I have a few Questions for the members of this Guild

[Ryushi-Original]

Kinky DeviI

Ryushi-Original

Kinky DeviI

Ryushi-Original

Kinky DeviI

It's ok, hopefully others will read it though. Anyways, I've heard of it before. Not quite sure what it is though, if you care to explain :3

If you didn't offer to I'd probably be google-ing it xD

Well, my definition of it is this: It makes it harder for me to think clearly, to properly phrase my words, think things through, and just makes me awkward overall. I even feel a bit awkward while talking about this, it's not exactly my proudest quality...

But here's the apparently, proper definition:
"'Asperger's' syndrome is a developmental disorder that affects a person's ability to socialize and communicate effectively with others. Children with Asperger's syndrome typically exhibit social awkwardness and an all-absorbing interest in specific topics.

Doctors group Asperger's syndrome with other conditions that are called autistic spectrum disorders or pervasive developmental disorders. These disorders all involve problems with social skills and communication. Asperger's syndrome is generally thought to be at the milder end of this spectrum.

While there's no cure for Asperger's syndrome, if your child has the condition treatment can help him or her learn how to interact more successfully in social situations."

Oh, and would you mind if I shoot you a friend request?

I don't mind, but beware!
When I'm talking like I would with a friend, I'm a lot more.. out there xD

Not to worry, I have friends who act like that all the time. ^-^ Anyway, can I ask if you have any other form of contact? It makes it easier for me to contact you in general, and Gaia can be a bit of a slower way to contact people. Perhaps MSN? Skype? AIM? Any will do.

Sure, I'll PM you my AIM.

Thanks a ton, and I'll send you the request now on Gaia.  

[LittleShadowHawk]

Ryushi-Original

LittleShadowHawk

Hi! Um, I dont think ill be much help but here:

1. Im Bii sexual. Personally, i dont think ive ever been Straight XD. I think about it more as people are people, so why the hell should i have to choose who i love cause of whats in there pants?

2. Ive never been in a relationship in genral actully. But when im in situations with boys like that, i always feel kind of uncomfortable. Im sure its not all guys, but the ones i know are usally pretty demanding in what they want, whether ur dating or not. Im fairly shy, so i have a slight problem with saying "No! Go the ******** away!" In situations like that....

Anyway, i hope this was helpful! Its nice to meet u!

It was very nice to meet you, and I very much appreciate your input on my questions.

About your first answer:

I've most certainly met ladies who were bisexual ever since they were very young, and I personally agree. Why should a relationship hinder on what is in your lover's pants? It would be a sad relationship in my opinion if it was ever like that.


About your second answer:
I have to say, I'm sorry apparently all of the men that have been interested in dating you, have been demanding, I see that quite a bit too, and am told about it a decent amount when I talk to my lady-friends. It makes me sad that some if not a decent amount of men treat women like this. It really does.

Anyway, like I said above: It was nice meeting you!

Oh, and would you mind if I shoot you a friend request? If that'd be alright of course.

I dont mind at all ^^  

[CheizLord]

Ryushi-Original

CheizLord

Ok, here's a lesbians perspective for you. I did not choose to be gay, I always was. at the small age of three without any persuation from either of my parents, I developed crushes on girls. obviously your parents aren't going to talk to you about boys or girls at the age of three, so obviously these feelings were on my own accord without any outside influence.It's been there from the start. Although I do agree it would be great to not limit who you love by whats in someones pants, but I can't do so. Im not sexually, emotionally, or mentally attracted to men, so dating one would be unfair to them and make me miserable. The only reason I came out as bisexual in the first place was because growing up I had never even heard of sexuality. so naturally when I dated I tried to date guys. I thought guys and girls were only supposed to be togther so I thought my feelings were a littl odd. After a while I was informed that people could indeed be attracted to the same sex and after that it all fell into place. upon realizing that I didn't like men at all things got a lot easier and I was a lot happier.

Just keep in mind that I hope youre not asking this guild for advice on how to be a better man and boyfriend because you think we were mistreated by men and have "switched over" and therefore know what a man shouldn't do. This is a misconception. In fact most homosexuals will tell you that its not a choice.

Anyway, I will tell you from a persons standards for men or women. Be respectful towards your partner. Don't push them into doing something theyre not ready for whether it's sex or revealing a secret. It's sounds controversial but communication is key in any healthy relationship, which involves honesty on your part, an attempt to understand their part, and not letting the unspoken issues pile up. When it comes to how to act, no one can tell you that You have to be yourself, because if you act differently then who you are that relationship is going to start based off of a lie. Someone will love for you,you just have to keep looking. However self improovement is another story, and again something only you would know. You'd be better off asking anyone close to you what flaws you can work on to become a better person and try to take their criticism constructively. They know you better then I would. However in relation to your disorder I would reccomend that before you try dating that you be sure you can maintain your disorder and that you've accepted who you are and are happy with yourself. I too sruggle with my own disorder and find that its harder to be in relationship when you don't have your disorder under control. In fact it broke me and my ex up, so keep that in mind.

Hope I helped,
cheiz

A) I actually really appreciate your responses to my questions and your opinion that naturally came with it. [I am posting through the form of "A,B,C..." because it makes it easier for me to address and points can be more easily seen]

B) I'm glad that you said that you are as I might define a "natural Lesbian" unless you'd prefer I use a different term to define women whom only date other ladies. And you are actually the first I've met that states she has had feelings for women since she was young and not really have too many feelings, if any, for men. It's very understandable in my opinion. Women are naturally much more attractive than most men, or at least in my opinion they are. No offense to guys, but women are simply superior in my opinion in most ways, if not all.

C) In fact, I know quite a few lesbians, and actually a decent amount of them (perhaps 75%) told me they simply didn't want to date men because they had been abused by them when they actually had tried dating them. They would only accept them as friends or best friends, nothing more, in fact my best friend is a lesbian. But thank you for your input on that, I'll keep that in mind whenever I speak to more of lesbians, whenever that time may come, sooner or later.

