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Posted: Tue Jun 09, 2009 10:24 am
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Calixti Uh huh. Because, obviously, your experiences are universal. My twenty years with zero attraction to men and revulsion at the thought of shagging one means nothing if I actually haven't shagged a man, and "fully explored" my sexuality. And of course your experiences are completely universal and everyone should just assume that no matter what, no one could ever actually change or express their sexuality any differently throughout their life.
I mean, parish the thought that it might be possible for anyone to think that someone, somewhere, might express their sexuality differently as they develop. We wouldn't want that impossible thought to offend you.
Quote: Because random strangers who ask about whether or not I'm "really" a lesbian after I reject them are so obviously concerned about me, huh? Wow, I'm so grateful for your wisdom. I'm sorry. Are you somehow under the impression that I was making a general statement about strangers even after I quoted someone who was talking about their sister and qualified the statement by saying "someone they care about". rolleyes
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Posted: Tue Jun 09, 2009 10:30 am
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Posted: Tue Jun 09, 2009 11:39 am
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Shearaha A very good friend of mine is gay. When I first met him I asked him if he was sure. He is completly unlike any other gay man I have met. I knew before I actually met him that he was gay, but once I met him it was and still is sometimes hard to wrap my head around. Perhaps it's more of a not fitting with the perception of gay to that individual?
This is entirely possible. A lot of people equate a certain set of actions, behaviors and self expression with homosexuality (unfortunately) and when someone doesn't match those it can be a bit of ******** to find out that they're gay.
I'm fairly androgynous in expression, no doubt due to the fact that I've jumped from the guy social group to the girl social group and just decided to take whatever conventions I liked the most from both. So I actually get a lot of assumptions that I'm a lesbian and were I straight, that would be sort of annoying.
Calixti It's not self-sabotage when she really is too old for me!
Bah! She is not too old for you. You can connect to her right? You both have comparable comprehension levels and shared interests? Why should age be an issue when you're both consenting adults?
Don't be afraid of happiness. Go for it. <3
Quote: Possibly. Apparently, people perceive me as straight even when I'm not single. I'm starting to think my lack of gaydar interferes with other people's gaydars. emo
Well you've got a very feminine cutesy vibe. It's not what people expect in lesbians. So because you don't match these subconscious impressions, people might have a tough time internalizing the idea that you are a lesbian.
I mean, hell, you haven't really seen me in person since you moved, but my voice, body and face are really good now. Most people except some level of manliness in trans women. The fact that I don't have that anymore has caused queer folk, not just straight cisgender folk, to give me the googly eyes when I tell them I'm trans.
I had one person say, "are you sure...? o_O" And I looked down and said, "nope, the c**k is still there. Must not be a mistake after all." in a teasing tone. So I guess maybe you shouldn't take it quite as much as an indication of them being assholes who are delegitimizing you and more just people trying to wrap their minds around it.
Not to say it isn't rude or anything, but at least it isn't malicious right?
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Posted: Thu Jun 11, 2009 3:54 am
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I've been told i was flirting, or being flirted with when I had no idea such a thing was happening. I suppose I either seem stand offish and aloof or rather suggestive with little middle ground.
When I, at a party between mutual acquaintances, greeted a young lady in a manner I thought was friendly without being amorous, she immediately replied with: "I'm a lesbian." Confused by this, and thinking she was setting the topic of conversation, I responded: "Ah, very good then, I'm without a gender preference." She made a rolleyes at me and mutter some flippant comment about men. This left me in a state of blink incomprehension for near to an hour, as the hostility level never dropped, even after I furnished her with a ride to her girlfriend's home. I wonder what must have been done to her, that she parted company that night with the the admonition that I would be getting neither grass nor cash, and especially not @$$, and that she would , how can I paraphrase... yes. Perform amateur surgery upon my gender specific regions if I tried to touch her.
My point is, please be patient with misunderstandings. sweatdrop
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Posted: Thu Jun 11, 2009 6:50 am
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Fiddlers Green My point is, please be patient with misunderstandings. sweatdrop
Oh geez, that must have sucked.
I, as a rule, try to avoid being too reactionary when it comes to flirtation. If I think someone I'm not interested in is hitting on me (but in a relatively friendly and respectful fashion) then I'll continue the conversation, dropping hints that I am not available. This allows the pursuer to break off pursuit without losing face and doesn't require an argument or social conflict.
If the person doesn't catch the hint, I get a little cold and see if that works. If that doesn't work, I generally ask, "are... you hitting on me? Because I'm not available/not interested" which usually solves the issue by being direct.
If a person is disrespectful, sleezy or rude (and I do my best to account for culture shock) in their attempts to flirt, I go straight to the coldness, but really that's my reaction to anyone being rude or disrespectful in conversation, whether it involves compliments for my body and personality or not.
In the situation you described, I would have probably just dropped hints (that you prolly wouldn't have noticed or been confused by, since you weren't hitting on me). You probably would have gotten very confused at me clicking into aloof and cold mood for a minute or two and I would have spotted the confusion and finally went to direct questioning.
And after you clarified, I would have gotten 100% friendly and fun again. 3nodding
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Posted: Fri Jun 12, 2009 9:28 am
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Posted: Fri Jun 12, 2009 2:52 pm
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Recursive Paradox Violet Song jat Shariff Honestly?? Who makes a size XL sundress that only accommodates an A-cup boob?? gonk . o_O Are you looking for one? No...I saw a cute sundress the other day and when I went to go try it on...well, my cups runneth over. A LOT. I have B's-going-on-C's. And I was sad because it was a really cute dress emo .
Quote: Hehehe, those are great tits. *chirp chirp* wink
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Violet Song jat Shariff Crew
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Posted: Fri Jun 12, 2009 3:40 pm
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Posted: Fri Jun 12, 2009 4:46 pm
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Violet Song jat Shariff Recursive Paradox Violet Song jat Shariff Honestly?? Who makes a size XL sundress that only accommodates an A-cup boob?? gonk . o_O Are you looking for one? No...I saw a cute sundress the other day and when I went to go try it on...well, my cups runneth over. A LOT. I have B's-going-on-C's. And I was sad because it was a really cute dress emo .
That's a bit odd. o_O You'd expect an XL size to go a little larger in the cups on average.
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Posted: Wed Jun 17, 2009 6:31 am
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Posted: Wed Jun 17, 2009 5:17 pm
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Posted: Fri Jun 19, 2009 7:47 am
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Posted: Fri Jun 19, 2009 8:33 am
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Posted: Fri Jun 19, 2009 8:35 am
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