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There, there. I think with family issues, even if it's small, it doesn't make any less important than what another person is experiencing with their family.

Everyone wants to live in Mage: The Ascension it seems. They forget that this viewpoint can be turned on them when its used to justify things that they think are abhorrent and horrible. Like rape, abuse, imprisonment, kidnapping or stepping on their own culture.

Ten million blind lemmings running off a cliff so sure in their comfortable views that they have safeguarded their opinions from uncomfortable criticism. When they fall, they will only have themselves to blame for the terrors they will experience.

They will call out for our help, with our objective logic and reason.

But we'll just turn and walk away.

*barely resisted making a watchmen reference there... o_o*

My sister invited our Uncle Gary to her high school graduation. Now, that's cool, he's my favourite uncle and American godfather. (My granddad [British godfather] can't make it, unfortunately.)

Problem? She also invited our paternal grandmother, Mama.

Now, this wouldn't be too big a problem if Papa were still alive, because he was the sweetest, kindest old man ever, and always kept her in check. But he died several years ago. Which means that it'll just be Mama. Mama, a cruel, nasty, racist, misogynistic, homophobic, bitter old woman who hates everyone who's not a straight white Southern Baptist like her. Mama, who refuses to acknowledge my big brother as family because he's not my dad's son. Mama, who hates my mother, and by extension, my siblings and me, because she's not the woman Mama hand-picked to be my dad's wife, and therefore, we're not worthy grandchildren. Mama, who really, REALLY hates that my parents have been married twenty-two years in November, when her sons who married her hand-picked brides are both divorced.

And my sister invited this woman into my family's home, without telling anyone until it was too late to rescind the invitation, because she hopes to get a big fat graduation present, like her "legitimate" grandchildren got.

We ******** hate this woman, and she's going to be in our HOME for the entire weekend.

I really want to go with what my dad wants to do: as soon as she gets off the plane, he wants to say, "Hi Mom, guess what? Katie's a lesbian, Janice (my sister) has an IUD and is marrying a Catholic, Beckie's best friends with a Jew, and Gary's dating a black Catholic. What's new with you?" Just because that would make her turn around and go straight back to North Carolina, if it didn't make her die of a heart attack on the spot.

I have to figure out a way to get out of the house as much as possible this weekend. stare

*hugs* thanks poe smile I don't know if that suggestion will work though because we've both had terrible experiences with therapy in the past, namely when I first came out. I'll see if I can't get him to find SOMEONE to talk to though, even if its not me or mom.

Sometimes friends are the best to talk to.

Since when did honoring someone's last wishes become more about you then them?

I mean, we don't get to choose how we come into this world. We don't get to choose how we go out of it usually. But our choice as to what should happen with what is left of our corporeal presence, that last little thing we can control should be ******** respected.

The man didn't get to walk his daughter down the isle at her wedding or see his son graduate. He didn't choose to die a horrible, slow painful death when his son was too young to remember what he looks like and his daughter can't even remember his laugh anymore.

You're ******** spitting in his face because you don't want to be bothered by the realization that his ashes washed down a river you visit maybe once every couple of years with your perfect little replacement family.

My comp broke. Just suddenly. BAM. I dunno what's wrong or how long it will be till its fixed. I miss you all!