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[Shearaha]

Little sister.
You're my sister, but we have nothing in common. You've always been the golden child, the baby and the apple of our mother's eye.
You're an individual. So am I.
So why did you take my wedding place Christian overtones and scripture in it and call it yours?
You wore my veil without asking. You took what for me was a unique pre-Christian tradition and tied it to your spirituality. Then you used the same song as I did for your father/daughter dance. Do you have any idea the significance that song held for me? And how much you taking it hurt?
And then you tell me that I was ruining your wedding? When I was so sick I could barely walk!?!
When you first announced that you were moving to Washington state I was sad that I wouldn't get to see you, because you're my sister. At this point I don't even want to see you again. I don't want to talk to you. I don't want to have any contact with you. It's why I've been posting to you on Gaia, a place I know you'll never go. I can let my feelings out and not have to worry that you'll see them and want to talk about it.

You're the one who wanted us to be closer. I made the effort. Now I'm done. I wish you well and hope you are happy, but I don't want to have any contact with you again.  

[maenad nuri]

You couldn't at least ask me if I wanted to be a troupe apprentice? Instead you let someone who is just coming up to level 3 be one? Yes, I would have probably said no for my own reasons, but you obviously think I'd be good enough if you think that my hip is the problem and not my skill.

It just hurts. That I get no feedback in class, enough that all the troupe members have noticed and commented, but my ideas are good enough to use. It hurts that I don't get from you what I put in. It hurts that I would never have known if one of the troupe members, who is probably going to leave/be let go because of her own knee problems, hadn't told me.

I love dancing, but sometimes I don't like what my teacher does.  

[Esiris]

OMG BRIDZILLA! sweatdrop  

[saint dreya]

Esiris

TeaDidikai

That's not how that works. Anyone who spends even a week with me figures that out. It's one thing if there's a meal being made for a causal event and I leave out the tip jar. It's another if I take you out and spend money on you.

When people worry about who spent how much money on their friends, it's not a friendship that is being celebrated. You're supposed to return good with good but hinging it on money isn't the way to go. How do you put a price on need? A sandwich may only cost a couple bucks, but when you're starving it's worth it's weight in gold. I don't need the two dollars back when so much more was given. Maybe what I need only costs fifty cents, but me needing it as much as I do means it's as valuable as that sandwich was to someone who was hungry.

But if you snub them trying to repay that kindness- aren't you snubbing the friendship? sweatdrop

If they didn't ask for repayment, then wouldn't paying it back be akin to snubbing the initial gift giving? In a sense, it becomes a provider/consumer relationship at that point and not of two people with one wanting to quantifiably show their appreciation.

Money, yes, can be a gift in itself. I find that if it's in response to a gift given, it nulls the initial gift - I might as well as just let them go to the store and buy it themselves (that's what I'm making it to be.)  

[saint dreya]

Really United? Really!

I have to get my plane tickets cancelled because my orders changed. No, I didn't buy insurance on my plane ticket because it was based on my orders. While I appreciate that you are willing to give me a non-transferable credit that is good for a year, I go on deployment as soon as I get to my next ship.

So how is this helping anything?  

[Bane of Ezekiel]

saint dreya

Esiris

TeaDidikai

That's not how that works. Anyone who spends even a week with me figures that out. It's one thing if there's a meal being made for a causal event and I leave out the tip jar. It's another if I take you out and spend money on you.

When people worry about who spent how much money on their friends, it's not a friendship that is being celebrated. You're supposed to return good with good but hinging it on money isn't the way to go. How do you put a price on need? A sandwich may only cost a couple bucks, but when you're starving it's worth it's weight in gold. I don't need the two dollars back when so much more was given. Maybe what I need only costs fifty cents, but me needing it as much as I do means it's as valuable as that sandwich was to someone who was hungry.

But if you snub them trying to repay that kindness- aren't you snubbing the friendship? sweatdrop

If they didn't ask for repayment, then wouldn't paying it back be akin to snubbing the initial gift giving? In a sense, it becomes a provider/consumer relationship at that point and not of two people with one wanting to quantifiably show their appreciation.

Money, yes, can be a gift in itself. I find that if it's in response to a gift given, it nulls the initial gift - I might as well as just let them go to the store and buy it themselves (that's what I'm making it to be.)

In Gujurati culture, it seems the norm for my parents' generation to pay each other back when we all go out. Argue who's going to pay, for sure, but many times we try and pay our share.  

[maenad nuri]

Dear landlord;
Did you seriously ask us to move out so that you can move your mother in. Yes, she broke her ankles, but we have a lease. We shouldn't have even crossed your mind.  