D) Not to worry, I wasn't necessarily looking for advice on how to improve myself, when I put that in, I was more following the flow of the thought I currently had in my mind. But I really do not mind any constructive criticism, I welcome it so that I may improve myself. Despite the fact you do not know me, well or for that matter, at all.

E) Before I move onto F I want to be sure, did you see what my mental condition is? If not, I'm more than glad to tell you what it is, and what the symptoms are, or the basic summary of it.

F) In regards to my mental condition, I actually have it under relative control, but on the subject of dating, I have a hard time asking anyone out, more because of the fact that I'm actually quite shy, and I consider myself rather ugly.

G) Thank you for your input on all that I posted above, I can imagine it was most likely a bit of a bother to have to read all of it, since I made it rather long. Hope you have a lovely day.

I'm not trying to hit any nerves or insult anyone here but I want to point out that if a lesbian was ever attracted to p***s in the first place or at all then shes not really a lesbian, but bisexual. Simply choosing not to date men and dating only women donesn't make you a lesbian because lesbian by definition is a someone whos sex is female who is attracted emotionally mentally and physically, to only other females. However a bisexual is defined as a a man or woman who is phyically, emotionally and mentally attracted to both sexes. Yes by choosing not be with one sex you are only limiting yourself to only that sex, but the attraction to the sex you've "chosen" not to take an interest in isnt going to go away, no matter how much you stay away from it. It's like going on a diet and saying because you're not eating chocolate you don't like it (unless you actually don't like chocloate then youre just weird). Just because you took sweets out of the picture doesn't mean you still wont picture eating it and how it tastes, and yes you can supress those feelings, but they never truly go away.

On another note if a a girl finds she thought she liked d**k, and then realizes that she doesn't thats understandable because some people don't always realize what it is that they're attracted to and I would therefore call her a lagitamate lesbian. But if her reasons are because of abuse,neglect, mistreatment, or bad expierences I'd say they're just running away from getting hurt again by being with women. which in some cases ( not all) they won't actually even be attracted to a woman but will be with her because they find it safe and familiar. Which to me is like a gay man living a straight life, meaning he'll never be in love if he's with a woman and hes gay. However if her reasons are because she found she doesnt like the way it looks, she doesn't feel the same with a man the way she does with a women, she found she didn't like it, then yes. she is a lesbian that realized she wasn't attracted to men.

Sorry for getting into that it's just something that personally bothers me because more often times then not the women who have "chosen" to take men out of the picture who call themselves a lesbian eventually go back to dating men later in life and this tends to discredit the names of lesbians who truly don't want to be with men in that way and never have. Then people wind up not taking their sexuality seriously. It's harder for lesbians too, because with gay men, there aren't many women out there that are trying to "change" a guy to get with them, but for a lot of men "changing" a lesbian becomes a goal and it gets harder to defend when men get the idea that it can be done.

As for having the ilness under control I give you credit for that. I know it can be hard no matter what disorder you may have (which I did read by the way). I'm still struggling with mine and getting better, but see it sounds to me like you need to find an agressive girl or a bold girl that will do the asking for you that finds you attractive. And despite what you may think Im sure its not impossible. smile good luck.  

[Blindekind]

Ryushi-Original

Hello to you,
Ive readed your post,and first of all,your not hidious nor ugly.
So lets starts with the questions,shall we?
Answer 1 :: Im bisexual,and lets just say,from when I whas young I whas more confused,at the age of 12 I whas getting unsure of what my sexuality whas since I had a great crush on a girl back in those days.On a certain age I accepted it,but I wasnt open with it.Later I whas more open with it,but sadly I lost aswell "friends".And now that I think about it,I always whas..
Answer 2 ::Lets just say at first that I had a verry bad experience with one guy,but a side note,I am not always that easy to handel and shy.
The guy I dated ,wasnt the sort of guy that wanted only to go in bed with the girl,nah,it whas more psychologic.I wont go any more detailed with it.But it ended up with a couple of years a great fear of boys.But in my opinion what I would like,is a compliment,compliments are always nice to get,you get apriciation for what you do and such.Talking is aswell always nice,even if its of a shooting game,its hilarious how my (male) friends get verry excited talking about it.

I'm sorry for the not so great answers,but I cant always find the words in English that I want to use.
oh,and I wish you good luck,I'm sure some girl will find interest in you. smile  

[Ryushi-Original]

Creeper the Grin

Ryushi-Original

Hello to you,
Ive readed your post,and first of all,your not hidious nor ugly.
So lets starts with the questions,shall we?
Answer 1 :: Im bisexual,and lets just say,from when I whas young I whas more confused,at the age of 12 I whas getting unsure of what my sexuality whas since I had a great crush on a girl back in those days.On a certain age I accepted it,but I wasnt open with it.Later I whas more open with it,but sadly I lost aswell "friends".And now that I think about it,I always whas..
Answer 2 ::Lets just say at first that I had a verry bad experience with one guy,but a side note,I am not always that easy to handel and shy.
The guy I dated ,wasnt the sort of guy that wanted only to go in bed with the girl,nah,it whas more psychologic.I wont go any more detailed with it.But it ended up with a couple of years a great fear of boys.But in my opinion what I would like,is a compliment,compliments are always nice to get,you get apriciation for what you do and such.Talking is aswell always nice,even if its of a shooting game,its hilarious how my (male) friends get verry excited talking about it.

I'm sorry for the not so great answers,but I cant always find the words in English that I want to use.
oh,and I wish you good luck,I'm sure some girl will find interest in you. smile

Hey! Thanks a lot for answering my questions, and not to worry, any answers are more than welcome. If you feel the need to, you're more than welcome to ask me any questions.

And can I ask what you meant by "it's hilarious how my (male) friends get verry excited talking about it."? I think you're talking about sex, but I'm not entirely sure.

And I'm sorry you had a bad experience with a boy you dated, I won't lie though: many of us are extremely interested in sex. But honestly, I personally, am not that interested, like I'm hoping to have a sexual experience with a lady one day, but if I do, I most certainly intend to date her, if she'd allow so. And treat her the way she deserves to be treated.

