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Posted: Sat Feb 16, 2013 11:35 pm
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Posted: Thu Mar 14, 2013 7:08 pm
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Posted: Mon Apr 01, 2013 6:44 pm
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Posted: Tue Apr 02, 2013 2:41 am
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Posted: Tue May 14, 2013 9:38 am
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Posted: Sat Aug 17, 2013 1:43 am
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Posted: Sat Aug 17, 2013 3:12 am
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Sometimes, kids could be too much. You try to be nice to them, but they don't take you seriously. I guess you can't really blame them because they don't know anything in this world and it's up to the adults to show them how to behave properly. But sometimes, they're just too stubborn to follow what you keep on telling them what to do even if you have already punished them using non-violent means such as grounding them or taking away their toy for a while. In those cases, I do believe that it is kind of necessary to spank them a bit. Not too much. Just enough to make them finally remember what you're telling them to do. But the trick here is to do it while they're young, while they're minds are easy enough to discipline. It won't really work when they're too old enough to know that they can do whatever they want. I know how that this works because I've actually seen it, and the kids really get disciplined. What I'm against is using violence on every wrong doing of the child. Like, he spills milk on his clothes and you spank the child like crazy. That's not disciplining at all. That's torture. People who do that should be spanked in turn, the way they're doing it to their kids. Spanking should be the last resort when it comes to disciplining, not the one and only means to it.
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Posted: Tue Aug 20, 2013 5:56 am
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Posted: Tue Aug 20, 2013 6:35 am
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I'm for it.
When I was younger, if I did something wrong, my parents would tell me why what I did or said was bad and then I would get a few spanks on the rear. I learned pretty quick from that. Time-outs weren't quite as effective, because my mind did wander from time to time. I mean, I didn't like just sitting or standing in a corner or in a spot of the room by myself when I could be playing, but it just wasn't much of a punishment (I mean, it was nice to get away from my younger brother and niece and have some time to myself).
My brother, however, is just...I don't think it was effective for him at all. There is only a six year difference between us, but it is clear he doesn't have much respect for people. I think he got more time-outs than spankings, but I remember his spankings got pretty bad sometimes. He would end up laughing and making my mother more upset. I'm not sure if this was a bad thing on my mom's part or not, because I honestly don't know if she was venting out her anger or just getting frustrated because my brother wasn't/wouldn't understand or acknowledge what wrong doings he had been committing.
However, I was [physically] disciplined by both my father and my mother for my earlier years and occasionally other family members or caretakers. My brother only got spanked by my mother, because by the time he was up and about doing 'bad things', my father had fallen ill and his health was getting worse; he could only verbally reprimand.
Now, I would not spank anyone's kids but my own, should I come to that point in life where I have them. With other children, I feel just a quick, but not too strong, smack on the back of the hand is all that you should do, as well as explain to them what was wrong and why. After multiple instances, inform the parents and if they feel discipline (not abuse) is needed, then that's the step to take.
I just, I can totally understand why others would be against this method, and if a person has issues with anger, then they should not physically discipline someone as it could get out of hand and escalate quickly. That does nothing good to a person in-general, no matter the age. For a lot of people, when they punish a child, they cross the line of discipline and it become abuse all too often.
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Posted: Tue Aug 20, 2013 6:47 am
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Posted: Tue Aug 20, 2013 12:39 pm
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Posted: Tue Aug 20, 2013 6:45 pm
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Posted: Wed Aug 28, 2013 1:14 pm
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1011b8 I'm definitely against physically disciplining your child. Trying to teach your child a lesson by hurting them and inflicting fear on them is absolutely ineffective and does more damage than it does good. The kid won't be sorry for what he's done or understand what he did wrong, it's only going to make him angry and want revenge. It is only a cosmetic fix, as it doesn't change the mind set of the child it only makes him afraid of consequences. If you don't respect your kid, why do you assume he will have any respect towards you? The relationship between parent and child should be a mutual bond. Not to mention, you are the child's role model. If he sees you are solving problems physically instead of by discussing them, how do you think he will react when someone does something to anger him? It also becomes a much larger problem when kids enter their teens. They are unable to properly express their anger, because they fear further punishment, therefore storing it inside. This anger builds up over the years and can definitely make your child dislike you. Too many parents think it's given that their children will love them. Exactly. Actually I think parents should focus more on rewarding children for good behavior instead of just punishing the bad. Kids learn better that way, and you are much more likely to have a better relationship with them. I am not saying punishments should never be used of course, but use them less often. Only after repeated bad behavior. And even then, it's better to try to find a better punishment then spanking.
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