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 Posted: Sun Sep 10, 2006 10:57 am
If they do freak out, it probably has less to do with homophobia than it has to do with the fact their daughter is reading Japanese porn. When I was fifteen, my mother would not have let me purchase the yaoi she lets me purchase now. (I'll be eighteen in five months.) Tell her about it. Lying and going behind her back can only end bad. That's why I asked my mother if I could buy the 18+ books rather than getting them and hoping she wouldn't find out, because believe me, they will find out.
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Posted: Sun Sep 10, 2006 11:00 am
[ I s a ] Dead Twisted Romance In my opinion, I thinks its your business not theirs. I keep mine a secret. Honestly, does your mom REALLY need to know? question
(I'm double posting, I know. Shoot me. *cranky old woman*)
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Posted: Sun Sep 10, 2006 5:54 pm
I don't actually own any shounen-ai/yaoi. 3nodding Yay internet! But yeah, if I did, I don't know if I'd want my parents to find out. Mainly because then they'd know that I was bi... sweatdrop
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Posted: Sun Sep 10, 2006 9:01 pm
Hm. Well, if your parents are awesome then just tell them or wait 'til they ask, and if your parents are way uptight and stuff, don't tell 'em-- hide it! (I'm lucky that I don't need to do that, myself, 'cause my parents are t3h Awesomeness. I mean, how many kids can honestly say that their mom likes The Used, A.F.I., Panic! At The Disco, Fall Out Boy, and Hawthorne Hieghts? ((Actually, the Fall Out Boy and Panic! CDs are her's... sweatdrop ))
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Posted: Fri Sep 29, 2006 10:34 pm
at least you're parents allow you to watch anime and read manga. whenever I read them, they'd threaten me that they'll throw it away if I ever read it ever again. I know they will because they have thrown a lot of my other things. Sometimes, it's promblematic beign chinese, my parents think too much about the past when it doesn't even concern them.
anyways, there is no way that i will ever tell me parents that I read Yaoi/shounen ai. First of all, it is already taboo to read manga while they are around but it's also two men together, which alot of stupid people in this world still cannot accept this gay pride.
My brother knows that I read Yaoi, and he even helps me hide some of my manga. Though he doesn't give a damn, I don't know if he will tell my parents.
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Posted: Sun Oct 01, 2006 5:48 pm
...why on Earth do they need to know?
I mean, my parents don't know I like it. I'm okay with that. I don't know what gets them off, and I'm /really/ okay with that too.
In the end, if you have to tell them, downplay it. It doesn't have to be a Hollywood production.
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Posted: Tue Oct 10, 2006 10:28 pm
It is harder if one or both parents are homophobic but if you can it's usually better to tell them, just so you don't feel like your're doing something wrong. I told my parents and my mom was okay with it but my dad flipped out. So, my advice is to tell them and just get it over with. They'll probably find out anyway.
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Posted: Sat Jan 20, 2007 4:31 pm
Can't help ya. My parents don't need to know every little detail about me. They wouldn't care.
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Posted: Wed Feb 07, 2007 11:46 am
(Sorry for the late reply)
Well, I'm not sure why you want them to know, but if you really want them to know, here's how I told my mom; I simply asked for advice on a story. She asked what the story was about, and I was blunt. Four gay guys. (Though I didn't mention they were just the main characters, and all the other guys were gay too.) She didn't freak out or anything, but she was pretty uncomfortable with the fact that they were gay. I'm not exactly sure if she knew I like yaoi, but I know that at least she knew I was okay with it.
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Posted: Sat Mar 03, 2007 1:33 am
I told my mom the easy-hard way. >.<
This was when I was... 13 I think.
One night I had been up late rping with someone and I wanted to use I song I'd written in the rp so I went and got my Little Book of Doom(it was only named that after the incident...). Well by the time I was done rping for the night it was about 5am and I was exhausted. So much in fact that when I went up-stairs I left The Book of Doom on the table in plain sight.
Now, my mom has this thing. She likes to read my writing. I hate it when she does so I never let her read anything. Because of all this in the morning when she came downstairs and saw The Book and she read it. When I came down I had no idea of this of course. I did see to my horror that my Book was on the table, but it looked untouched so I smuggled it back up to my room and into it's hiding place.
Later we went to the store and got some breakfast. By this point I was fairly confidant that she hadn't read it, we'd been up for a few hours now and not a word about a certain Book. Unfortunately my luck soon ran out.
A short while after we got home she said we needed to talk about something. I remember trying not to start crying right then.
We sat down on the couch and she told me that she had read The Book, and that she was sorry, she should have asked because she knows how much I hate it when she reads my stuff, but she was curious. I think I was crying by this point but it might have come at the next part.
She told me about what she had read and asked me what exactly it was and where I had learned such things (I had a graphic mind for a 13 year old >w<).