Oh, by the way, thanks a ton for your opinion that you don't think I'm ugly or hideous ^_^ that truly does mean a lot to me. But I really do hope some lady does find me attractive, or even cute for that matter, even though some ladies I know through online sites (we all know what everyone else looks like) have called me "adorable". I have a hard time believing that, I honestly thought they were being nice to me, since I'm usually very nice to them.  

[Ryushi-Original]

CheizLord

Ryushi-Original

CheizLord

Ok, here's a lesbians perspective for you. I did not choose to be gay, I always was. at the small age of three without any persuation from either of my parents, I developed crushes on girls. obviously your parents aren't going to talk to you about boys or girls at the age of three, so obviously these feelings were on my own accord without any outside influence.It's been there from the start. Although I do agree it would be great to not limit who you love by whats in someones pants, but I can't do so. Im not sexually, emotionally, or mentally attracted to men, so dating one would be unfair to them and make me miserable. The only reason I came out as bisexual in the first place was because growing up I had never even heard of sexuality. so naturally when I dated I tried to date guys. I thought guys and girls were only supposed to be togther so I thought my feelings were a littl odd. After a while I was informed that people could indeed be attracted to the same sex and after that it all fell into place. upon realizing that I didn't like men at all things got a lot easier and I was a lot happier.

Just keep in mind that I hope youre not asking this guild for advice on how to be a better man and boyfriend because you think we were mistreated by men and have "switched over" and therefore know what a man shouldn't do. This is a misconception. In fact most homosexuals will tell you that its not a choice.

Anyway, I will tell you from a persons standards for men or women. Be respectful towards your partner. Don't push them into doing something theyre not ready for whether it's sex or revealing a secret. It's sounds controversial but communication is key in any healthy relationship, which involves honesty on your part, an attempt to understand their part, and not letting the unspoken issues pile up. When it comes to how to act, no one can tell you that You have to be yourself, because if you act differently then who you are that relationship is going to start based off of a lie. Someone will love for you,you just have to keep looking. However self improovement is another story, and again something only you would know. You'd be better off asking anyone close to you what flaws you can work on to become a better person and try to take their criticism constructively. They know you better then I would. However in relation to your disorder I would reccomend that before you try dating that you be sure you can maintain your disorder and that you've accepted who you are and are happy with yourself. I too sruggle with my own disorder and find that its harder to be in relationship when you don't have your disorder under control. In fact it broke me and my ex up, so keep that in mind.

Hope I helped,
cheiz

A) I actually really appreciate your responses to my questions and your opinion that naturally came with it. [I am posting through the form of "A,B,C..." because it makes it easier for me to address and points can be more easily seen]

B) I'm glad that you said that you are as I might define a "natural Lesbian" unless you'd prefer I use a different term to define women whom only date other ladies. And you are actually the first I've met that states she has had feelings for women since she was young and not really have too many feelings, if any, for men. It's very understandable in my opinion. Women are naturally much more attractive than most men, or at least in my opinion they are. No offense to guys, but women are simply superior in my opinion in most ways, if not all.

C) In fact, I know quite a few lesbians, and actually a decent amount of them (perhaps 75%) told me they simply didn't want to date men because they had been abused by them when they actually had tried dating them. They would only accept them as friends or best friends, nothing more, in fact my best friend is a lesbian. But thank you for your input on that, I'll keep that in mind whenever I speak to more of lesbians, whenever that time may come, sooner or later.

D) Not to worry, I wasn't necessarily looking for advice on how to improve myself, when I put that in, I was more following the flow of the thought I currently had in my mind. But I really do not mind any constructive criticism, I welcome it so that I may improve myself. Despite the fact you do not know me, well or for that matter, at all.

E) Before I move onto F I want to be sure, did you see what my mental condition is? If not, I'm more than glad to tell you what it is, and what the symptoms are, or the basic summary of it.

F) In regards to my mental condition, I actually have it under relative control, but on the subject of dating, I have a hard time asking anyone out, more because of the fact that I'm actually quite shy, and I consider myself rather ugly.

G) Thank you for your input on all that I posted above, I can imagine it was most likely a bit of a bother to have to read all of it, since I made it rather long. Hope you have a lovely day.

I'm not trying to hit any nerves or insult anyone here but I want to point out that if a lesbian was ever attracted to p***s in the first place or at all then shes not really a lesbian, but bisexual. Simply choosing not to date men and dating only women donesn't make you a lesbian because lesbian by definition is a someone whos sex is female who is attracted emotionally mentally and physically, to only other females. However a bisexual is defined as a a man or woman who is phyically, emotionally and mentally attracted to both sexes. Yes by choosing not be with one sex you are only limiting yourself to only that sex, but the attraction to the sex you've "chosen" not to take an interest in isnt going to go away, no matter how much you stay away from it. It's like going on a diet and saying because you're not eating chocolate you don't like it (unless you actually don't like chocloate then youre just weird). Just because you took sweets out of the picture doesn't mean you still wont picture eating it and how it tastes, and yes you can supress those feelings, but they never truly go away.

On another note if a a girl finds she thought she liked d**k, and then realizes that she doesn't thats understandable because some people don't always realize what it is that they're attracted to and I would therefore call her a lagitamate lesbian. But if her reasons are because of abuse,neglect, mistreatment, or bad expierences I'd say they're just running away from getting hurt again by being with women. which in some cases ( not all) they won't actually even be attracted to a woman but will be with her because they find it safe and familiar. Which to me is like a gay man living a straight life, meaning he'll never be in love if he's with a woman and hes gay. However if her reasons are because she found she doesnt like the way it looks, she doesn't feel the same with a man the way she does with a women, she found she didn't like it, then yes. she is a lesbian that realized she wasn't attracted to men.

