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Posted: Tue May 28, 2013 7:27 pm
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My father has never told me that he is proud of my accomplishments.
I've preformed in musicals, won countless awards for my photography, and even will be a premiered designer in a Fashion Show coming up {yes I know, crazy that a 17 year old is being a premiered designer in a show, I make dresses out of recycled stuff, and this lady discovered my talent. crazy}, graduating in the top of class, and a bunch of things, and he;s never told me he was once proud of me.
I usually get the "you can do better", or "try harder". Or he comments on how the other people are better than me.
Or, he'll pick out my flaws, tell me I'm a disappointment for not being the best.
This hurts me so badly. I've cried so much that I can't any longer.
Has anyone else experienced a similar situation?
Any advice or anything I should try. I am emotionally messed up because of my relationship with him..
Do you recommend counselling?
I just want my father to tell me that he's proud, and to not look down at me like I'm a failure.
Any comments, advice or anything will be appreciated.
PM or Posts loved.
Thanks girls <3
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Posted: Tue May 28, 2013 8:09 pm
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Posted: Tue May 28, 2013 8:29 pm
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Posted: Tue May 28, 2013 9:24 pm
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Posted: Wed May 29, 2013 5:58 pm
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Posted: Wed May 29, 2013 7:05 pm
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Is your father an Asian?
Um, don't get me wrong, I'm from an Asian family too. But from years of experience and observation, what I learned is that Asian parents tend to not dish out praises freely because a) they don't want their children to become complacent, or b) they doesn't want their children to become too vain about their achievements, and c) if in front of people, it's more of giving an appearance of being humble. And then, there's also Asian parents' weird fixation on jobs like Doctors, Accountants, etc. etc. 'XDD But yeah, Amy Chua's Battle Hymn of a Tiger Mother basically sums up why Asian parents act like an a**, and if you're from an Asian family, Id recommend the book.
But if you're not Asian, just ignore my above paragraph. ^^'
There is a possibility that your dad is secretly proud of you but, being a man that he is, couldn't communicate it right to you. Perhaps you could try talking to your mum about it? Mum are usually good at conveying points to dad.
Kudos on your achievements though!
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Posted: Fri Jun 14, 2013 2:24 pm
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