I tried in vain to explain the term 'yaoi' to her while sobbing. I believe that was one of the most awkward moments of my life. In any case some of the things I can remember her saying were, "I always thought you were so innocent.", "It was still very well written.", etc.
After that I didn't eat right for a few weeks and I was constantly thinking about the parts she had read and what she had thought as she read them. I still think about it occasionally.
That was about 2 and a half years ago. There was another incident a few months later that got me in even more trouble and yet more awkward situations.
Being an over-sexed teenager I had begun to look at porn. This was a very bad idea at the time. I know how to cover my tracks better now and I am as sly as a fox. But back then (well ok so it was only last year...) I didn't have as much internet cunning. I made the horrible mistake of type the url in the address bar, which is something you should never do if you don't want people to know where you've been. To my credit I did delete the history but that was about it... So one day on the way to school (I went to the weirdest school, it was very brightly colored) my mom tells me she found out about it. Of course I tried to lie and say it was just pop-ups but then she pulled the truth out of thin air and I was thoroughly screwed. Luckily for me I didn't get in much trouble. She just said if she ever found out I was doing such illicit things again I wouldn't be allowed on the internet until I was 18. The key word was 'if'.
The next day my step-dad came upstairs to talk with me about said subject. I was expecting another long talk but I was rather surprised. Instead of telling me off he told me tricks. He told me that I was old enough to be looking at porn and showed me a site (I never really went. Yaoi is enough for me. speaking of which, I should go watch/read more! ^-^). I think the main thing he was honestly concerned about were virus'. >.>
Hope I helped, though I doubt I did! mrgreen
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Posted: Thu Mar 08, 2007 10:46 pm
My parents know that I read Yaoi and Boys Love and they dont mind at all. Heck my mom has bought me Golden Cain once which was really nice of her and she picked up my special ordered copy of otrfks. I special ordered Skyscrapers Of Oz. When it was ready to be picked up my mom took me over to the bookstore so I could get it. When I paided for it the parental label was in eye view of my mom and she didnt say a word at all till we left the bookstore. When we left she said that she was happy that I got the book I wanted. I once bought a Yaoi shirt and my mom asked me what Yaoi was and I simply told her that Yaoi is a genre of Anime and manga that involve two men together in a romantic relationship and she didnt care at all. My dad doesnt care that I read Yaoi at all heck he doesnt have a problem with gay people either which I find very nice and refreshing. I want to buy a Yaoi paddle at the convention I'm going to next month if I can find one lol. If you decide to tell your parents first see how they would react to same sex relationships and see how things go from there. I hope things go well for you.
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Posted: Tue Jun 19, 2007 11:00 pm
*glance left and right suspiciously* I'm bi and my mom thinks that I was totally lezbo for a while cuz I secretly went out with a girl and... well I have been sort of drifting away from my family for the last year and I guess she noticed it and she caught me up at 1 am in the morning watching just Death Note episodes and a few gravitation, but nothing really bad and she asked me what I was doing and I lied. The next morning she checked the computer log and I had been so tired that I forgot to wipe it so she found that I had been on youtube and I'm not supposedto be on it so I got in trouble for that and then for lying. sweatdrop So then the next night I had the bright idea of watching Inuyasha on Adult swim and she walked in the room and saw it. At first she didn't react but then she flipped that not only was I a lying cheating little 14 year old girl, I was also sneaking behind her back and...ect.(this went on for a while.)
afterwards it was my turn to speak and everything about my summerlove last year(nothing besides making out I'm not that old yet) came out and then I told her that I went out with a girl and she asked if I was over that type of stuff and I told her yes and she knows I still like Gravitation ect. but I still haven't told her the truth totally yet. my little sister does and the other doesn't. the one that does says it's annoying and makes her sick, but she's only into black and mexicans and my parents are a touch on the racist side so she doesn't tell I'm bi and I don't teel that she's only into black guys.
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Posted: Tue Jul 17, 2007 12:03 am
one day, my dad asked me if i have ever seen pornographic images, i said yeah,
then he asked me if the gay porn(yaoi doujishis) downloaded onto my laptop was just spam or if i liked yaoi, so i showed him my "collection" and he was find, i'd say just kinda see how your parents would react if you said you like straight action, or wait till your older when its expected!(kinda dont quote me on that) twisted lol 4laugh
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Posted: Tue Jul 31, 2007 3:14 pm
Darku_Irisu I can't really help you because I have the same problem... But mine's bigger: my dad is homophofic.
her mutti is homophobic too sad
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Posted: Fri Aug 03, 2007 12:53 pm
Well, the Gyr has hope, at least. I'm 15, and it hasn't been found out that I'm into BL, yet. But I guess it will, soon, because my mom knows I'm collecting Loveless, although she doesn't know anything but the name.
And if I am, well, I don't think the backlash will be too bad, as my parents are fairly relaxed in regards to homosexuality and such. If my memory isn't faulty, I think my mom might have went to see Brokeback Mountain.
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