Sorry for getting into that it's just something that personally bothers me because more often times then not the women who have "chosen" to take men out of the picture who call themselves a lesbian eventually go back to dating men later in life and this tends to discredit the names of lesbians who truly don't want to be with men in that way and never have. Then people wind up not taking their sexuality seriously. It's harder for lesbians too, because with gay men, there aren't many women out there that are trying to "change" a guy to get with them, but for a lot of men "changing" a lesbian becomes a goal and it gets harder to defend when men get the idea that it can be done.

As for having the ilness under control I give you credit for that. I know it can be hard no matter what disorder you may have (which I did read by the way). I'm still struggling with mine and getting better, but see it sounds to me like you need to find an agressive girl or a bold girl that will do the asking for you that finds you attractive. And despite what you may think Im sure its not impossible. smile good luck.

Hey thanks a lot for once more for providing a very deep and entailed description of your opinion, and from what I'm reading what you believe to be facts (I hope you don't take offense, but nowadays, it's hard to know what offends and what doesn't).

And out of curiosity, can I ask what your disorder is? If it's alright, of course. Oh, and one last question: would you mind if I send you a request on Gaia? I'd honestly appreciate it, since this is a new account, and I always love to add people I consider to be quite nice, or just plain honest.  

[Ryushi-Original]

@CheizLord

Thanks a lot for your encouragement on the subject of dating, I really appreciate that. But one of the real reasons I'm so shy, is the fact that so many ladies I know are simply gorgeous, and so sweet.  

[CheizLord]

Ryushi-Original

CheizLord

Ryushi-Original

CheizLord

Ok, here's a lesbians perspective for you. I did not choose to be gay, I always was. at the small age of three without any persuation from either of my parents, I developed crushes on girls. obviously your parents aren't going to talk to you about boys or girls at the age of three, so obviously these feelings were on my own accord without any outside influence.It's been there from the start. Although I do agree it would be great to not limit who you love by whats in someones pants, but I can't do so. Im not sexually, emotionally, or mentally attracted to men, so dating one would be unfair to them and make me miserable. The only reason I came out as bisexual in the first place was because growing up I had never even heard of sexuality. so naturally when I dated I tried to date guys. I thought guys and girls were only supposed to be togther so I thought my feelings were a littl odd. After a while I was informed that people could indeed be attracted to the same sex and after that it all fell into place. upon realizing that I didn't like men at all things got a lot easier and I was a lot happier.

Just keep in mind that I hope youre not asking this guild for advice on how to be a better man and boyfriend because you think we were mistreated by men and have "switched over" and therefore know what a man shouldn't do. This is a misconception. In fact most homosexuals will tell you that its not a choice.

Anyway, I will tell you from a persons standards for men or women. Be respectful towards your partner. Don't push them into doing something theyre not ready for whether it's sex or revealing a secret. It's sounds controversial but communication is key in any healthy relationship, which involves honesty on your part, an attempt to understand their part, and not letting the unspoken issues pile up. When it comes to how to act, no one can tell you that You have to be yourself, because if you act differently then who you are that relationship is going to start based off of a lie. Someone will love for you,you just have to keep looking. However self improovement is another story, and again something only you would know. You'd be better off asking anyone close to you what flaws you can work on to become a better person and try to take their criticism constructively. They know you better then I would. However in relation to your disorder I would reccomend that before you try dating that you be sure you can maintain your disorder and that you've accepted who you are and are happy with yourself. I too sruggle with my own disorder and find that its harder to be in relationship when you don't have your disorder under control. In fact it broke me and my ex up, so keep that in mind.

Hope I helped,
cheiz

A) I actually really appreciate your responses to my questions and your opinion that naturally came with it. [I am posting through the form of "A,B,C..." because it makes it easier for me to address and points can be more easily seen]

B) I'm glad that you said that you are as I might define a "natural Lesbian" unless you'd prefer I use a different term to define women whom only date other ladies. And you are actually the first I've met that states she has had feelings for women since she was young and not really have too many feelings, if any, for men. It's very understandable in my opinion. Women are naturally much more attractive than most men, or at least in my opinion they are. No offense to guys, but women are simply superior in my opinion in most ways, if not all.

C) In fact, I know quite a few lesbians, and actually a decent amount of them (perhaps 75%) told me they simply didn't want to date men because they had been abused by them when they actually had tried dating them. They would only accept them as friends or best friends, nothing more, in fact my best friend is a lesbian. But thank you for your input on that, I'll keep that in mind whenever I speak to more of lesbians, whenever that time may come, sooner or later.

D) Not to worry, I wasn't necessarily looking for advice on how to improve myself, when I put that in, I was more following the flow of the thought I currently had in my mind. But I really do not mind any constructive criticism, I welcome it so that I may improve myself. Despite the fact you do not know me, well or for that matter, at all.

E) Before I move onto F I want to be sure, did you see what my mental condition is? If not, I'm more than glad to tell you what it is, and what the symptoms are, or the basic summary of it.

F) In regards to my mental condition, I actually have it under relative control, but on the subject of dating, I have a hard time asking anyone out, more because of the fact that I'm actually quite shy, and I consider myself rather ugly.

G) Thank you for your input on all that I posted above, I can imagine it was most likely a bit of a bother to have to read all of it, since I made it rather long. Hope you have a lovely day.

I'm not trying to hit any nerves or insult anyone here but I want to point out that if a lesbian was ever attracted to p***s in the first place or at all then shes not really a lesbian, but bisexual. Simply choosing not to date men and dating only women donesn't make you a lesbian because lesbian by definition is a someone whos sex is female who is attracted emotionally mentally and physically, to only other females. However a bisexual is defined as a a man or woman who is phyically, emotionally and mentally attracted to both sexes. Yes by choosing not be with one sex you are only limiting yourself to only that sex, but the attraction to the sex you've "chosen" not to take an interest in isnt going to go away, no matter how much you stay away from it. It's like going on a diet and saying because you're not eating chocolate you don't like it (unless you actually don't like chocloate then youre just weird). Just because you took sweets out of the picture doesn't mean you still wont picture eating it and how it tastes, and yes you can supress those feelings, but they never truly go away.

