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 Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 3:40 pm
I recently had a wonderful weekend with my boyfriend's mom and little brother. And during said weekend, his mother was telling me about my bf's childhood, and she mentioned something that happened to him that he hadn't told me yet. My boyfriend was raped by an 11 year old boy when he was only 6. I about lost it when she told me that. I cannot believe that someone would be so evil to have hurt the man I love like that. I managed to keep my cool and listen to the whole story, but on the inside I was bawling my eyes out. My boyfriend and I have a very strong psychic connection, to the point where we can almost read each others minds. He knows I was told something that he was supposed to tell me, but wasn't ready to do so yet. And I had been searching through his mind for something he had been hiding from me, and I had no idea how horrible of a memory it was that he had been hiding.
I have no idea how to verbally tell him what I know. Does anyone have any tips for how to tell him without opening a giant can of worms?
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Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 3:53 pm
I've never been in such a situation, so I'm not sure how exactly I would react. I'm sure you feel at least a little upset he never told you, but maybe he just emotionally wasn't ready. I think you should just keep this information to yourself, and wait for him to come to you. Just be supportive and let him know you care.
I hope this helped...sorry, I'm not that great with relationship advice... sweatdrop
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Posted: Sun Apr 15, 2012 4:07 pm
chesiregirl I've never been in such a situation, so I'm not sure how exactly I would react. I'm sure you feel at least a little upset he never told you, but maybe he just emotionally wasn't ready. I think you should just keep this information to yourself, and wait for him to come to you. Just be supportive and let him know you care. I hope this helped...sorry, I'm not that great with relationship advice... sweatdrop It's all good. any bit helps. I tell him everything and he knows when I'm no telling him something. I'm not too upset with him not telling me, he's done nothing wrong with that. I just worry about him being mad that his mom told me before he was ready for me to know.
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Posted: Wed Apr 18, 2012 1:14 pm
chesiregirl I've never been in such a situation, so I'm not sure how exactly I would react. I'm sure you feel at least a little upset he never told you, but maybe he just emotionally wasn't ready. I think you should just keep this information to yourself, and wait for him to come to you. Just be supportive and let him know you care. I hope this helped...sorry, I'm not that great with relationship advice... sweatdrop Well, I ended up telling him without telling him. I told him that I know he's still hiding something from me, he told me he isnt ready to deal with it yet. I let him know that I know what it is, but I won't say the words of what it is so as to not open that can of worms until he is ready to talk about it.
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