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I have this bf who i've been with for over 8 months and right now he's being very depressed and always saying he's lonely n no one wants him n stuff n im there to talk to him n try to make him feel better but i it became an everyday thing to always make him not depressed or lonely n idk if its cuz of me that hes always depressed n feels this way but idk what to do anymore. (he broke his ankle n cant walk) n i mean i get scared but not lonely n im just kinda annoyed that hes always depressed n i feel bad about how im feeling which makes me angry at myself n hurt but idk before his accident we had so much fun but he's been really needy n whiny n just too much. He pressured me to do things with him n personally i've had sex before but i dont want to anymore cuz i want to have kids n the only way to have kids is sex n i dont want to have safe sex i want to have it when im married, but i dont want to do oral or anything like that, i want to wait but he wants to do more... n i cant do that, im not comfortable doing that so he got mad at me n then said he'll stay with me even if we dont go far but still we fight alot n get mad at each other alot! n im just not feeling the same way as i used to. He thinks i dont do anything for him but im always there when he needs me (except at night cuz im sleeping) and im always there when he needs a hug or something n i try to be nice n funny so he can forget about his ankle n im supportive n stuff but now i just, idk what to do.... help! :/
any advice would be helpful ladies :]
thanks for reading this long thing anyways blaugh


Oh! And my ex started talking to me again, our relationship was nice, we never fought n my ex never asked for anything, hes like too perfect n nice to me its insane we broke up cuz he lives far away from me but now having him back, its nice, i told my bf about my ex that he was talking to me n he said to stop talking to him, but i cant stop talking to my ex, he's like my friend n he wants to get back with me but i said no n he said in the future could we give us another shot n i said maybe but i didnt give him any promises i told him that so were just friends thats all. my bf has many ex's n they were all booty call girls n some still ask him for another nightstand n it bugs me that he did this! but w/e you know its the past. n so coupl of my bf's ex's ask him to do things with him n i told him to just stop talking to them cuz all they want to do is use you. but talking to my ex mike, he's not using me for anything. idk if i should break up with my bf to be with mike. but i also dont know if i want a long distance relationship again. they suck n dont end well for most girls. so thats pretty much all the info thats been happening to me. razz icon_razz.gif
if it makes me a bad person then im sorry for being one... :[

Well... I definately wouldn't recomend breaking up with your boyfriend for your ex. That's a huge can of worms.

What I would recomend, is telling your current boyfriend whats been bothering you, and that you guys either need a break or need to break up because these issues re really starting to ruin your relationship for you.

If you guys decide to break up, take a couple or few months to think about Mike and if a long distance relationship is what you want and could handle at this point in your life. Talk it over with Mike too so if you guys decide to get together, you dont have alot of un-answered important questions along the way.