On another note if a a girl finds she thought she liked d**k, and then realizes that she doesn't thats understandable because some people don't always realize what it is that they're attracted to and I would therefore call her a lagitamate lesbian. But if her reasons are because of abuse,neglect, mistreatment, or bad expierences I'd say they're just running away from getting hurt again by being with women. which in some cases ( not all) they won't actually even be attracted to a woman but will be with her because they find it safe and familiar. Which to me is like a gay man living a straight life, meaning he'll never be in love if he's with a woman and hes gay. However if her reasons are because she found she doesnt like the way it looks, she doesn't feel the same with a man the way she does with a women, she found she didn't like it, then yes. she is a lesbian that realized she wasn't attracted to men.

Sorry for getting into that it's just something that personally bothers me because more often times then not the women who have "chosen" to take men out of the picture who call themselves a lesbian eventually go back to dating men later in life and this tends to discredit the names of lesbians who truly don't want to be with men in that way and never have. Then people wind up not taking their sexuality seriously. It's harder for lesbians too, because with gay men, there aren't many women out there that are trying to "change" a guy to get with them, but for a lot of men "changing" a lesbian becomes a goal and it gets harder to defend when men get the idea that it can be done.

As for having the ilness under control I give you credit for that. I know it can be hard no matter what disorder you may have (which I did read by the way). I'm still struggling with mine and getting better, but see it sounds to me like you need to find an agressive girl or a bold girl that will do the asking for you that finds you attractive. And despite what you may think Im sure its not impossible. smile good luck.

Hey thanks a lot for once more for providing a very deep and entailed description of your opinion, and from what I'm reading what you believe to be facts (I hope you don't take offense, but nowadays, it's hard to know what offends and what doesn't).

And out of curiosity, can I ask what your disorder is? If it's alright, of course. Oh, and one last question: would you mind if I send you a request on Gaia? I'd honestly appreciate it, since this is a new account, and I always love to add people I consider to be quite nice, or just plain honest.

Well I have bipolar disorder and schizo effective disorder. and I would love to add you because you have nice way of expressing youself and your thoughts on others peoples opinions that says you respect, but may disagree, and not everyone is like that  

[Ryushi-Original]

CheizLord

Ryushi-Original

CheizLord

Ryushi-Original

CheizLord

Ok, here's a lesbians perspective for you. I did not choose to be gay, I always was. at the small age of three without any persuation from either of my parents, I developed crushes on girls. obviously your parents aren't going to talk to you about boys or girls at the age of three, so obviously these feelings were on my own accord without any outside influence.It's been there from the start. Although I do agree it would be great to not limit who you love by whats in someones pants, but I can't do so. Im not sexually, emotionally, or mentally attracted to men, so dating one would be unfair to them and make me miserable. The only reason I came out as bisexual in the first place was because growing up I had never even heard of sexuality. so naturally when I dated I tried to date guys. I thought guys and girls were only supposed to be togther so I thought my feelings were a littl odd. After a while I was informed that people could indeed be attracted to the same sex and after that it all fell into place. upon realizing that I didn't like men at all things got a lot easier and I was a lot happier.

Just keep in mind that I hope youre not asking this guild for advice on how to be a better man and boyfriend because you think we were mistreated by men and have "switched over" and therefore know what a man shouldn't do. This is a misconception. In fact most homosexuals will tell you that its not a choice.

Anyway, I will tell you from a persons standards for men or women. Be respectful towards your partner. Don't push them into doing something theyre not ready for whether it's sex or revealing a secret. It's sounds controversial but communication is key in any healthy relationship, which involves honesty on your part, an attempt to understand their part, and not letting the unspoken issues pile up. When it comes to how to act, no one can tell you that You have to be yourself, because if you act differently then who you are that relationship is going to start based off of a lie. Someone will love for you,you just have to keep looking. However self improovement is another story, and again something only you would know. You'd be better off asking anyone close to you what flaws you can work on to become a better person and try to take their criticism constructively. They know you better then I would. However in relation to your disorder I would reccomend that before you try dating that you be sure you can maintain your disorder and that you've accepted who you are and are happy with yourself. I too sruggle with my own disorder and find that its harder to be in relationship when you don't have your disorder under control. In fact it broke me and my ex up, so keep that in mind.

Hope I helped,
cheiz

A) I actually really appreciate your responses to my questions and your opinion that naturally came with it. [I am posting through the form of "A,B,C..." because it makes it easier for me to address and points can be more easily seen]

B) I'm glad that you said that you are as I might define a "natural Lesbian" unless you'd prefer I use a different term to define women whom only date other ladies. And you are actually the first I've met that states she has had feelings for women since she was young and not really have too many feelings, if any, for men. It's very understandable in my opinion. Women are naturally much more attractive than most men, or at least in my opinion they are. No offense to guys, but women are simply superior in my opinion in most ways, if not all.

C) In fact, I know quite a few lesbians, and actually a decent amount of them (perhaps 75%) told me they simply didn't want to date men because they had been abused by them when they actually had tried dating them. They would only accept them as friends or best friends, nothing more, in fact my best friend is a lesbian. But thank you for your input on that, I'll keep that in mind whenever I speak to more of lesbians, whenever that time may come, sooner or later.

D) Not to worry, I wasn't necessarily looking for advice on how to improve myself, when I put that in, I was more following the flow of the thought I currently had in my mind. But I really do not mind any constructive criticism, I welcome it so that I may improve myself. Despite the fact you do not know me, well or for that matter, at all.

E) Before I move onto F I want to be sure, did you see what my mental condition is? If not, I'm more than glad to tell you what it is, and what the symptoms are, or the basic summary of it.

F) In regards to my mental condition, I actually have it under relative control, but on the subject of dating, I have a hard time asking anyone out, more because of the fact that I'm actually quite shy, and I consider myself rather ugly.

G) Thank you for your input on all that I posted above, I can imagine it was most likely a bit of a bother to have to read all of it, since I made it rather long. Hope you have a lovely day.

