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 Posted: Mon Dec 13, 2010 7:06 pm
Okay for at a least a year, there has been my sister's friend living with us. I hope my sister never sees this by the way : (... but it just has been bothering me so much, I get so angry with her friend and I feel like kicking her out of the house. But being me I never say how I feel, unless it is yelling. But I don't want to seem like the evil person who yells at someone who I feel is making me so angry, anymore. So I just keep quiet how I feel. My sister's friend is just annoying, I feel like if she's invading our house. She comes live in our house all of sudden and takes her place in the house XD... so freaking annoying. She never takes a shower, her feet stink, she eats our food, we take her to the doctor, because she's got athirities (I think I spelled it wrong), we take her to the store, we wait for her in school when we get out of school, and she never does anything.
Let me tell you: She leaves for the weekdays, she works as a babysitter. Then she returns in the weekends and stays in our house. And they fired her two times because she didn't do anything, and didn't take a shower -__-.
Why is she living in our house, because her mom kick her out, because her mom preferred her boyfriend over her daughters and sons.
And yet I seem to ignore all that and I just start feeling so freaking annoyed by her presence... I don't like her being around XD
Am I being ignorant? Am I being unfair, because I don't like her, and because she got a tough life?
I feel like I hate her crying and that's the problem. I don't know how to like her, I don't know how to accept her.
And now XD because she doesn't' have papers to go to Mexico, she is STAYING AT OUR HOUSE while we go visit my grandma at Mexico!!! THAT REALLY PISSES ME OFF!! What the hell, she is staying at OUR house alone!
Girls just tell me what is wrong with me : (... Don't be afraid to tell me the truth, because this feeling is really hurting me crying and I feel like a fire breathing dragon is inside of me just wanting to explode X(. Maybe if I know the truth even if is something negative about me, maybe I can fix it.
I'm really trying to be nice to her, I took her books back to the library, : ( and I cry because I feel this anger stirring inside of me crying and I don't understand why my family likes her so much. Nobody seems to care about how I feel, about her living with us. sad My dad got pissed at me because I was "oh no" X( when they said that she had to stay in the house when we left to Mexico.My sisters hate me for saying that she doesn't follow our rules in the house. They protect her all the time.
I have even prayed to God to like her. I don't want to do anything stupid, I dont' want to end up yelling at her to get out of the house. I just don't know how to handle it.
Please, please any advice : (
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Posted: Mon Dec 13, 2010 8:54 pm
If she's starting to become a burden to you, you may want to tell your parents/sister- chances are they may think the same. Being vocal with your family just might be the way of saving you from snapping on your sister's friend.
It's not that your a monster or trying to show restraint, it's just that your sick of doing things for her and she's not doing anything for you. She is mooching off of you and well, that's just terrible.
How old is she, might I know?
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Posted: Mon Dec 13, 2010 9:43 pm
Maybe spend time talking to her? Or burst into tears when you're alone with your favored parent, that sometimes works... twisted Ask you family members what the best things about her are, maybe, to see if there's something you missed, or have family game night and pick the game you are best at and kick her a**. You will feel better for a while, I'm sure! Hope this helps!
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Posted: Tue Dec 14, 2010 12:14 pm
Well if I was was in your shoes I would stand my ground lay the rules out. you don't like it to bad were else can she go she has no other choice but to listen.. then I'd bring up the whole this is why your mom kicked you out and we will do the same so listen thing if she gives and attitude be honest!
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Posted: Thu Dec 16, 2010 12:33 pm
Nanaremilamina If she's starting to become a burden to you, you may want to tell your parents/sister- chances are they may think the same. Being vocal with your family just might be the way of saving you from snapping on your sister's friend. It's not that your a monster or trying to show restraint, it's just that your sick of doing things for her and she's not doing anything for you. She is mooching off of you and well, that's just terrible. How old is she, might I know? She just turn 20. I wish I could tell them, but I'm afraid they might say that I'm just a hateful person. But I will try sweatdrop , because I been wanting to talk about it. I think by just writing this down here, it has helped me release some of my anger. I don't feel that strong tension or fire breathing dragon (hehe) inside of me anymore, well for the meantime. : ) but I think I will try speaking to my parents about.. because every time I think about it I feel my anger building up again. X(
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Posted: Mon Jan 03, 2011 6:22 pm
Honey, you are not a hateful person and will not turn into one. Don't even worry about that, it won't happen.
When I feel seriously angry (which happens now and again, to many of us) I punch and scream into pillows - Or alternatively, have a short, lukewarm shower. I hate showering with cold water, but that works for some.
On a note of keeping calm, count. Seriously. Count up to twenty and down again. Think of a phrase or key-word, like 'I will not be angry' or (giggle) 'calm blue ocean'. Even the most obscure things work. I use 'grilled cheese on toast'. Taking that phrase, say it over and over in your head. Focus on it.
Does your 'guest' disrespect you or your family? Is she overly rude or nasty? Does she disrespect your house, furniture, fixtures or property?
If the answer to these is 'no', there is not a lot you can do. You can, and I strongly advise you to do this, talk with your parents. Don't turn it into a screaming match, it's not a big thing - It is simply that you feel that your house is being 'invaded' and you are not happy.
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Posted: Sun Jan 16, 2011 6:24 pm
Josephine the Harpist Honey, you are not a hateful person and will not turn into one. Don't even worry about that, it won't happen. When I feel seriously angry (which happens now and again, to many of us) I punch and scream into pillows - Or alternatively, have a short, lukewarm shower. I hate showering with cold water, but that works for some. On a note of keeping calm, count. Seriously. Count up to twenty and down again. Think of a phrase or key-word, like 'I will not be angry' or (giggle) 'calm blue ocean'. Even the most obscure things work. I use 'grilled cheese on toast'. Taking that phrase, say it over and over in your head. Focus on it. Does your 'guest' disrespect you or your family? Is she overly rude or nasty? Does she disrespect your house, furniture, fixtures or property? If the answer to these is 'no', there is not a lot you can do. You can, and I strongly advise you to do this, talk with your parents. Don't turn it into a screaming match, it's not a big thing - It is simply that you feel that your house is being 'invaded' and you are not happy. Thank you, this really is good advice as well. I guess I will have to muster some courage and talk to my parents about it, especially my dad : (. Yes I should try the pillow thing it seems to work well with many people, I've heard : ). And yes all the answers come out to "no". There is nothing I can do :O so I will just have to talk. *gulp*
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Posted: Sun Jan 16, 2011 6:28 pm
xMy Chemical Romantic Maybe spend time talking to her? Or burst into tears when you're alone with your favored parent, that sometimes works... twisted Ask you family members what the best things about her are, maybe, to see if there's something you missed, or have family game night and pick the game you are best at and kick her a**. You will feel better for a while, I'm sure! Hope this helps!
And the game is no problem I can beat her in BioShock2 >:3
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Posted: Sun Jan 16, 2011 6:39 pm
eletricXrainbow Well if I was was in your shoes I would stand my ground lay the rules out. you don't like it to bad were else can she go she has no other choice but to listen.. then I'd bring up the whole this is why your mom kicked you out and we will do the same so listen thing if she gives and attitude be honest! Sometimes I try. Me: Is this yours? Her: Yes, you can dispose of it. Me: *feeling hot, with anger but trying to calm down* (calmly say it) "You" put it in the dish washer, it's yours. Her: *nods head as though saying "as if"* My sister comes: I put in the dish washer for you. Me: *wanting hell loose* (but instead walk to my room, shut the door and burst out crying silently). That's how let go of my anger XD...
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