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Posted: Wed Oct 25, 2006 9:52 am
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Posted: Wed Oct 25, 2006 10:01 am
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If a friend is curious, I'll tell them, but otherwise I won't bring it up. If they have questions, I'll answer to the best of my ability. I'll be open about it over the Internet, but certainly not to the point where every post or blog entry I make is "OMG ASATRU!1" The only people who read my blogs and such are friends, anyhow.
My parents don't know what I study, but that's only because they've never asked or presented interest in what I've turned to ever since I broke away from Catholicism. I really see no reason to "come out" to them, just like I see no reason to burst into the living room and announce to them that I'm bisexual.
I'll only avoid the topic if someone I don't know asks me, like how customers did when I worked at Sears, which I didn't appreciate. I'd kind of try to deter them with "Aw, sir, my faith has no bearing on your purchase...um...er...DO YOU LIKE THIS RING? ninja "
As for lying about it...I've never been in a situation where I felt that I absolutely needed to do so. The only people who have ever asked are friends (who I don't mind telling), and the occasional stranger, and I'd just change the subject when that happened. So...I guess I really don't have a good answer for the last discussion point. >__>
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Posted: Wed Oct 25, 2006 10:29 am
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Posted: Wed Oct 25, 2006 10:40 am
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Posted: Wed Oct 25, 2006 11:41 am
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Posted: Wed Oct 25, 2006 11:59 am
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Posted: Wed Oct 25, 2006 12:10 pm
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Posted: Wed Oct 25, 2006 12:14 pm
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TeaDidikai Okay. Thanks for the insight. Sorry, my bitterness speaking there.
In all honesty, the main body also espouses honesty and considers deciet to be a darkling thing, and therefor contrary to the will of Anhur, also, secrets are the realm of Angra Mahya, and it is desirous for avoiding that realm. The vast majority I have encountered are not secretive and maliciously subversive of the truth, rather, they have been brought up being spoon-fed the Dhimmi party line, and (given the regions they often come from, and the generally closed nature of their communities) it is unlikely the lay person even knows of the history and alteration of the religion.
Edit: But then again, in a closed society, there is no real need for secrecy or deceit, unless one intends to deviate from that closed group... then it becomes a different matter... one I shall have to look into...
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Posted: Wed Oct 25, 2006 10:57 pm
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I'm largely not in the broom closet, but mostly because I rarely bring the subject up. I don't hide it (usually, depends on the audience) when the subject is brought up, but I don't go into detail about them typically.
When the subject is brought up with someone I don't trust or is completely unknown to me (as was the case when someone came up to me in the middle of the dinner, and informed that Jesus loved me), I'll simply inform them that I have my own beliefs.
I don't talk about the matter with a majority of family, though my mother and father are vaugely aware. My father dosen't care. My mother thinks I'm going to hell. rolleyes We sort of have a silent agreement to just leave the subject alone. We have a much happier realtionship because of it.
As for work, I don't go out of my way to discuss my religious beliefs, unless the subject comes up, which does happen from time to time. For instance, I used to work for Chik-fil-a. Anyone who knows anything about that company knows that it is EXTREMELY religious, and I worked in one that had a lot of people who went to the local Christan college and where studying a variety of theological stuffs.
Did I go flinging a pentacle around me head? Not particuarly. When the owner refused to allow us to dress up in any way on Halloween because it was a Pagan holiday, I didn't say anything because I wasn't going to get into a fight over my right to dress up in costume at work and make a bunch of waves for no damn reason (while his intolerence was annoying, it really didn't...you know...DO anything).
By the same token, however, they knew I wasn't Christian, as they asked and I told them the truth. I had many different fulfilling theological conversation with a variety of people however, and I never had to lie about what I believed.
The closet is definiately needed for some...others...not so much. If you have to lie about something to protect you life and safety, I can't fault anyone for it.
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Posted: Thu Oct 26, 2006 5:36 pm
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I generally don't tell people about my beliefs, and if somebody asks I'm not above a little misdirection or changing the topic. I'll sometimes talk about specific beliefs I might hold if the subject comes up during conversation, but I'm just as likely to play Devil's advocate and argue a position I don't espouse. I've just learned that people make too damn many assumptions and opening up inevitably bites me in the behind.
There are a few people who I don't do this to, who have passed beyond some certain threshold of trust. That set of people does not not include my parents. My mother would take it as a personal criticism and my father wouldn't understand. Since my husband and I live over a thousand miles away, though, that isn't too much of an issue; it's not as if I'm 14 and still under their roof.
However, since I just have a set of relatively firm beliefs and alter my life on the basis of those beliefs, rather than an easily-described "path", it's easy for me to say I don't tell people what my religion is when, to be honest, I don't know quite what I'd say even if I was inclined to tell.
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Posted: Thu Oct 26, 2006 6:03 pm
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Posted: Sun Nov 05, 2006 12:06 pm
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I am all for the "don't ask, don't tell" and "My religion is my business, not yours" policies. I remember a fellow in a Gaia guild asking what t-shirt he should wear to school to proclaim that he was "Wiccan"; that solidified my stance right there.
I have no need to place my religious affiliation on a big billboard and point it out to everyone I meet. Nobody should have to, and the ones that seem to enjoy doing it are also the ones that b***h the most about "persecution" and "teh ev0l xians". I am also so laid back as to be indifferent if someone asks me to attend a religious gathering that isn't mine. I went to a Catholic memorial service, friends, and I came out of it just fine -- I'm still a flavour of Pagan, and found the study of Catholic ritual to be quite fascinating and even (*gasp*) beautiful.
Besides, keeping my mouth shut helps me avoid the local crazies. :/ I mean, I don't know about you, but I don't have the time to be dealing with Lady Amethyst McAngelTits UnicornDust. Knowing me, I'd be one of the FIRST PEOPLE she'd go to.
... I am very wordy today. *cheers*
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Posted: Sun Nov 05, 2006 3:38 pm
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Posted: Sun Nov 05, 2006 3:58 pm
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Posted: Fri Nov 10, 2006 10:21 pm
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