SHE IS DRIVING ME CRAZY. [half rant, half discussion]

[Auntie Crackhead]

Alright, first, the background info so that you
have a better idea of my situation. I was best friends with Alice
throughout elementary school. We went to separate middle schools,
so that made us drift apart a little. Now we go to the same high school,
and we're closer, but there's still a definite rip between us that came
from being apart so long and not having as much in common anymore.
Alice has always "fallen in love" with boys very quickly, and I am the
complete opposite. This wasn't as noticeable in elementary school
or even in the rare occasions I talked to her in middle school, but in
high school it's painfully obvious. She decides she "loves" a guy just
because he smiles at her, and she can "fall out of love" just as quickly.
She always tries to get me to talk to the guy because it's usually someone
I know better. I always tell her it would never work because it always
never will, but I do it anyway. She gets kind of obsessed.

Enter Bobby. Bobby is her latest "love". He's an odd character... a strict
Jehovah's Witness and extreme racist [even against his own race!] but he's
oddly nice. She was talking to him on Myspace and against my advice
decided to mention she liked him. [I knew he didn't, but I didn't want to
make her feel bad so I just told her she probably shouldn't bring it up.]
He's the kind of guy that hates seeing people upset and feels super guilty,
so he'll go along with nearly anything. Their conversation went something like this:

-random stuff-
Alice: So, do you like anyone?
Bobby: Yeah... swear not to tell?
Alice: Yeah
Bobby: That girl in your English class, Brianne...
-random crap-
Alice: I have to tell you something.... I like you
Bobby: Really?
Alice: Yeah, a lot. Do you like me?
Bobby: yeah [note: his responses were well thought out and meaningful until this]
Alice: Do you wanna go out?
Bobby: Sure... but don't tell anyone, okay?
Alice: I love you :]

Is it just me, or is it COMPLETELY OBVIOUS he likes the other girl and just didn't want to upset Alice? I mean, going out but "keeping it a secret" without a very good reason is a giveaway in itself. She NEVER stops talking about how much she loves him and crap, I get random text messages about it aaaalllllll the time. It takes a lot of strength to not let her know how stupid I think she's being and how much he DOESN'T like her.

Ugh, I'm glad I got that out.

 

[weeirdoo]

=|
That's weird. I'd think...
If he liked her he wouldn't care who knows...  

[Good-Tennis]

Sometimes people like that need to have an abrupt awakening.

Seriously... She's only going to hurt herself more. :[ I would advise just telling her upfront that, as a friend, you're very worried that she's giving her love away to easily. And that doing stuff like that is very dangerous... Well... not physically... but emotionally. :p  

[Ms Choda Envy]

Hmm..
this girl, shes oblivious to everything i feel for her cuz i know so many girls like her, if u were a good friend and i know this may upset her but u should tell her what shes doing, if u don't shes gona get really hurt down the road.

POOR BOBBY!!!
hes sounds like such a nice guy. gonk  

[Lilli Ann Hunter]

Hi,
I think you're not the bad guy if you told her the truth. The guy was trying to feel out the girl he liked, and was on the verge of asking Alice for the info... But she blurted she liked him first... so he felt trapped to oblige.

Telling her will probably make her drift further away from you... But at least you will not be a bad friend for not telling her the truth.

cool Take care!

Hotaru  

[Abby360]

well, this is a tough situation, but i think, from what you said, that your friend is not listening to you, and that you have tried to steer her clear of falling in love with each and every guy she meets. You have tried, and I think if you told her the truth, she still would not listen or maybe she just wont hear it. She is searching for something, but giving her heart and emotions away too easily. when these things dont work out for her what does she do.?? it must hurt her a lot. As to this guy, it is his job to let her know he likes her but not in that way. You can tell her but she wont believe you and may even hate your for it. The only way she will learn is if he tells her. Hopefully he will soon, before she gets too far in. AS as friend, the only thing you can do is be there for her and her yet again broken heart. Good luck.  

[iFlashRog]

This may not sound like good advice at first but stop talking to her for a while and let love who she wants. She will soon realize she shouldn't fallin love so easily and come to realize she shouldn't fall in love easily you explain to her the situation and as long as this may take it will all word out. I have done with my friend Kyle. It worked Perfectly he seems almost EXACTLY like her not to mention to need to talk to Bobby and tell him to set her straight  

[ananima]

.:: I don't really think she's your friend if she's using you. ::.

And yeah, it's definitely obvious that he likes another girl and just agreed to go as to not make her sad.