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Posted: Wed May 31, 2006 1:32 pm
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Wow.
This is actually somewhat of an uncomfortable subject for me, as I'm somewhat... snake-ish? Yeah, I guess that really is the only word for it. When I'm trying to avoid conflict, I can be pretty underhanded. For instance, a few weeks ago, a friend of mine (yes, that friend again, the one who was possessed by Satan) found someones wallet on the ground in school, ID and all, took the money ($9) out of it, and spent it on god-knows-what. Anyway, she had an attack on conscience (or she got caught), so I decided that I would give her nine dollars to help her out so she wouldn't get in trouble for robbing this random kid.
Now, nine dollars isn't a huge deal, but I've been known to help friends cheat on tests if they really needed help.
This isn't to say that I only do this sort of thing to help others. I lie for personal gain more often than I should, mostly about small things like whether or not I've done my homework. That's not to say it's okay to lie about that, because lying to my mother, who is pretty much the best mother ever (seriously, my mom is insanely awesome), is ******** terrible. And it builds up after a while.
Probably the worst thing I've ever done in terms of being disloyal was the way I dumped my ex-girlfriend. She was very emotionally screwy - we're talking about a kid who was in special classes. They just weren't able to mainstream her. She was too violent and dangerous, though she was average intellegence. It was just stupid to get involved with her in the first place, but I just got sucked into it because she was so exciting to be around and everyone else seemed so boring, and besides that, I was falling into a bad cycle and cutting myself, and she had put a screwdriver through her hand, so I felt like I wouldn't be alone as long as I was with her. Anyway, I started going to therapy and even though I was failing 8th grade (I ******** tanked, and I'm lucky that the Catholic high school I go to only looks at tests scores - I was put in all Honors classes), my family really pulled together and got me through it, so of course this girl was starting to seem less appealing to me. This was also around the time she started getting involved in Neo-Nazi culture, which was way too much for me.
Anyway, at the end of 8th grade we had this huge class trip, and I planned to hang out with two other friends of mine. I tried to avoid my girlfriend, but of course she found me and asked me what my problem was, and then she asked, "Do you hate me?"
And I answered yes.
I know that I was justified in breaking up with her, but Jesus, I wish it wasn't like that. I mean... I was going to Holy Cross next year. I could have just waited a few ******** weeks and she would have forgotten me. I just cared more about what I was feeling at the time than what she was feeling and would feel having been told by someone she trusted that she was hated.
I just... I don't know. I'd like to say that I care about others as much as I do myself, and maybe I do in my mind, but looking at my actions, I clearly don't.
Anyway.
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Posted: Thu Jun 01, 2006 2:11 am
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Posted: Thu Jun 01, 2006 2:56 am
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Posted: Thu Jun 01, 2006 3:00 am
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Posted: Thu Jun 01, 2006 3:09 am
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Posted: Thu Jun 01, 2006 3:50 am
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Posted: Thu Jun 01, 2006 5:16 am
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reagun ban missmagpie Speaking of that, what are you up to this evening? Carrot and I will be in town around six if you'd like to join us... I'm afraid I made plans yesterday. It, conveniently enough, just so happens that the plans are with you two. Good gracious. And I just thought he was being a smart alec when he said we'd be seeing you today. Excellent! I shall see you later then. In the meantime I need to get some sleep because I didn't... get much... last night. ninja Bon Nuit!
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Posted: Thu Jun 01, 2006 10:27 am
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Posted: Thu Jun 01, 2006 12:23 pm
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reagun ban What age were you at the time? What age is 8th Grade? Regardless, you may actually have hated her at the time, and from your explanation it would seem likely. Love doesn't preclude hate. You also have to figure into the equation that perhaps she needed some tough love. Either way, I think you're taking too much of the responsibility for this on yourself. Yes, you probably could have handled it better, but the girl was seriously fubar and you were heading that way yourself.
I was 13 at the time. So ok, it was a stupid 13 year old thing to do, but still. I feel bad. And I did hate her, it just... wasn't nice to say so.
Anyway. Angst over.
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Posted: Fri Jun 02, 2006 5:43 pm
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Posted: Fri Jun 02, 2006 6:08 pm
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I am working on trying to work a modified version of Bushido into my code of ethics. I say modified because, well, I believe in taking responisabbility for my trangression against my honor, the honor of others, and many other things; I don't thing stabbing myself in the chest cutting myself to smitherines while someone lops off my head is needed in this day and age.
I find this hard, however, to develop anything cohesive as my views on morality and right vs. wrong are quite fluid. Should I decide that thing A is a morale guideline that CANNOT be broken in any event, I need to be able to prove that there is no situation that I can invision that would not makie braking A a morally understandable thing.
So far, I haven't figured out a way to do that. Big surprise, eh? Complications are quite compicated, no?
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Posted: Sat Jun 03, 2006 12:22 am
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Posted: Mon Jun 05, 2006 3:15 pm
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Posted: Mon Jun 05, 2006 8:16 pm
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Posted: Mon Jun 05, 2006 11:42 pm
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