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 Posted: Thu Jan 18, 2007 11:27 am
I like all the sado-masochism and dominant/submissive stuff, it's a great turn on. My girlfriend and I work quite well, she's submissive, I'm dominant, and it all works out fine biggrin
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Posted: Tue Jan 23, 2007 2:43 pm
Well its funny you have that theory because I have wondered that myself. A lot of the typical "goth" style clothes originally and sometimes still has very S&M/Bondage feel to it. Also being darker allows people to admit more readily to their darker desires. Sometimes I wonder if it has become a bit cliché to be kinky and/or to joke about it as part of shaking off the inhibitions of previous generations.
Personally I love that look, but I also enjoy a bit of BDSM myself. I don’t life it as a lifestyle and see that is being very difficult and extreme to actually do, but I do enjoy playing.
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Posted: Tue Jan 23, 2007 9:44 pm
BDSM is a very... intense thing to expiriance. I could see how it would be desirable to goths... I'm more into bondage and humiliation myself (it's more mentally painful than anything else), but softcore S&M is fun. I don't really like the whole slave-master thing, not as fun without a struggle, plus I like to do both sides. mrgreen
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Posted: Fri Feb 02, 2007 4:36 pm
While it's true that darker people do tend to like darker erm... life styles. I also believe that how we act in the sack doesn't really have to do with our true character.
I'd go into more detail about it... but I believe that would fall under the whole "TMI" thing.
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Posted: Sat Feb 03, 2007 9:31 pm
oh, where to begin...
SarahArden, you are not a feminist. god, it must chew you up inside to live with such dramatically conflicting psychological experiences. you are dominant with women because you feel exerted upon by men and are too concerned with your status as a gender to retaliate in a rational and effective way, and so exhaust your reactive feelings on your female sexual companions through dominance. you dominate women because you recognise them intuitively as being inferior, which is not the belief of a feminist, and in order to elevate yourself above the gender-status you perceive as inferior you must conquer it, which is quite the opposite of a feminist. or perhaps you simply feel that women are inferior from your own devices, or the behaviour patterns of your parents, and battle fiercely against yourself in the form of feminism to overcompensate. i imagine that you are also more attracted to men than women, but are only able to exorcise these intuitive -- and therefore of the base level of sexuality -- experiences of female-inferiority through your sexual activities, and so choose to engage women sexually.
if i'm horribly mistaken, as i've only gleaned this idea from reading four of your posts, then inform me otherwise. we can get into the topic of your tendencies with males later.
or not at all.
as to the topic of BDSM, it has very little to do with conscious choices in lifestyle -- unless one is choosing to elevate one's sex life into an idiotic level of importance and craft one's lifestyle around it -- and much more to do with primarily subconscious, interpersonal experiences.
as i alluded in my critique of SarahArden's entire self-perception construct, sexuality is a method of exercising certain non-conscious or non-analytic needs, or the innate balancing structures in personality made evident through human interaction. an interest in BDSM does not imply an unhealthy sexuality, but rather an unbalanced overall collection of a person's interactions with other people, which is suppressed into or often never escapes from the subconscious and is unleashed in the most primal means of which a person is capable.
sex is a way of emotionally rationalising the non-rational, and BDSM sexualities are merely extreme rationales of perpetually unsuccessful interactions.
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Posted: Sun Feb 04, 2007 10:12 pm
Weather or not gothic lifestyle leads to S&M... well I couldn't say, though your theory is probobly correct (At least in the very broad scyme of things). By that I mean to say, that one's sexual practices are, infact, deeply conected to the subconsious (Well duh!). So to is our atraction to a gothic, or generally abnormal lifestyles. "We are attracted to something other than the norm becasuse, we are, in a very real sence, something other than the norm." kind of thing...
I myself am somewhat into S&M... that is to say that I enjoy being... submissive. I like being choaked durring sex, and being forced to submit to my lover, thought pain dose not give me any inhearent pleasure, I enjoy it if it is working towards the overall goal of being made to submiting to my partner.
As for bondage, well... I love being held down, pinned under their weight, or slamed against walls and unable to move away from them. I even like having my hands tied together with rope or duck tape, but I do like my legs free, and I was never much into blind folds...
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Posted: Tue Feb 06, 2007 11:59 am
I'm not into it because when I'm engaged in romantic activities I feel that is should be a pleasurable experience of bonding and equal authority.
Pain does not equal pleasure to me...
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Posted: Tue Feb 06, 2007 12:47 pm
gothkid82 I'm not into it because when I'm engaged in romantic activities I feel that is should be a pleasurable experience of bonding and equal authority. Pain does not equal pleasure to me... that's a nicely healthy interactive-psyche you've got there.
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Posted: Wed Feb 07, 2007 1:48 am
I dig it. I'm more of the masochist, so I'm often dominated, which I enjoy. I have a strong personality, so a girl whose willing to potentially slap me around turns me on to no end. I love biting and being bitten, and hot candle wax is always fun. biggrin
I've had plenty of experiences with soft bondage; cuffs and such, but I'm not into the gags and gimp masks.
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Posted: Mon Feb 12, 2007 3:52 pm
Macabre_Cogitation I've alwasy been interested in BDSM, a lot in the past few years. Yet, I can never find someone who is willing to partake in any sort of those activities, so I've never had the chance to really find out what I like most. In all honesty though, I'm the submissive type...I lack any quality to make me dominant.... Hah, things have CHANGED SINCE THEN. ^_^ I finally found someone into this as well...and gee is it great. I've found that she actually can bring out my dominant side, and I extremely enjoy pinning her down. Struggling makes it so much better.
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Posted: Mon Feb 12, 2007 11:19 pm
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