I'm not trying to hit any nerves or insult anyone here but I want to point out that if a lesbian was ever attracted to p***s in the first place or at all then shes not really a lesbian, but bisexual. Simply choosing not to date men and dating only women donesn't make you a lesbian because lesbian by definition is a someone whos sex is female who is attracted emotionally mentally and physically, to only other females. However a bisexual is defined as a a man or woman who is phyically, emotionally and mentally attracted to both sexes. Yes by choosing not be with one sex you are only limiting yourself to only that sex, but the attraction to the sex you've "chosen" not to take an interest in isnt going to go away, no matter how much you stay away from it. It's like going on a diet and saying because you're not eating chocolate you don't like it (unless you actually don't like chocloate then youre just weird). Just because you took sweets out of the picture doesn't mean you still wont picture eating it and how it tastes, and yes you can supress those feelings, but they never truly go away.

On another note if a a girl finds she thought she liked d**k, and then realizes that she doesn't thats understandable because some people don't always realize what it is that they're attracted to and I would therefore call her a lagitamate lesbian. But if her reasons are because of abuse,neglect, mistreatment, or bad expierences I'd say they're just running away from getting hurt again by being with women. which in some cases ( not all) they won't actually even be attracted to a woman but will be with her because they find it safe and familiar. Which to me is like a gay man living a straight life, meaning he'll never be in love if he's with a woman and hes gay. However if her reasons are because she found she doesnt like the way it looks, she doesn't feel the same with a man the way she does with a women, she found she didn't like it, then yes. she is a lesbian that realized she wasn't attracted to men.

Sorry for getting into that it's just something that personally bothers me because more often times then not the women who have "chosen" to take men out of the picture who call themselves a lesbian eventually go back to dating men later in life and this tends to discredit the names of lesbians who truly don't want to be with men in that way and never have. Then people wind up not taking their sexuality seriously. It's harder for lesbians too, because with gay men, there aren't many women out there that are trying to "change" a guy to get with them, but for a lot of men "changing" a lesbian becomes a goal and it gets harder to defend when men get the idea that it can be done.

As for having the ilness under control I give you credit for that. I know it can be hard no matter what disorder you may have (which I did read by the way). I'm still struggling with mine and getting better, but see it sounds to me like you need to find an agressive girl or a bold girl that will do the asking for you that finds you attractive. And despite what you may think Im sure its not impossible. smile good luck.

Hey thanks a lot for once more for providing a very deep and entailed description of your opinion, and from what I'm reading what you believe to be facts (I hope you don't take offense, but nowadays, it's hard to know what offends and what doesn't).

And out of curiosity, can I ask what your disorder is? If it's alright, of course. Oh, and one last question: would you mind if I send you a request on Gaia? I'd honestly appreciate it, since this is a new account, and I always love to add people I consider to be quite nice, or just plain honest.

Well I have bipolar disorder and schizo effective disorder. and I would love to add you because you have nice way of expressing youself and your thoughts on others peoples opinions that says you respect, but may disagree, and not everyone is like that

Well, thank you! ^_^ I really appreciate your opinion about me, I honestly, and truly do.  

[CheizLord]

Ryushi-Original

CheizLord

Ryushi-Original

CheizLord

Ryushi-Original

CheizLord

Ok, here's a lesbians perspective for you. I did not choose to be gay, I always was. at the small age of three without any persuation from either of my parents, I developed crushes on girls. obviously your parents aren't going to talk to you about boys or girls at the age of three, so obviously these feelings were on my own accord without any outside influence.It's been there from the start. Although I do agree it would be great to not limit who you love by whats in someones pants, but I can't do so. Im not sexually, emotionally, or mentally attracted to men, so dating one would be unfair to them and make me miserable. The only reason I came out as bisexual in the first place was because growing up I had never even heard of sexuality. so naturally when I dated I tried to date guys. I thought guys and girls were only supposed to be togther so I thought my feelings were a littl odd. After a while I was informed that people could indeed be attracted to the same sex and after that it all fell into place. upon realizing that I didn't like men at all things got a lot easier and I was a lot happier.

Just keep in mind that I hope youre not asking this guild for advice on how to be a better man and boyfriend because you think we were mistreated by men and have "switched over" and therefore know what a man shouldn't do. This is a misconception. In fact most homosexuals will tell you that its not a choice.

Anyway, I will tell you from a persons standards for men or women. Be respectful towards your partner. Don't push them into doing something theyre not ready for whether it's sex or revealing a secret. It's sounds controversial but communication is key in any healthy relationship, which involves honesty on your part, an attempt to understand their part, and not letting the unspoken issues pile up. When it comes to how to act, no one can tell you that You have to be yourself, because if you act differently then who you are that relationship is going to start based off of a lie. Someone will love for you,you just have to keep looking. However self improovement is another story, and again something only you would know. You'd be better off asking anyone close to you what flaws you can work on to become a better person and try to take their criticism constructively. They know you better then I would. However in relation to your disorder I would reccomend that before you try dating that you be sure you can maintain your disorder and that you've accepted who you are and are happy with yourself. I too sruggle with my own disorder and find that its harder to be in relationship when you don't have your disorder under control. In fact it broke me and my ex up, so keep that in mind.

Hope I helped,
cheiz

A) I actually really appreciate your responses to my questions and your opinion that naturally came with it. [I am posting through the form of "A,B,C..." because it makes it easier for me to address and points can be more easily seen]

B) I'm glad that you said that you are as I might define a "natural Lesbian" unless you'd prefer I use a different term to define women whom only date other ladies. And you are actually the first I've met that states she has had feelings for women since she was young and not really have too many feelings, if any, for men. It's very understandable in my opinion. Women are naturally much more attractive than most men, or at least in my opinion they are. No offense to guys, but women are simply superior in my opinion in most ways, if not all.

C) In fact, I know quite a few lesbians, and actually a decent amount of them (perhaps 75%) told me they simply didn't want to date men because they had been abused by them when they actually had tried dating them. They would only accept them as friends or best friends, nothing more, in fact my best friend is a lesbian. But thank you for your input on that, I'll keep that in mind whenever I speak to more of lesbians, whenever that time may come, sooner or later.

