleep without dreaming about him. Yeah, yeah, you guys probably are thinking 'God, why is she bitching about this rolleyes .' But its alot harder to deal with than it seems..

We were dating off and on since 5th grade neutral , or well we've liked eachother more than friends,... We finally actually went steady in 8th grade after he broke up with my best friend whom he was dating for 3 months. And we were together even since,... Yesterday would of been our tenth month anniversary.

And you know, its hard,... because I cant just go from his girlfriend, and just switch to his friend in two weeks whenever all I've known is huggy-huggy, kissy-kissy with him. And I know it annoys him and stuff, but everyday I ask for hugs and such... And I know that I shouldnt even have physical contact with him, because it just makes it hurt even more.

I know that I still like him but, I dont even know if I would take him back if he would ask me back out neutral and I really hate it, because I'm so confused. I used to have a reason to go to school but, now I'm just like Ehhh neutral . -sigh- And I dont know what to do,... Everyone tells me to just wait it out and see what happens,.. But I dont want to neutral

So My Wonderful Guild Full Of People Who Know About Stuff,



What Should I Do?  

[The Slate Scholar]

Okay. This is going to sound bitchy, but you need to hear this.
I will warn you, I'm not one to pat your pack and say it'll be all
right. That isn't truthful. In fact, as this develops you may even
begin to hate me. However, you need to think deeply about what
I'm about to say.

Honestly, you are two years younger than me. That places you
in either the ninth or eighth grade. Honestly? That is WAY too
young to decide what you define as "love".

Let's say this relationship DOES go on a continues to last for your
four years of highschool. Everything goes right; sure you've had
your scurmishes and little picky fights, but in the end it ultimate-
ly works out. Well then, what happens after high school? Do you
ruin your future by "settling" for an underrated college instead of
going for your dream, just to stay with him? Do you ruin your fu-
ture and follow him to his college, even though there is NOTHING
there for you? Or do you end the relationship, causing yourself
ANOTHER heartbreak you have to work through and STILL get up
to face classes?

Sure, you may "But we could make it work". However, honestly,
how many long-distance relationships ACTUALLY work out? It
seems you either chose losing your future or losing your boyfriend.
Guess which one I'd choose to lose.

Honestly, you are focussed solely on the present and it's blocking
you eyes from the future. Inside of staring at the blades of grass
illuminated by the sun, look at the sun setting and how much dif-
ferent teh grass will look i nthe twilight and then moonlight.

Call me cold, call me whatever you like, but here is a fragment of
my past you may want to know: I had a girlfriend in the 5th grade.
We cared for each other deeply and I thought my life was complete.
However, in 7th grade I decided [stupidly] that I would go to a dance
alone [it was the Christmas Dance the Middle School held]. While
there, I saw her and planned to go talk to her. However, she was
with another friend of hers and they were, in fact, making out in
a dark corner of the dance. It broke my heart and I spent the next
three hours sitting near the windows of the cafeteria crying my eyes
out. I closed my heart from then on, until I met someone online,
and like the cliche relationship it broke apart after about two years.
Lovely, no? I've completely closed off my heart from love while I
am in school.

You can use that imformation any way you like. But honestly, here
is one thing you NEVER think of. You may have a whole group of
friends who you adore. However, but choosing that one special per-
son in your life, you unknowingly set them apart from your other
friends. You begin to spend more and more time with you boyfriend
while seperating yourself from your other friends. Think about it:
Have you ever told a friend you couldn't go out because you are
doing something with your boyfriend? Or did you realize that you
haven't spoken to them like you do when something goes bad in
your relationship? Do you honestly still have the same bond with
them you had previously?

Honestly, I believe you are very selfish and self-centered in this case.
Think about you. You admitted in the very first paragraph that you
have talked to many friends [who have probably tried to console
you]. However, instead of thinking it through logically what they are
saying, you instead run to the Guild to get even more advise that
probably reiterates what your friends said. We don't know you in
real life and thus cannot be there for you like your real friends.
Who do you think has more influence on your life: warm bodies or
lifeless pixelated images? You are so self-centered you cannot see
that your ex-boyfriend told you he didn't love you anymore. You
cannot make someone fall back in love with you; if he didn't like
the real you are you going to create a false self to just be with him?
"But I can change! I can!" Why would you like a person who doesn't
like who you are? BE HAPPY YOU ARE EVEN HIS FRIEND AT ALL;
SOME DON'T EVEN HAVE THAT PLEASURE AFTER A BREAK-UP.
Stop being so greedy, you ungrateful person. You have friends
and a friendly relationship with someone you love. Your friends
will always be there for you, and yet you are so blind to them
that you must seek out something more from someone else.

Get over it. I've worked through two of these things and then had
to face a heartbreaking conversation with a friend who recently
got a boyfriend. She won't go to the movies with me because she
has one and it "wouldn't look right" to be out with me. Also, I'm
struggling with a love I feel for two of my closest friends. Try deal-
ing with THAT and STILL make straight As in school while silmul-
taneously maintaining a "good boy" personna. I fight with myself
daily, and all you seemingly have to work with right now is "ZOMG
HE BROKE UP WITH ME. I WANT HIM BACK." feud with another
person. You lose sleep, you don't eat, you dream of them so what?
You still have contact with him. With my ex's, on has recently gone
annorexic and could day any day, and the other I haven't seen or
talked to in over three years.  

[BreathLessX]

Well, Me and Jake dated for two years. We broke it off for the distance and for sadly he went with my sister. I'm not "completely" over it but how I got better was just to think of good times, smile, have a good cry and think that we must go on. me and Jake still semi talk and I've had 3 BFs since then. (sadly the last one is the best <3) My friend had the same problem as you. She was heart broken. I don't really remember what happen. but she seem to cool down and like I said thought of good times. She likes the pictures we friends (sara and me) assemble for her. <3 Sorry if it's not much help. I'm still experiment with Love at 17 ^^

<3's For Chaos <3  

[Chaotic Tragedie]

Wow Slate,...
srsly. Thanks.  

[Puppetry]

Slate, are you telling us highschool kids to not pursue relationships at the moment, and wait for college?