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 Posted: Tue Nov 11, 2008 4:49 pm
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Ok So I have a question first...
Is it wrong to hide your orientation if you live with VERY Homophobic people?
Well, I KNOW Im Bisexual and my brother knows, alot of my friends from school know, Ive had a relationship with a guy. Who is know unfortunately an Ex...but what if your Parents or guardians are extremely homophobic, is ok if they don't know your Bisexual/gay?
Its pretty much impossible for me to express my orientation unless its on Gaia (because they don't know about y Gaia...hehe) Because...
1:My Grandfather is a major christian who will shove the bible down my throat.
2:My Grandfather is a church teacher.
3:My Grandmother works at the same church.
I have confronted my Grandparents, (Not in a good way.) About my orientation... It pretty muh went like this...
Brother: "Josh is making out with guys!"
Grandmother/Grandfather: "GASP!"
Pocky: "Ok, Ok, Im GAY!"
Then from there my Grandfather started to choke me and hit me, saying...
"Not while im alive."
So since then, I can't hangout with my now Ex ever.
So If I do get a chance to see him I have to sneak over there. (And I have to cross a highway, so he better appreciate it! xd )
So... I just want to know if its ok to hide my orientation to my Parentals. O.o |
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Posted: Wed Nov 12, 2008 8:59 pm
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Posted: Thu Nov 13, 2008 6:02 am
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I'd say you don't really have much of a choice but to hide your orientation. D: I mean, with what your Grandad did and all. gonk
If your guardians are much the same in their way of thinking, it's definitely best to keep it under wraps for now. Since, well, I assume you're dependant on them, ja?
It might be helpful to look up some tips on coming out. I did, but then again I'm a little bit obsessive when it comes to being prepared for anything and everything. (I have a zombie uprising survival plan! ) Also, I like knowing stuff.
But anyway, here's the Beeb's (BBC's) guides to coming out: here and on H2G2.
Even if you just google the term, you're bound to get a lot of results back.
I'm only okay at giving advice myself, so I think those might help. 3nodding
The one thing that annoys me slightly is that some guides give no mention of bisexuality, but what can you do? The advice is still good.
Hmm, but finally, I have to say I don't think it would be a good idea for you to come out to them, at this time. D:
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Posted: Thu Nov 13, 2008 8:07 pm
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Posted: Wed Dec 10, 2008 5:18 pm
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I know I'm a bit late to jump onto this bandwagon, but hey, I've nothing better to do at the moment! ^^; Not saying that your siuation isn't important or anything x.x
I have to say, I had a very similar terrible terrible experience with coming out. My father found some Yaoi I accidently left on the computer, and the conversation wen smoething like "Do you know what this is?", "...No...", "Don't lie to me boy!". Then, with the scent of vodka strong on his breath, he started to yell at me before back handing me for looking away. On many later occasions he singled me out from my siblings and abused me on a more regular basis--- then again, I always was the "smart" one who decided to stand up to him.
There is no problem without "officially" coming out to ANYONE, although, chances are, they've already heard it from one source or another. Your personal safety, physical or emotional, comes far before the opinion of any parental figure.
Coming out can be a horrible and scarring ordeal. I'd just like to make note that if your grandfather acts like this on a regular basis, if you can't match him in strength or wit, you should take the "cheap" shot. Then kick him a few times while he's down. No regrets, no regrets.
Peace love and prosper <3
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Posted: Wed Jul 01, 2009 9:38 pm
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pockyvampyre Ok So I have a question first...
Is it wrong to hide your orientation if you live with VERY Homophobic people?
Well, I KNOW Im Bisexual and my brother knows, alot of my friends from school know, Ive had a relationship with a guy. Who is know unfortunately an Ex...but what if your Parents or guardians are extremely homophobic, is ok if they don't know your Bisexual/gay?
Its pretty much impossible for me to express my orientation unless its on Gaia (because they don't know about y Gaia...hehe) Because...
1:My Grandfather is a major christian who will shove the bible down my throat.
2:My Grandfather is a church teacher.
3:My Grandmother works at the same church.
I have confronted my Grandparents, (Not in a good way.) About my orientation... It pretty muh went like this...
Brother: "Josh is making out with guys!"
Grandmother/Grandfather: "GASP!"
Pocky: "Ok, Ok, Im GAY!"
Then from there my Grandfather started to choke me and hit me, saying...
"Not while im alive."
So since then, I can't hangout with my now Ex ever.
So If I do get a chance to see him I have to sneak over there. (And I have to cross a highway, so he better appreciate it! xd )
So... I just want to know if its ok to hide my orientation to my Parentals. O.o
yeah, i know how you feel man.
My mom has no problem with it, but my step father is catholic. and if my brother found out, he would tell my dad who is EXTREMELY homophobic and he would pretty much hate me forever. I think my mom might know but idk. I don't really tell much anyone cept my friends, and they know not to tell my parents. I'm open about it, i just don't wanna deal with my parents talking to me about it. |
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Posted: Fri Jul 24, 2009 9:09 am
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Posted: Fri Oct 23, 2009 4:38 am
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