D) Not to worry, I wasn't necessarily looking for advice on how to improve myself, when I put that in, I was more following the flow of the thought I currently had in my mind. But I really do not mind any constructive criticism, I welcome it so that I may improve myself. Despite the fact you do not know me, well or for that matter, at all.

E) Before I move onto F I want to be sure, did you see what my mental condition is? If not, I'm more than glad to tell you what it is, and what the symptoms are, or the basic summary of it.

F) In regards to my mental condition, I actually have it under relative control, but on the subject of dating, I have a hard time asking anyone out, more because of the fact that I'm actually quite shy, and I consider myself rather ugly.

G) Thank you for your input on all that I posted above, I can imagine it was most likely a bit of a bother to have to read all of it, since I made it rather long. Hope you have a lovely day.

I'm not trying to hit any nerves or insult anyone here but I want to point out that if a lesbian was ever attracted to p***s in the first place or at all then shes not really a lesbian, but bisexual. Simply choosing not to date men and dating only women donesn't make you a lesbian because lesbian by definition is a someone whos sex is female who is attracted emotionally mentally and physically, to only other females. However a bisexual is defined as a a man or woman who is phyically, emotionally and mentally attracted to both sexes. Yes by choosing not be with one sex you are only limiting yourself to only that sex, but the attraction to the sex you've "chosen" not to take an interest in isnt going to go away, no matter how much you stay away from it. It's like going on a diet and saying because you're not eating chocolate you don't like it (unless you actually don't like chocloate then youre just weird). Just because you took sweets out of the picture doesn't mean you still wont picture eating it and how it tastes, and yes you can supress those feelings, but they never truly go away.

On another note if a a girl finds she thought she liked d**k, and then realizes that she doesn't thats understandable because some people don't always realize what it is that they're attracted to and I would therefore call her a lagitamate lesbian. But if her reasons are because of abuse,neglect, mistreatment, or bad expierences I'd say they're just running away from getting hurt again by being with women. which in some cases ( not all) they won't actually even be attracted to a woman but will be with her because they find it safe and familiar. Which to me is like a gay man living a straight life, meaning he'll never be in love if he's with a woman and hes gay. However if her reasons are because she found she doesnt like the way it looks, she doesn't feel the same with a man the way she does with a women, she found she didn't like it, then yes. she is a lesbian that realized she wasn't attracted to men.

Sorry for getting into that it's just something that personally bothers me because more often times then not the women who have "chosen" to take men out of the picture who call themselves a lesbian eventually go back to dating men later in life and this tends to discredit the names of lesbians who truly don't want to be with men in that way and never have. Then people wind up not taking their sexuality seriously. It's harder for lesbians too, because with gay men, there aren't many women out there that are trying to "change" a guy to get with them, but for a lot of men "changing" a lesbian becomes a goal and it gets harder to defend when men get the idea that it can be done.

As for having the ilness under control I give you credit for that. I know it can be hard no matter what disorder you may have (which I did read by the way). I'm still struggling with mine and getting better, but see it sounds to me like you need to find an agressive girl or a bold girl that will do the asking for you that finds you attractive. And despite what you may think Im sure its not impossible. smile good luck.

Hey thanks a lot for once more for providing a very deep and entailed description of your opinion, and from what I'm reading what you believe to be facts (I hope you don't take offense, but nowadays, it's hard to know what offends and what doesn't).

And out of curiosity, can I ask what your disorder is? If it's alright, of course. Oh, and one last question: would you mind if I send you a request on Gaia? I'd honestly appreciate it, since this is a new account, and I always love to add people I consider to be quite nice, or just plain honest.

Well I have bipolar disorder and schizo effective disorder. and I would love to add you because you have nice way of expressing youself and your thoughts on others peoples opinions that says you respect, but may disagree, and not everyone is like that

Well, thank you! ^_^ I really appreciate your opinion about me, I honestly, and truly do.

your welcome. smile  

[Ryushi-Original]

^-^ Hey by the way, CheizLord, can I ask if you have any form of contact other than Gaia? Like an MSN, AIM, or Skype account? Any will do. If it's alright I ask.  

[Ryushi-Original]

Creeper the Grin

Ryushi-Original

Hello to you,
Ive readed your post,and first of all,your not hidious nor ugly.
So lets starts with the questions,shall we?
Answer 1 :: Im bisexual,and lets just say,from when I whas young I whas more confused,at the age of 12 I whas getting unsure of what my sexuality whas since I had a great crush on a girl back in those days.On a certain age I accepted it,but I wasnt open with it.Later I whas more open with it,but sadly I lost aswell "friends".And now that I think about it,I always whas..
Answer 2 ::Lets just say at first that I had a verry bad experience with one guy,but a side note,I am not always that easy to handel and shy.
The guy I dated ,wasnt the sort of guy that wanted only to go in bed with the girl,nah,it whas more psychologic.I wont go any more detailed with it.But it ended up with a couple of years a great fear of boys.But in my opinion what I would like,is a compliment,compliments are always nice to get,you get apriciation for what you do and such.Talking is aswell always nice,even if its of a shooting game,its hilarious how my (male) friends get verry excited talking about it.

I'm sorry for the not so great answers,but I cant always find the words in English that I want to use.
oh,and I wish you good luck,I'm sure some girl will find interest in you. smile

Oh, I forgot to ask: would you mind if I shoot you a request on Gaia? If it's perfectly alright, this is a new account after all.  

