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A few years ago, before I got heavily involved in the arts community as I am now (Where I find polygamy most common, seemingly) I hadn't a thought of polyamory and everything. If I heard polygamy, my thought was one man "owning" plenty of women in a third world corrupt state sort of dillema.
However in the past two years now I've learned a lot about it, and my opinions have grown and shifted with the many different forms of polygamist relationships I have encountered.
I am personally monogamous, simply because I am jealous and I prefer my relationships to be very one on one, very close, and very private. However, I find polygamy to be perfectly acceptable under one single question;
"Are all partners knowing and accepting of this it?"
In this, I find it perfectly acceptable, and that is pretty much it right thar.
I have three prime examples of polygamy, from personal friends I know, just because I find the variety of things interesting and I would like to share.
The first is a friend of mine, whom is in a polygamist relationship with 4 other women. 3 of them (her included) are sexually active, where as two of them have chosen not to be, and it is a non-sexual relationship. However they still all share that bond. My friend is the social butterfly in their relationship, and in a way, ties them all together. She also has a fiancee who is a male (Some of them have exterior couples as well, all involved), and he is accepting of it, and only slightly involved but knows them all well. It is an interesting and effective relationship.
The second is one friend of mine whom has multiple partners. They all know of each other, but it is treated in the way of an open relationship that they may go off and have other escapades or relationships, as long as they're open about it. Her general rule, and I find this an interesting one, is that even though her partners are not relative in any way, if she leaves one she will leave them all. In her eyes it is an equal treatment and should remain as such.
The third is actually crumbling away recently, but nonetheless a good example. Two girls, both friends of mine, both have boyfriends. On a side note both of their boyfriends are long-distance for the time being (Both have met physically multiple times). These two girls had feelings for eachother, and this went on for a while before they both agreed to confront their partners. They agreed that if they knew about it, it was fine. The men, both being heterosexual, have had no interactions and are actually just really good chums.
So there you are, just a few random examples of polygamy in my personal experience for anyone lacking in experience of such.
Once again, it is not for me in the slightest, but that's a perfectlly fine alternative in my opinion.
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