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 Posted: Mon Mar 20, 2006 10:23 pm
Quote: a part of me is wondering why you even told them in the first place. saying you got a comic book would have sufficed. they would understand. but if you're the type that needs to be honest then all i can tell you is just not to bring it around them. they'll soon forget and all will be well. im sorry but do you people READ AT ALL?! My grandparents are nosey people! They asked me what I got! If I said a comic they would ask questions! LOTS of them! They asked to see and i had to show them! If I didnt they would yell at me to give it to them or just sneak it out of my room! And dont go saying "Dide is somewhere!" I CANT! there is NO place in the house they dont dig through all the time!
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Posted: Mon Mar 20, 2006 10:24 pm
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Posted: Mon Mar 20, 2006 10:58 pm
What I did was found a place where no one even thinks about looking (it's hard, but I found a place in the corner of my room that no one ever goes in) and hide it there. If you honestly have nowhere to put it, try mixing it in with regular books and stuff.
Alternative, (which you probably won't like as much) is to sit down with them and make them know that you're not gay. In fact, I think it's healthy to be able to respect other people, and accept the fact that not everyone is straight. The world is getting more and more diverse every day. I had to do this with my parents, and trust me, it was a little more than akward, but they understand why I like it so much now.
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Posted: Tue Mar 21, 2006 10:50 am
You need to stand up to them tell them "Grandma,grandpa,this is the 21st century.Yaoi is fun to read.I think it should be ok as long as I'm not doing it in the real world.Its only a book.I'm an American and I have the freedom to read what I want as long as it's legal.And these books are legal.You need to accept me for who I am and what I like."
^-^That's what I would do.
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Posted: Tue Mar 21, 2006 11:28 am
ChaosSinAlchemist You need to stand up to them tell them "Grandma,grandpa,this is the 21st century.Yaoi is fun to read.I think it should be ok as long as I'm not doing it in the real world.Its only a book.I'm an American and I have the freedom to read what I want as long as it's legal.And these books are legal.You need to accept me for who I am and what I like." ^-^That's what I would do. Right on! Of course, my family wasn't shocked because they already knew I was gay, so it wasn't a big problem. But, I had to stand up to my father, the Southern Baptist Minister. If I can do it, you can do it, baby!
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Posted: Tue Mar 21, 2006 11:34 am
Personally, I would just continue to read it whenever I wanted to. Don't throw it in their faces, but just continue as usual. It really shouldn't matter what you do if it doesn't affect them. When I was in high school, my mother freaked out when she found out that I liked Marilyn Manson. She's very religious and whole-heartedly fell into believing that he was "the Antichrist"! She wouldn't allow me to listent to it on the car's stereo (which I had no right to complain about, it wasn't my car), but I did continue to listen to it in my room or while I was doing dishes in the kitchen. I was respectful, I didn't listen to it loud enough to disturb anyone and I didn't try to recruit my younger brother or sister into being a fan. Just do your thing and let them do theirs, that's really the best advice that I can give you. 3nodding Of course, if they continue to get in your face about it and try to restrict your rights, you should probably talk to them about it. Let them know that above all other things that even if they say that they want to restrict you from reading/watching these things you'll do it anyway. ALSO, why are you so durned worried about what your schoolmates will think? If one of your friends would flip out about your liking YAOI to the point that they would look down on you for it, it doesn't sound like they're a good friend to begin with. I am 27 now. I had somewhat of a tough time in highschool because I wasn't like everyone else (and I didn't try to be). I am happy with who I am, I always have been. Trust me, being true to yourself even while surrounded by those who are too closed-minded to understand you is the best thing that you can do for yourself. Even now I have old classmates that find me and tell me how much they have always respected and looked up to me because I had the guts to be myself in the midst of all the crap I was going through. In fact, some of those people who gave me the crap were the very ones who gave me props afterwards. Please! Just be yourself! 3nodding
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Posted: Tue Mar 21, 2006 12:11 pm
kasumi_ocada Personally, I would just continue to read it whenever I wanted to. Don't throw it in their faces, but just continue as usual. It really shouldn't matter what you do if it doesn't affect them. When I was in high school, my mother freaked out when she found out that I liked Marilyn Manson. She's very religious and whole-heartedly fell into believing that he was "the Antichrist"! She wouldn't allow me to listent to it on the car's stereo (which I had no right to complain about, it wasn't my car), but I did continue to listen to it in my room or while I was doing dishes in the kitchen. I was respectful, I didn't listen to it loud enough to disturb anyone and I didn't try to recruit my younger brother or sister into being a fan. Just do your thing and let them do theirs, that's really the best advice that I can give you. 3nodding Of course, if they continue to get in your face about it and try to restrict your rights, you should probably talk to them about it. Let them know that above all other things that even if they say that they want to restrict you from reading/watching these things you'll do it anyway. ALSO, why are you so durned worried about what your schoolmates will think? If one of your friends would flip out about your liking YAOI to the point that they would look down on you for it, it doesn't sound like they're a good friend to begin with. I am 27 now. I had somewhat of a tough time in highschool because I wasn't like everyone else (and I didn't try to be). I am happy with who I am, I always have been. Trust me, being true to yourself even while surrounded by those who are too closed-minded to understand you is the best thing that you can do for yourself. Even now I have old classmates that find me and tell me how much they have always respected and looked up to me because I had the guts to be myself in the midst of all the crap I was going through. In fact, some of those people who gave me the crap were the very ones who gave me props afterwards. Please! Just be yourself! 3nodding I completely agree. Thats what I had to do with my parents, only I read both Yaoi and Yuri. My mom went into this huge histerical fit, but I didnt let it bother the things I like or the things I would read.
