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Posted: Mon Nov 23, 2009 11:33 pm
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Posted: Tue Nov 24, 2009 4:12 pm
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Posted: Tue Nov 24, 2009 7:42 pm
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Posted: Tue Nov 24, 2009 7:44 pm
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Posted: Sat Nov 28, 2009 5:31 pm
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Posted: Sun Nov 29, 2009 5:56 pm
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Posted: Mon Nov 30, 2009 2:02 pm
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Leave him be. Literally. If he asks to hang out with you, leave him be and reject him. If he's smart, he'll get the point and come back to you, if he cares enough about you that is. If he truely doesn't care, then he'll shrug, and go back to his hobby. It's a good way to see if he really cares. Why bother going out with someone that doesn't care?
But you have to remember as well: Hobbies are hobbies. They're interests of people. I understand that you may be upset and would like to just burn the cards into ashes, giving him that taste of his own medicine, but you might not know just how special those cards mean to him. Now I'm not saying that you are wrong. Not at all. Just consider why would he do this? Is it because it's new to him, and he's greatly interested? Is he just slowly forgetting to show that he cares?
Talk to him if he insists that you hang out together and that he cares. Ask him why? Why, why, why is the big question here. It's important that you talk about how you feel, and tell him that you want to know why he's acting like that to you. You know, to learn both sides of the story.
Now, this might not work, as lame or professor-like it sounds. For two reasons. One: I don't know your relationship or your boyfriend that well. I'm just trying to follow logic. Two: I have never been in a relationship myself, so I wouldn't know that much about dating and I have no experience.
However, I wish you good luck in any action you choose to do. razz
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Posted: Mon Dec 07, 2009 1:44 pm
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Posted: Tue Dec 08, 2009 12:08 am
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Posted: Tue Dec 08, 2009 2:59 am
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Posted: Sun Dec 13, 2009 2:54 pm
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Posted: Sun Dec 13, 2009 7:06 pm
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Thanks everyone! heart
Well I've tried talking to him but, he's just not very receptive. Everytime I bring it up he gets all defensive and says things like "Fine, I'll just quit". And that pisses me off, it's like he's making it come down between me and a card game! I'm not telling him to quit, I'm just asking him to spend a little more time with me and not with a some cards...
And now he's going out and playing behind my back, not telling me, until muuuch later. When we could have spent those few hours together! Grah, I'd hate to break up with him over this but, if it continues like this I'm afraid I might have too...
And for the record, I have tried playing Magic. I did not like it. I hated it, it's boring and silly in my opinion. But I feel that way about all TCGs.
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Posted: Mon Dec 14, 2009 12:57 am
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Posted: Mon Dec 14, 2009 5:59 am
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Hester Peche Thanks everyone! heart Well I've tried talking to him but, he's just not very receptive. Everytime I bring it up he gets all defensive and says things like "Fine, I'll just quit". And that pisses me off, it's like he's making it come down between me and a card game! I'm not telling him to quit, I'm just asking him to spend a little more time with me and not with a some cards... And now he's going out and playing behind my back, not telling me, until muuuch later. When we could have spent those few hours together! Grah, I'd hate to break up with him over this but, if it continues like this I'm afraid I might have too... And for the record, I have tried playing Magic. I did not like it. I hated it, it's boring and silly in my opinion. But I feel that way about all TCGs.
As I've said before, you bear none of the blame. Don't let him guilt trip you into believing that you're making him think "pick me or the card game". You've done what you could and his lack of honesty is a bit disconcerting..... confused
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Posted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 5:36 pm
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Hester Peche Thanks everyone! heart Well I've tried talking to him but, he's just not very receptive. Everytime I bring it up he gets all defensive and says things like "Fine, I'll just quit". And that pisses me off, it's like he's making it come down between me and a card game! I'm not telling him to quit, I'm just asking him to spend a little more time with me and not with a some cards... And now he's going out and playing behind my back, not telling me, until muuuch later. When we could have spent those few hours together! Grah, I'd hate to break up with him over this but, if it continues like this I'm afraid I might have too... And for the record, I have tried playing Magic. I did not like it. I hated it, it's boring and silly in my opinion. But I feel that way about all TCGs.
I'm glad that you tried it out, at least you know and experienced it instead of guessing your a** off.
Whenever he becomes defensive like that, could it be that he takes the way you talk to him differently than how you intended to? Or could it be he finds that you may think that his hobby is insulting? When talking to him, where you very clear? Instead of saying "Why do you want to play that game all the time?", you could try saying "You seem to like playing that game... Why do you like it so much? Is it THAT important to you?" instead (for example). Make eye contact, and articulate. One of the things that scares me most when talking is someone staring at me and articulating clearly. :S
I'm not saying pin-point, but do it if you must.
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