[Blindekind]

Ryushi-Original

Creeper the Grin

Ryushi-Original

Hello to you,
Ive readed your post,and first of all,your not hidious nor ugly.
So lets starts with the questions,shall we?
Answer 1 :: Im bisexual,and lets just say,from when I whas young I whas more confused,at the age of 12 I whas getting unsure of what my sexuality whas since I had a great crush on a girl back in those days.On a certain age I accepted it,but I wasnt open with it.Later I whas more open with it,but sadly I lost aswell "friends".And now that I think about it,I always whas..
Answer 2 ::Lets just say at first that I had a verry bad experience with one guy,but a side note,I am not always that easy to handel and shy.
The guy I dated ,wasnt the sort of guy that wanted only to go in bed with the girl,nah,it whas more psychologic.I wont go any more detailed with it.But it ended up with a couple of years a great fear of boys.But in my opinion what I would like,is a compliment,compliments are always nice to get,you get apriciation for what you do and such.Talking is aswell always nice,even if its of a shooting game,its hilarious how my (male) friends get verry excited talking about it.

I'm sorry for the not so great answers,but I cant always find the words in English that I want to use.
oh,and I wish you good luck,I'm sure some girl will find interest in you. smile

Hey! Thanks a lot for answering my questions, and not to worry, any answers are more than welcome. If you feel the need to, you're more than welcome to ask me any questions.

And can I ask what you meant by "it's hilarious how my (male) friends get verry excited talking about it."? I think you're talking about sex, but I'm not entirely sure.

And I'm sorry you had a bad experience with a boy you dated, I won't lie though: many of us are extremely interested in sex. But honestly, I personally, am not that interested, like I'm hoping to have a sexual experience with a lady one day, but if I do, I most certainly intend to date her, if she'd allow so. And treat her the way she deserves to be treated.

Oh, by the way, thanks a ton for your opinion that you don't think I'm ugly or hideous ^_^ that truly does mean a lot to me. But I really do hope some lady does find me attractive, or even cute for that matter, even though some ladies I know through online sites (we all know what everyone else looks like) have called me "adorable". I have a hard time believing that, I honestly thought they were being nice to me, since I'm usually very nice to them.

Youre welcome,and thank you,
and nope,we dont talk about sex,its also something one of my friends dont want to talk about anyway.but what I find hilarious about their conversations,like I said is not about sex,but about video games,it's funny how excited they talk about it.
And you seem to be a verry nice person,I'm sure some girls will notice it,and sure sure,you can send me friend request.  

[Ryushi-Original]

Creeper the Grin

Ryushi-Original

Creeper the Grin

Ryushi-Original

Hello to you,
Ive readed your post,and first of all,your not hidious nor ugly.
So lets starts with the questions,shall we?
Answer 1 :: Im bisexual,and lets just say,from when I whas young I whas more confused,at the age of 12 I whas getting unsure of what my sexuality whas since I had a great crush on a girl back in those days.On a certain age I accepted it,but I wasnt open with it.Later I whas more open with it,but sadly I lost aswell "friends".And now that I think about it,I always whas..
Answer 2 ::Lets just say at first that I had a verry bad experience with one guy,but a side note,I am not always that easy to handel and shy.
The guy I dated ,wasnt the sort of guy that wanted only to go in bed with the girl,nah,it whas more psychologic.I wont go any more detailed with it.But it ended up with a couple of years a great fear of boys.But in my opinion what I would like,is a compliment,compliments are always nice to get,you get apriciation for what you do and such.Talking is aswell always nice,even if its of a shooting game,its hilarious how my (male) friends get verry excited talking about it.

I'm sorry for the not so great answers,but I cant always find the words in English that I want to use.
oh,and I wish you good luck,I'm sure some girl will find interest in you. smile

Hey! Thanks a lot for answering my questions, and not to worry, any answers are more than welcome. If you feel the need to, you're more than welcome to ask me any questions.

And can I ask what you meant by "it's hilarious how my (male) friends get verry excited talking about it."? I think you're talking about sex, but I'm not entirely sure.

And I'm sorry you had a bad experience with a boy you dated, I won't lie though: many of us are extremely interested in sex. But honestly, I personally, am not that interested, like I'm hoping to have a sexual experience with a lady one day, but if I do, I most certainly intend to date her, if she'd allow so. And treat her the way she deserves to be treated.

Oh, by the way, thanks a ton for your opinion that you don't think I'm ugly or hideous ^_^ that truly does mean a lot to me. But I really do hope some lady does find me attractive, or even cute for that matter, even though some ladies I know through online sites (we all know what everyone else looks like) have called me "adorable". I have a hard time believing that, I honestly thought they were being nice to me, since I'm usually very nice to them.

Youre welcome,and thank you,
and nope,we dont talk about sex,its also something one of my friends dont want to talk about anyway.but what I find hilarious about their conversations,like I said is not about sex,but about video games,it's funny how excited they talk about it.
And you seem to be a verry nice person,I'm sure some girls will notice it,and sure sure,you can send me friend request.

Why, thank you! I really appreciate that you think I'm very nice ^^ I'll send the request right away. I still can't shake the feeling though that the girls whom called me "adorable" were simply being nice, instead of honest.  

[Created In His Image]

I will give you a real quick answer to your question and to any problems that you have in any friendships or relationships.

"People will either accept you for who you are, on the inside and the outside when they become your true friend or companion. If they don't, then it's their lost, NOT YOUR'S!"
The same goes for you as well. Either you fully accept someone for who and what they are and are about or your not a true friend.
I will tell you a little story that a friend of mine grandfather told him when he was a little kid. (I hope that I do it justice my dear friend.)

As my friend's grandfather said to him: "When you go to the store and you get a candy bar, do you get the candy bar for what the wrapper looks like? Or, Do you get the candy bar for what's inside the wrapper?" "Sure the wrapper maybe all pretty and flashy, But it is what's on the inside of the wrapper that your actually getting, and thats what truely counts the most!"
My friend said that his grandfather told him that about a year before his grandfather died, and had told him that the riddle that he just gave him would apply in any situation. Whether it was friends, relationships, to buying a car or house. Funny right, I know.
But it is true when you think about it.
So when you pick out your friends or relationships, or even your next car(lol). Think about that riddle and make sure that the person with whom you have around you thinks about it too.
I hope that this helps you out in some small way. If you ever need a person to talk too thats down to earth and real, and really not plastic like most of the people on Gaia are. Send me a pm if you want too and a F/R if you like.
Hugs!,
Brenda S.
B.B.A.