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Posted: Tue Mar 21, 2006 12:27 pm
Just explain to them that it's always been perfectly normal for people of the female gender to enjoy reading about romances, and that you prefer your romantic literature without annoying, loud females :--)
Basically, they're all just love stories. Girls will always read love stories. Some stories are different than others.
Brrh, it's like telling people "We know you're going to eat fruit, but ONLY eat apples."
Just make sure they know you read "normal" books, too XD
Older people are more difficult. The world is changing pretty fast around them. Duh, ten years ago we hardly ever saw a gay couple on television here.
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Posted: Tue Mar 21, 2006 1:12 pm
Quote: You need to stand up to them tell them "Grandma,grandpa,this is the 21st century.Yaoi is fun to read.I think it should be ok as long as I'm not doing it in the real world.Its only a book.I'm an American and I have the freedom to read what I want as long as it's legal.And these books are legal.You need to accept me for who I am and what I like." ^-^That's what I would do. That work but I dont know! They might be all like "SCUZ ME?! WHATS WITH THE ATTITUDE?!" Thats how my grandpa is! Its HORRIBLE! He ALLWAYS think everyone is giving him an attitude ALL the time!
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Posted: Tue Mar 21, 2006 1:15 pm
Quote: Just explain to them that it's always been perfectly normal for people of the female gender to enjoy reading about romances, and that you prefer your romantic literature without annoying, loud females :--) Basically, they're all just love stories. Girls will always read love stories. Some stories are different than others. Brrh, it's like telling people "We know you're going to eat fruit, but ONLY eat apples." Just make sure they know you read "normal" books, too XD Older people are more difficult. The world is changing pretty fast around them. Duh, ten years ago we hardly ever saw a gay couple on television here. Yeah I know! But they are to hardheaded to get that! Ill talk to them about that kind of stuff if they suddenly start saying stuff like girlfriend and crap like that! *sigh* Thanks for your help everyone!
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Posted: Tue Mar 21, 2006 2:22 pm
You really shouldn't have told them.
Lying isn't THAT wrong you know. And it would have spared you all this trouble. Just lock your door when you're reading stuff and have a well-hidden, fast place to hide your stuff.
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Posted: Tue Mar 21, 2006 4:59 pm
wow I am a lucky person my mom doesn't know what I buy and she could careless. I have gay people in my family and we accept them just long as They dont see the remixes or some of my DMP books I should be fine. heheheheh. But Um What I would do is hide it in my underwear drawer and put pads on it and mix my socks in with it and then throw in some pants and shirts and stuff it till I cant get anymore in there and then move it the next day. and everyday move it to a place they wouldn't expect it to be in.
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Posted: Tue Mar 21, 2006 5:04 pm
My way of dealing with this problem:
I would walk right in the living room where they were sitting and sit down reading it right next to them.
I personally wouldn't care what they think, but then again, I'm an a**, and you seem like one of those goody girls that cares about what everyone else thinks.
So, this probly won't help.
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Posted: Tue Mar 21, 2006 8:14 pm
buy a lock for your door, use it, tell them you're changing but can't find your undies, read, and if they ask tell them you're going to take a while.....so they could stop worrying about you for about a couple hours or so........ sweatdrop xd
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Posted: Tue Mar 21, 2006 11:16 pm
well you could hide in your closet and read it ...(bad idea) lay on your bed and read the bood and when you hear the door open put the book under your pillow and pretend to sleep hopefully this was helpfull
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