I found this really great article that I wanted to share, especially since this tends to be the section where people post about love stresses.
I have a friend that I consider my "soul mate." I think that it's easier to love and be connected to a friend in this way than it is a romantic partner. Like she said, it puts too much pressure on the relationship. They are two very different types of love and are hard to balance in one relationship.
My "soul mate" is my best friend, not my boyfriend. My relationship with my boyfriend is too stressful and full of turmoil.
I have another boy (my best friend) that I love dearly, more so than my boyfriend of two years. But it's a different kind of love. I can be myself completely with him, I can be sad, I can be rude, I can be snarky, overjoyed, giggly, hyper, emotional, boring, anything. He knows exactly what I need and gives it to me freely whenever he can. I love when he talks about his girlfriend (they have been together slightly longer than I've been in my relationship), I love seeing him happy. I am just as much there for him as he is for me. I swear that he is the male version of myself, only better. He is the "opposite side of my coin" as the expression goings.
Things with my boyfriend are not so great. Honestly, I am currently wondering if it would be better for myself to break off the relationship as it is starting to become quite emotional and mentally abusive. Even his older sister is telling me that it might be best if I leave him (his entire family loves me and what I have been trying to do to help him with his issues). I am an incredibly patient and loving person, but he makes it hard to be either. For example, he was telling me that I need to weigh about 110lbs to be healthy and attractive. At 110lbs and 5'5", I'd be underweight, even for an athlete that is the bare minimum for healthy. He is currently 280+lbs and has been trying to get to 200lbs for about 3 years now.. and has only succeeded in gaining weight.. which he blames on me. I don't live with him (long distance relationship due to me being in college) so every decision is his own, and I can not force him to go to the gym (which we did everyday when I was living with him) or watch what he eats. When I was with him, he weighed close to 230lbs, but the "stress" I put him under makes him gain weight. And the icing on the cake in this situation is that I told him about how my friend's boyfriend had made a comment about how her body could be more toned, and he asked why she was still with him and said that that guy was an a**hole. Like WTF? xD
But I still love him and want to help him with his issues. I think that if I can convince him to find outlets for his frustrations, that he'd be happier and we could go back to our old relationship, or even something better.
What are your thoughts on soul mates?
Have you found someone who is both lover and soul mate?
What do you look for in a guy?
What are your relationship issues?
I have a friend that I consider my "soul mate." I think that it's easier to love and be connected to a friend in this way than it is a romantic partner. Like she said, it puts too much pressure on the relationship. They are two very different types of love and are hard to balance in one relationship.
My "soul mate" is my best friend, not my boyfriend. My relationship with my boyfriend is too stressful and full of turmoil.
I have another boy (my best friend) that I love dearly, more so than my boyfriend of two years. But it's a different kind of love. I can be myself completely with him, I can be sad, I can be rude, I can be snarky, overjoyed, giggly, hyper, emotional, boring, anything. He knows exactly what I need and gives it to me freely whenever he can. I love when he talks about his girlfriend (they have been together slightly longer than I've been in my relationship), I love seeing him happy. I am just as much there for him as he is for me. I swear that he is the male version of myself, only better. He is the "opposite side of my coin" as the expression goings.
Things with my boyfriend are not so great. Honestly, I am currently wondering if it would be better for myself to break off the relationship as it is starting to become quite emotional and mentally abusive. Even his older sister is telling me that it might be best if I leave him (his entire family loves me and what I have been trying to do to help him with his issues). I am an incredibly patient and loving person, but he makes it hard to be either. For example, he was telling me that I need to weigh about 110lbs to be healthy and attractive. At 110lbs and 5'5", I'd be underweight, even for an athlete that is the bare minimum for healthy. He is currently 280+lbs and has been trying to get to 200lbs for about 3 years now.. and has only succeeded in gaining weight.. which he blames on me. I don't live with him (long distance relationship due to me being in college) so every decision is his own, and I can not force him to go to the gym (which we did everyday when I was living with him) or watch what he eats. When I was with him, he weighed close to 230lbs, but the "stress" I put him under makes him gain weight. And the icing on the cake in this situation is that I told him about how my friend's boyfriend had made a comment about how her body could be more toned, and he asked why she was still with him and said that that guy was an a**hole. Like WTF? xD
But I still love him and want to help him with his issues. I think that if I can convince him to find outlets for his frustrations, that he'd be happier and we could go back to our old relationship, or even something better.
What are your thoughts on soul mates?
Have you found someone who is both lover and soul mate?
What do you look for in a guy?
What are your relationship issues?
