You're right, I can totally see your point. And some yaoi DO have sub genres such as fantasy (take most of Naono Bohra's works). I have read a few where it either isn't all about the sex and such. Oh and if you're looking for yaoi minus random sex scene, go for shounen-ai.
Oh and on a completely different note, why does everybody think that Loveless is a yaoi/shounen-ai? Since I don't really see any of that type of romance. Hmm, maybe it's just me. . .
Oh and on a completely different note, why does everybody think that Loveless is a yaoi/shounen-ai? Since I don't really see any of that type of romance. Hmm, maybe it's just me. . .