Decision: Not to give him anything and tell him to get a job if he needs money :3
ok, so I'm gonna put myself out there because I'm not entirely sure what I'm gonna do about this situation
so I was in a relationship with my ex best friend for about 5 years
from my sophomore year of high school till our 3rd year in college, February of this year
he dumped me because I was too much for him
ok, he didn't want me anymore
and then a couple weeks later, he regrets it and wants to get back with me
he is technically my first relationship
and I don't want to play those break up games
so I said no
he gets all butthurt and starts texting me every hour of the day for ONE day to try to convince me to see him so I can "see" how serious he is about it and that he was gonna change for me blah blah blah, I just ignored him.
then he gives up, signs up for an online dating website, hooks with a random local chick that HAPPENS to be friends with people we knew from high school
completely embarrassing
he starts telling the girl OUR old business and the girl then tells our old high school friends what he tells her
I told him to stop and he did
[he decides to dump this girl later because he says she is going too fast for him after offering to have a kiss...]
at this point, we agreed to stay just as friends
but then, it became too much for him seeing me at bbqs and hanging out with our friends in general so one day over the summer, he decides to dump me as a friend too
after everything we shared together
THAT is unbelievable to me
regardless, today's issue is that instead of growing some balls to talk to me, he uses my friend to ask me for a promise ring back that I told him already I accidently lost a LONG time ago. The reason: his mom is terribly sick in bed with some thyroid disease and they need money for medicine, so he plans to sell the ring
ok, seriously? that ring is lost [I'm terrible with jewelry and ALWAYS lose it, he knew that], it's a very cheap ring that he bought in macy's for 300 dollars [so cheap, the silver part was starting to rub off and show pink underneath instead], and lastly, this was a random gift, nonetheless, a gift. I in NO WAY owe him anything. but I decided to be nice and considerate to his poor hardworking mother and offered him 200 dollars for the ring.
this was a couple weeks ago, so he agrees and then tells my friend to tell me that he will come for it in a couple weeks, today.
first, he is shameless and uses my friends
second, he is demanding
and third, he expects me to wait on him just like when we were in a relationship?
no, just no!
and to top it off, I went shopping with my friend and ran into his MOTHER coming home from work! I stopped by to just chat with her because I respect her. she raised my ex by herself. I asked her how she was doing and where she came from. she said she was fine and that she came back from work.
I realized afterwords that my ex was making the situation seem WAY worse that it is and therefore does not need cash right away
he has to work like everyone else does [he doesn't have a job either, HMMM]
so my proposal, either I give him my old textbooks so he can sell for cash or just give him the money he wants to get him out me and my friend's face
please share your comments with me and maybe vote in the poll too
thank you very much for reading! :3
quote me please!
ok, so I'm gonna put myself out there because I'm not entirely sure what I'm gonna do about this situation
[scroll down for tl;dr]
so I was in a relationship with my ex best friend for about 5 years
from my sophomore year of high school till our 3rd year in college, February of this year
he dumped me because I was too much for him
ok, he didn't want me anymore
and then a couple weeks later, he regrets it and wants to get back with me
he is technically my first relationship
and I don't want to play those break up games
so I said no
he gets all butthurt and starts texting me every hour of the day for ONE day to try to convince me to see him so I can "see" how serious he is about it and that he was gonna change for me blah blah blah, I just ignored him.
then he gives up, signs up for an online dating website, hooks with a random local chick that HAPPENS to be friends with people we knew from high school
completely embarrassing
he starts telling the girl OUR old business and the girl then tells our old high school friends what he tells her
I told him to stop and he did
[he decides to dump this girl later because he says she is going too fast for him after offering to have a kiss...]
at this point, we agreed to stay just as friends
but then, it became too much for him seeing me at bbqs and hanging out with our friends in general so one day over the summer, he decides to dump me as a friend too
after everything we shared together
THAT is unbelievable to me
regardless, today's issue is that instead of growing some balls to talk to me, he uses my friend to ask me for a promise ring back that I told him already I accidently lost a LONG time ago. The reason: his mom is terribly sick in bed with some thyroid disease and they need money for medicine, so he plans to sell the ring
ok, seriously? that ring is lost [I'm terrible with jewelry and ALWAYS lose it, he knew that], it's a very cheap ring that he bought in macy's for 300 dollars [so cheap, the silver part was starting to rub off and show pink underneath instead], and lastly, this was a random gift, nonetheless, a gift. I in NO WAY owe him anything. but I decided to be nice and considerate to his poor hardworking mother and offered him 200 dollars for the ring.
this was a couple weeks ago, so he agrees and then tells my friend to tell me that he will come for it in a couple weeks, today.
first, he is shameless and uses my friends
second, he is demanding
and third, he expects me to wait on him just like when we were in a relationship?
no, just no!
and to top it off, I went shopping with my friend and ran into his MOTHER coming home from work! I stopped by to just chat with her because I respect her. she raised my ex by herself. I asked her how she was doing and where she came from. she said she was fine and that she came back from work.
I realized afterwords that my ex was making the situation seem WAY worse that it is and therefore does not need cash right away
he has to work like everyone else does [he doesn't have a job either, HMMM]
so my proposal, either I give him my old textbooks so he can sell for cash or just give him the money he wants to get him out me and my friend's face
please share your comments with me and maybe vote in the poll too
tl;dr
My ex boyfriend/ex best friend dumps me as a boyfriend and later friend.
His mother is sick in bed with some thyroid disease.
Wants cash for old, cheap, and long-lost promise ring
Uses mutual friend to communicate to me
Saw his mother walking home from work
She seems fine
Not sure whether to give cash or old textbooks to sell
My ex boyfriend/ex best friend dumps me as a boyfriend and later friend.
His mother is sick in bed with some thyroid disease.
Wants cash for old, cheap, and long-lost promise ring
Uses mutual friend to communicate to me
Saw his mother walking home from work
She seems fine
Not sure whether to give cash or old textbooks to sell
thank you very much for reading! :3
quote me please!
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