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Posted: Fri Dec 04, 2009 3:43 pm
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Sinful Nana Love, I think that the only time age is an issue is in the area you're at now. My husband is 8 years older than me, and it doesn't matter. But he does get that extra pat on the back from his co-workers that he bagged a 24-year-old before he turned 35. XD Wilson and I got married September 19th this year. But it really feels like nothing has changed. We've been together for 3 years, and that feels like the start of it all. But living together ruins the "Oh, newlyweds!" phase. But I also know that his dirty socks will go under the coffee table, instead of learning that at such an emotionally tenuous time as right after a wedding. Glad I could oblige, Shinu_Rei Roses, just keep firm with your message. Either he'll get it, or he's a stalker and you need a restraining order. But also, talk to your parents. They might have some advice that I don't.
OMG YOU GOT MARRIED ON MY BIRTHDAY!!!! LET YOUR MARRIAGE BE THE MOST BLESSED EVER!!!!! (My friend's sister also got married on my birthday lol). Great thread, btw! |
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Posted: Fri Dec 04, 2009 6:21 pm
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Posted: Fri Dec 04, 2009 8:47 pm
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Posted: Sat Dec 05, 2009 6:16 am
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.Vindicated.Of.Sanity. What's the best way to admit your feelings to a guy without like, completely scaring him off...?
He's my best guy-friend on the entire face of the planet, and he makes me feel so amazing and loved, he's just... my sunshine. But I have absolutely no idea if he likes me like that, or just as a friend, and I just can't keep this to myself, I need to tell him. But I don't want to freak him out. Hahaha~
i need an answer to this question 2... but mine is a tiiiny littlle bit very much more complicated.
the thing is.... i'm 14 and he's 19. i dont mind the age difference at all. i'm mature enough to be way older than my age (hence the fact i have 19, 17, and 21 year old friends)
he thinks i'm cute, funny and "weird... in a good way"
but PROBLEM ALERT: my friend like him. BEFORE i did. but.. she dumped him. she likes a whole bunch of guys, and sees him as a prize.. not a person, and she says she still likes him.
i love him (i think) and want him to be happy.
but telling him... i dont know if it will make him happy or just confuse him even more ( he has a lot of things on his mind) |
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Posted: Sat Dec 05, 2009 7:13 am
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Posted: Sat Dec 05, 2009 7:20 am
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.Vindicated.Of.Sanity. What's the best way to admit your feelings to a guy without like, completely scaring him off...?
He's my best guy-friend on the entire face of the planet, and he makes me feel so amazing and loved, he's just... my sunshine. But I have absolutely no idea if he likes me like that, or just as a friend, and I just can't keep this to myself, I need to tell him. But I don't want to freak him out. Hahaha~
We girls can never fully tell how a guy is going to react to a confession of affection. I remember one time, I liked a guy named Richard. And all of our friends said we would make a great couple. So one morning I pulled him to the side and told him how our friends thought. I was trembling like a leaf, praying that he had even the smallest spark of liking towards me.
He laughed. Called our friends insane. He liked me as a friend, and nothing more. Yes, my heart was broken, but what could I do? I smiled, said "Yeah, me too," I went back to the group. That night I cried my heart out. But when Richard came to my wedding, he was the most fun, and my husband thinks he's a rocking guy. Does my heart still hurt, even a decade later? Yeah. But having him as a friend is still precious to me.
[/rant] Sorry about that. From my opinion and personal experience, the best thing to do, if you want to keep him as a friend, is set up a similar situation, or just don't bring it up. If you have to tell him, make sure it seems joking, or just in passing, and then if he says no, keep it light even though your heart is broken. Make it seem like it's no big deal, and he won't have such an awkward time with it.
*hugs* Good luck. And keep me updated, okay? |
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Posted: Sat Dec 05, 2009 7:27 am
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PreciosaAngelLatina .Vindicated.Of.Sanity. What's the best way to admit your feelings to a guy without like, completely scaring him off...?
He's my best guy-friend on the entire face of the planet, and he makes me feel so amazing and loved, he's just... my sunshine. But I have absolutely no idea if he likes me like that, or just as a friend, and I just can't keep this to myself, I need to tell him. But I don't want to freak him out. Hahaha~ i need an answer to this question 2... but mine is a tiiiny littlle bit very much more complicated. the thing is.... i'm 14 and he's 19. i dont mind the age difference at all. i'm mature enough to be way older than my age (hence the fact i have 19, 17, and 21 year old friends) he thinks i'm cute, funny and "weird... in a good way" but PROBLEM ALERT: my friend like him. BEFORE i did. but.. she dumped him. she likes a whole bunch of guys, and sees him as a prize.. not a person, and she says she still likes him. i love him (i think) and want him to be happy. but telling him... i dont know if it will make him happy or just confuse him even more ( he has a lot of things on his mind)
Your story is a little different, yes, so I've got different advice for you. I'm not going to account age into this, because it's such a massive age gap until I can't really wrap my head around it. I pray it doesn't get in the way for you two! <3
Talk to your friend. If she's a decent friend, she'll move out of the way for you. If she has already dumped him, he's fair game, in my book.
And the sign that I think everything will be okay, no matter what he says is that you want him to be happy. Just keep that goal in mind, and your heart will soar.
So how to approach telling him you like him? Call him up! Talk to him a while! And then tell him you want to hang out and go for dinner or something. (Make sure you have some cash to pay for it, just in case. Nowadays the asker pays for the meal, but if he's a gentleman, he won't let you pay for it.) When it's just you and him together, and you feel like it's about to explode from your chest, tell him gently, "I know you've got a lot on your plate, and drama from your ex/my friend, but your friendship means the world to me. And, I'm pretty sure that there's more to it than that for me. I like you."
And then wait for a response. He could do anything from admitting that he likes you too, or storming out of the restaurant. Be prepared! And make sure to have a lot of tissues handy in your purse. *hugs* I want you to keep me updated, too! |
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Posted: Sat Dec 05, 2009 7:28 am
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Posted: Sat Dec 05, 2009 8:36 am
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Posted: Sat Dec 05, 2009 8:47 am
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Posted: Sat Dec 05, 2009 9:29 am
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Posted: Sat Dec 05, 2009 9:33 am
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Posted: Sat Dec 05, 2009 10:32 am
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Posted: Sat Dec 05, 2009 11:23 am
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