[saint dreya]

maenad nuri

Dear landlord;
Did you seriously ask us to move out so that you can move your mother in. Yes, she broke her ankles, but we have a lease. We shouldn't have even crossed your mind.

Is he trying to force you out? How much longer till your lease is done?  

[maenad nuri]

saint dreya

maenad nuri

Dear landlord;
Did you seriously ask us to move out so that you can move your mother in. Yes, she broke her ankles, but we have a lease. We shouldn't have even crossed your mind.

Is he trying to force you out? How much longer till your lease is done?

We just signed it, so, a year.

He's asking it of us, not forcing us. But gah, that's going to make things tense. We're going to make an effort to look for a similar deal, but we don't want to move. And I doubt our roommate and his fiancee wants his GRANDMOTHER living with them.  

[saint dreya]

maenad nuri

saint dreya

maenad nuri

Dear landlord;
Did you seriously ask us to move out so that you can move your mother in. Yes, she broke her ankles, but we have a lease. We shouldn't have even crossed your mind.

Is he trying to force you out? How much longer till your lease is done?

We just signed it, so, a year.

He's asking it of us, not forcing us. But gah, that's going to make things tense. We're going to make an effort to look for a similar deal, but we don't want to move. And I doubt our roommate and his fiancee wants his GRANDMOTHER living with them.

Wow, that's definitely a situation. I agree with you - he needed to have thought before he asked that of you.  

[maenad nuri]

saint dreya

maenad nuri

saint dreya

maenad nuri

Dear landlord;
Did you seriously ask us to move out so that you can move your mother in. Yes, she broke her ankles, but we have a lease. We shouldn't have even crossed your mind.

Is he trying to force you out? How much longer till your lease is done?

We just signed it, so, a year.

He's asking it of us, not forcing us. But gah, that's going to make things tense. We're going to make an effort to look for a similar deal, but we don't want to move. And I doubt our roommate and his fiancee wants his GRANDMOTHER living with them.

Wow, that's definitely a situation. I agree with you - he needed to have thought before he asked that of you.

We're meeting with him tonight, so we'll see what happens. I think its more a crappy situation all around, trying to find the grandma a place to live during rehab, and this house is an easy option.  

[Ultramarine Violet]

One: You are such a waste of our HP's valuable time, and of the Coven's. Our HP's Craft-mom? Won't come around anymore, because you're such a rude, frustrating, attention-seeking, irredeemably stupid b***h. Note: You have harmed the entire Coven's chances to learn from her wealth of knowledge, which she so kindly chooses to share with us when she isn't being interrupted by your irrelevant bullshit.

Two: Yes, we all know you're ******** around on your awesome, intelligent, charismatic husband. Let that sink in a moment. We all know. And we know it's because you're so desperate to have a child and con him into thinking it's his, in some sick attempt to chain him to you before he realizes you're not worth the trouble. You talk about him like he's a trophy, won from a grand conquest, when all you ever did was wear him down. You made yourself such a nuisance to him, that it was easier to just marry you and shut you up; I don't know if you realize it yourself, but you do as good as tell us, play-by-play, every time you regale us with a completely non sequitur rendition of your storybook romance.

I'm no saint, myself, but this is too much.  

[AniMajor]

I am pissed and saddened that the company I've been working with for a year has decided they weren't going to hire me full time. What bothers me more, though, is that every time my crappy employment status comes up, usually because I am incredibly upset that no one seems to want me, I get the same advice. "Oh, it'll get better, it always gets better." "Really, it's all Obama's fault, once he's gone the economy will pick up." "This is a great time to start looking at the stuff I wanted you to do in the first place, because I know exactly what you should do with your life."

Sometimes, I just want them to tell me something that might be totally useless or stupid but will make me feel better.  

[Esiris]

Gay men who disregard the validity of heterosexual men are as bad as the people who disregard the validity of homosexual men. Bias and mistreatment isn't ok- no matter who's doing it. stressed  

[DemoniaFairy]

The stupidest thing, but I'm going to jabber about it anyway...

I just started working at a place about two weeks ago. I make an effort to be polite and friendly to everyone. There is one girl that no matter how much I smile when we pass or try to make friendly conversation with, she gives me s**t looks and is rude whenever she can be. Today she hurt my feelings by calling me a swine bucket. I just smiled and continued on even though it stung.
I have no idea why she chose to hate me, I see her getting along with everyone else we work with. I'm trying to be patient and hope that after a while of being there she will warm up to me or at least not look at me the way she does. This sucks because all day all I can think about is "swine bucket!"