so, apparently...

[xxPEACHFUZZ]

so, apparently im a really big flirt? my friend got mad at me the other
day because i was "flirting" with the guy she likes. then she proceeded to tell
me that i flirt with every guy i meet. one of my guy friends agreed with her.
personally, i dont think that im flirting at all. i just act nice to people, laugh with
them and stuff, and i enjoy giving and receiving hugs. so, my question is, what
is flirting exactly? and how do you know when you are flirting with someone?
i want to be more aware of it so that my friends dont get mad in the future, but i
have no idea what i should do! how can you tell whether or not you are flirting
with someone?  

[Moxcella]

Acting nice,laughing & such,[in a particular way] is flirting. Since i'm not
good at explaining things i'll give you a dictionary entry: To show superficial or
casual interest or liking.
So,yeah. If your friends tell you that you are doing,then you definitely doing it.
They are around you most,so they see how you act,even though you may not
realize it.
But don't listen to me,i'm a socially deprived,homeschooled
sixteen year old so i really wouldn't know the first thing about it..

 

[pure as snow]

:/ well one, Tell your friend to get the guts to ask out the guy she likes, not just get mad at you just because you aren't afraid :/
mm That is a good question. To me there isn't a thing for flirting because I laugh and talk to guys but my boyfriend always get jealous and says its flirting. :/ I mean everyone flirts as long as your talking to the opposite sex it will always be that. I mean the only way not to "flirt" is not to talk to guys :/ ( do you get what i am saying )

I mean maybe lay low the hugs
I see nothing wrong with laughing or being nice, unless that is not what you normally act.

 

[xxPEACHFUZZ]

iiCookie Mokona

Acting nice,laughing & such,[in a particular way] is flirting. Since i'm not
good at explaining things i'll give you a dictionary entry: To show superficial or
casual interest or liking.
So,yeah. If your friends tell you that you are doing,then you definitely doing it.
They are around you most,so they see how you act,even though you may not
realize it.
But don't listen to me,i'm a socially deprived,homeschooled
sixteen year old so i really wouldn't know the first thing about it..

but, for me, i act that way with everyone. thats my problem. :/ but
yeah, i guess thats true that they would know more since they see how i act?
but they can interpret it differently that i mean my actions too. i dunno.  

[xxPEACHFUZZ]

pure as snow

:/ well one, Tell your friend to get the guts to ask out the guy she likes, not just get mad at you just because you aren't afraid :/
mm That is a good question. To me there isn't a thing for flirting because I laugh and talk to guys but my boyfriend always get jealous and says its flirting. :/ I mean everyone flirts as long as your talking to the opposite sex it will always be that. I mean the only way not to "flirt" is not to talk to guys :/ ( do you get what i am saying )

I mean maybe lay low the hugs
I see nothing wrong with laughing or being nice, unless that is not what you normally act.

im usually nice to everyone, and i treat girls the same as i treat guys.
if im in a crabby mood, i dont go around being mean to girls and then super
nice and flirty to guys. i treat them the same. and yeah, i get what you are
saying. it might look like flirting to some people because i grew up with only
brothers, so im just comfortable being myself around guys?

and, yeah, i guess. but i hug girls too, not just guys. and, i grew up with people
hugging each other a lot, so its kind of just a habit for me. im a touchy feely
kind of person, and ill hug people, slap them on the shoulder a bit when im
laughing, stuff like that. to me, thats not flirting. but i guess to someone a
little more conservative it might be considered flirting...?  

[Allie23]

Just be yourself because that's why people like you. You are not intentionally trying to flirt - just don't get hugs to that guy anymore. And tell your friend to ask him out.  

[viper_353]

I hear from everyone that I flirt too. ):
To me what I'm doing is just having fun and trying to make sure everyone's having a good time! And making people loosen up.
But what I've heard is to avoid touching guys on the shoulder, to not lean in so much when talking to someone, to always make sure you're including everyone equally in the conversation!!
Haha, but I have the same problem as you!! Even the guy I like tells me I flirt with everybody. And that CAN'T Be good in the "I wish he'd go out with me" department. :/